box of darkness
Posted on August 18, 2008 in poetry | 5 Comments
The Uses of Sorrow
(In my sleep I dreamed this poem)
Someone I loved once gave me a
box full of darkness.
It took me years to understand
that this, too, was a gift.
Mary Oliver
from Thirst
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