Posts Tagged ‘breakup’

Protected: Making Peace #6

September 2, 2013  |  journal entries  |  Enter your password to view comments.

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what happened with Penny

July 30, 2008  |  journal entries  |  No Comments

We split up; we ended things a little more than two weeks ago.

It’s more complicated than that, but I’m not going to go into it here, for a few reasons. She could be reading, she knows I run this place, so I won’t be writing things here that I wouldn’t say – or haven’t already said – to her directly.

I respect Penny; I think she’s wonderful and there were many great things about dating her. This is probably the most sane breakup I’ve had in years, and I’m grateful to her for that – likewise, it was probably the most sane relationship (and, duh, as you know, some of the best sex, too).

I’m working through unraveling my understanding of what’s happened, my responsibility, my part in things. This ending – this whole relationship interaction – has shed some new light on my own ongoing story, pulled on old wounds, brought up some new ideas, and I am spending time exploring them, writing about them privately. I do miss having this place as a space in which to do that, because a lot of you readers have been following my relationship adventures for the last two years, and a lot of you know a whole lot about where I’ve come from, how things have been for me, what I struggle with, and my conversations with readers via comments are often very illuminating.

My understanding (so far) is that we wanted different things from each other and out of a relationship. It does feel like a loss, I’m sad about losing the things that were beautiful. But sometimes it’s just not a match, I guess.

Protected: “I’ve seen you do that.”

April 2, 2008  |  poetry  |  Enter your password to view comments.

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Protected: depth of variation

March 31, 2008  |  journal entries  |  Enter your password to view comments.

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Protected: tendencies

February 29, 2008  |  journal entries  |  Enter your password to view comments.

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Protected: why I can’t ask her to change

October 26, 2007  |  journal entries  |  Enter your password to view comments.

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oh so misunderstood

July 27, 2007  |  journal entries  |  1 Comment

Because I was worried that my comment on “only a broken heart” would be misunderstood, and because it was, I am reposting here a comment I made on that last post:

I’m not saying “only a broken heart” in order to dismiss it, or to belittle it, or to make it mean less, or to diminish the experience. yes, of course, a broken heart is a big fucken deal (I mean, obviously – probably the most traumatic thing we humans go through, aside from death & trauma).

but what I’m saying is this: I have been struggling for quite some time with the elaborate, complex emotions, feelings, resentment, hurt, pain – all that crap – and I’ve been struggling, forcing it, really, to mean something cosmic and soul-deep and all-consuming and infinite.

but really, it’s just a broken heart.

see what I’m saying? now, that is NOT to say that I don’t think there are bits of the cosmos, the soul-deep, the all-consuming inside of a broken heart. I do.

but what I’m doing is naming this experience. putting it into a little box called “broken heart” and closing the lid and putting it on the shelf. it’s only a broken heart. that’s all this is. I’ve wounded; I will heal.

Protected: things will be different later

September 11, 2006  |  journal entries  |  Enter your password to view comments.

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Protected: falling falling falling through

August 29, 2006  |  journal entries  |  Enter your password to view comments.

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Protected: have patience with everything unresolved in your heart

August 20, 2006  |  journal entries  |  Enter your password to view comments.

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