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The Lezzys are here!

February 2, 2009 | miscellany | No Comments

Nomination for the Lezzy Awards are now open!

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I'm Sinclair Sexsmith, the kinky queer butch top behind this site. I'm an erotic educator, coach, and writer who studies literature, erotic embodiment, kink, BDSM, leather, and queer, trans, and feminist theory. I prefer the pronouns they and them.

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  This feeling: I just can’t bring myself to tell the braided knot of muscle in my chest that it ha...
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  ... Um. Right. You are right, I absolutely mis-spoke in that sentence and it was completely out of l...
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- BUTCH At the Lexington Club Thursday, November 21, 2013
- Butch: Not Like the Other Girls Thursday, October 24, 2013
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- Sinclair named one of the Top 10 Sex Bloggers of 2013 by LittleHussy.com Thursday, September 26, 2013
- Sinclair is #44 of the Top 100 Most Stylish DapperQs Tuesday, July 30, 2013
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- Deep, So Deep Saturday, November 30, 2013
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