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I can’t resist. I don’t go much for celebreality but I remember watching Ellen’s old sitcom, I remember what a big deal it was when she came out, I love that she’s got her own daytime show now. We need images, ya know? We need representations of ourselves.
(Also, I’m still a bit obsessed with Josh Radin. I even dragged the Muse to see him perform last month. I can’t believe they flew him in to perform that song, it was so lovely.)
Okay, you are now returned to your regularly scheduled Sugarbutch Chronicles.
July’s masthead came from a reader who mentioned in passing that I’m (temporarily, at least) on her list of celebrity five. Yes, that is my handwriting, and my fingers, and a carefully chosen pen from my slightly obsessive pen collection.
It’s actually pretty hard to come up with a list of butches … most of those who Penny, Muse, Lee, & I brainstormed were musicians rather than actresses, seems there’s more of us in the music scene.
In case you can’t quite see it clearly, the list above reads:
Hopefully it’s clear that I don’t know if these folks necessarily classify themselves as butch, but they are in the female masculinity section of the gender galaxy, so they made this list.
I’m told that this originated with perhaps a Seinfeld episode, but I can’t seem to find a link to that (youtube, anybody?). What I did find, in going through some old journals of mine, is a link to dooce’s post on this once upon a time, and my own (old!) List of Five.
I decided it needed updating. It included. Here’s what I came up with as of today:
Cynthia Nixon has sent a message to us gay women: learn the facts & take control of your breast health.
Don’t forget those breast exams too - they say it’s so important to detect cancer early. (Doesn’t it feel sometimes like it’s not whether or not you will ever get cancer, but when, and how early you will find it? Sometimes I feel like we live in a scary time, when we’re so susceptible to such mutations of our bodies.) So don’t forget to do those breast exams, your own, your girlfriend’s, your lovers, your fuckbuddy, your booty call … I do find it’s best if you ask first. Just sayin’.
I'm Sinclair Sexsmith, a chivalrous kinky writer, queer butch top, and feminist sex educator in New York City.
Turn ons: femme girls, strappy sandals, fishnets & garter belts, accessories in general (belts, glasses, bags, shoes), submission, blow jobs, intellectual curiosity, packing, avocados, dark chocolate, acoustic folk music, literary & gender theory, whiskey, the perfect pen. Turn offs: chick lit, pop music, cheap beer, apathy, complacency, chewing gum, fingernails, celebreality.
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