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Lust Demon on The first week in Juneau and the Northern Exposure kink conference in Anchorage (aka this week in pictures)
Nice collections of natural scenery pictures!Lyn on Protected: I ran over a robin
Oh, the sound of that thud and the sickly sinking feeling in the pit of my stomach; I know that, too...Kyle on Protected: I ran over a robin
As has happened so many times when reading your posts, I am silently saying (me, too). Yes, it stil...Kelley O on Northern Exposure Kink Conference in Anchorage, AK! And: Judging the International Ms. Leather Contest
I miss the Midnight Sun, especially up in Fairbanks where I grew up. Down here in NC, it just isn't ...e on Protected: I ran over a robin
Things come up and come back. Things long buried or long since dealt with. They come back and pres...
- “Evolution Has Nothing to Do With It,” Open Relationship Mini Interview with Charlie Glickman picked up by the Stranger’s Slog Friday, January 11, 2013
- “What if you shut down or feel detached during intercourse?” Advice on What They Are Asking Tuesday, December 4, 2012
- The Three Minute Game on Good Vibes Magazine Wednesday, November 7, 2012
- Dirty Filthy Nasty on Good Vibes Magazine Thursday, November 1, 2012
- “How do I share my porn preferences with my long time girlfriend?” Video on What They Are Asking Wednesday, October 17, 2012
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- The Good, Bad, and the Hella Pretty Wednesday, June 12, 2013
- The Obstacle is the Path Wednesday, May 22, 2013
- ‘tsundoku’ - the Japanese word for buying books... Tuesday, May 21, 2013
- White Privilege: Unpacking the Invisible Knapsack Sunday, May 19, 2013
- Useless Sunday, May 19, 2013
Happy 29th Birthday, Kristen
Kristen turned 29 years old yesterday.
We both attended a Body Electric workshop over the weekend—I’m completely wiped and Kristen is energized and tender, so we kept it pretty low-key. We had a very small gathering of a few folks over for cupcakes and champagne and fancy cheese, Kristen received a few sweet gifts, and generally enjoyed ourselves and each other’s company.
There’s a love letter coming, but meanwhile, I want to say happy birthday to my amazing girlfriend. I love that we get to explore and experiment together, and I feel so lucky to have found someone so willing to love well, work well, and grow well with me.
I love you Kristen, thank you for sharing these beautiful years of your life with me. I wish you big dreams and explosions and fireworks in your 30th year around the sun, and I’m so excited that I get to be there with you, here and beyond.