The Femme Conference 2010: No Restrictions in Oakland is two weeks away! And in honor, Sugarbutch is counting down to the Femme Conference, featuring some important femme books that I highly recommend if you haven’t read them already. Femme is part of an ever-evolving, big, knowable lineage, and if you love this identity in any [...]
Posts Tagged ‘gender’
“There’s a Man in the Woman’s Room NOT” by Kelli Dunham
I can’t resist posting this. Kelli Dunham, comic, former nun, friend of mine, and nerd extraordinaire, posed a question on her Facebook page about what genderqueer folks do when needing to pee at Penn Station: go into the woman’s room, and get yelled at? Or brave the men’s room’s grime and row of urinals? In [...]
Review: Lesbian Cowboys (Book)
“‘Cowboy’ is a calling, a vocation, not a gender,” starts the book Lesbian Cowboys: Erotic Adventures by Sacchi Green and Rakelle Valencia, published by Cleis Press. And the first review of it I saw online (which now of course I can’t find) said, “This book has nothing to do with gender.” But of course, I [...]
Review: Deluxe Packing Pouch
“Excuse me, could you pass me my penis?” This is something NOBODY wants to say, especially not in a men’s bathroom, especially not in a women’s bathroom, especially not in ANY bathroom to any stranger whatsoever. And if you, like me, have used those lovely cute little soft packers to have that extra weight and [...]
The Great LGBTQ Photo Show Opens Next Week
The Great LGBTQ Photo Show June 16th to July 10th, 2010 Opening reception Tuesday June 15th, 6-8pm Leslie Lohman Gallery 26 Wooster St (btwn Canal/Grand) in New York City This exhibition features works by, among 80 international photographers, Velvetpark’s Editor in Chief Grace Moon and Sophia Wallace.
On Femme Invisibility
G at “Can I Help You, Sir?” asked about femme invisibility recently, and the topic has gone around the gender/queer blogs a bit, with some great posts and thoughts. First, and probably most obviously: I am not femme. So I am writing from a perspective of having dated and known many femmes in my life, [...]
Bent Mentor Showcase in Seattle
If you live in Seattle, don’t miss the Mentor Showcase at Bent: A Writing Institute. I studied at Bent for almost six years, when I lived in Seattle and was going to college at the University of Washington getting degrees in both Creative Writing and Social Change. I have been quoted saying that Bent taught [...]
Bucking the System: Buck Angel Q&A
Buck Angel, the FTM transsexual porn star known as “the man with the vagina” (who has given his permission to be included in the Top Hot Butches list as #62), has started a new show called BUCKING THE SYSTEM where he is taking all sorts of gender and sexuality questions. The video is also interpreted [...]




























