Posts Tagged ‘gender’

On Butch Eyebrows: waxed or natural?

03/31/2009  |  13 Comments

That's the question I posed to the hive mind an hour ago. And like all terribly important dilemma questions, I... more

Pumping: How to Grow a Dick

03/11/2009  |  8 Comments

Pumping is most well-known, probably, for endless spam emails: Make her feel your Wang! Make Your Meat-Stick Massive! Give Her Real Lovefest! Turns out, the more you engorge your cis-cock with blood, the bigger it becomes. Similar to working a muscle, I suppose - this is the way you work that particular muscle. And about two years ago now I heard from a friend that clit pumping was all the rage at a particular trans conference they had attended. Reeeeeally, I asked. How does that work?more

Cock Confidence and the KinkForAll Conference

03/11/2009  |  4 Comments

I did my own presentation as well, and at the last minute called it COCK CONFIDENCE in a butch/femme context. I had some notes, but was also not feeling very well, and twenty minutes goes by so fast!, so I had a lot more to say about the subject that I didn't get to. Here goes.more

On Butches: Coming Inside

03/05/2009  |  20 Comments

The truth is, it's embarrassing, really, to come while strapped on and fucking. The amount I have to let go and risk is sometimes too much for my heart to open up. It isn't fair to say that she doesn't have to do the same amount of risk and letting go when I throw her down onto the bed, shove my hand between her legs, push my fingers inside until she's screaming and thrashing under my forearm holding her down. But it's different, isn't it? more

Gendered Sources of Physical Power: Beauty vs Strength

02/15/2009  |  12 Comments

I don't know exactly where I first heard it, but somewhere I read once: men want to feel powerful, and... more

Feminist Carnival of Sexual Freedom & Autonomy #15

01/27/2009  |  11 Comments

Welcome to the 15th Feminist Carnival of Sexual Freedom & Autonomy! I'm your host, Monsieur du Sexsmith, as we wander around the sex, feminist, queer, and gender blogospheres to bring you some amazing reading, writing, introspection, self-reflection, and inspiration on the subjects of sexual freedom and sexual autonomy.more

Sexual Autonomy & Freedom

01/23/2009  |  15 Comments

Written for the 15th Feminist Carnival of Sexual Freedom & Autonomy. Thoughts in response and reflection to my own call... more

Define: “butch in the streets, femme in the sheets”

12/26/2008  |  20 Comments

I ran across the phrase "butch in the streets, femme in the sheets" (again) the other day, and it bothered me (again, still). So I started thinking: It generally means - and correct me if I'm wrong - that this supposed "butch in the streets," once taken to bed, liked to or wanted to get fucked. This is operating on an identity alignment assumption: that butches are tops.more

Define: Identity Alignment Assumptions

12/02/2008  |  17 Comments

An identity alignment assumption is the assumption that one's identity categories align with what is either a stereotype or a dominant compulsory cultural norm. more

Bring it on: Ongoing call for Queer Eye Candy

11/06/2008  |  2 Comments

Let's have it, folks. Email photos of your beautiful genderqueer selves to queereyecandy@gmail.com or add your photos to the Queer... more