Hey! I’m Sinclair. This is Sugarbutch.
I’m a feminist dominant, identity theorist, strap-on expert, and poet.
Sugarbutch is my personal online writing project.
Here you will find writings from my personal and professional musings since 2006.
This site chronicles my process of leaving a “bed death” relationship, coming to a butch top identity; dating femmes and the butch/femme culture; coming in to my own cock confidence; evolving into a deeper dominance and increasing interest in power dynamics; spirit, energy, and embodiment; teaching and traveling to facilitate workshops; and, since 2013, settling in San Francisco Bay Area’s Oakland.
Sugarbutch is my full-time job. I write here on Sugarbutch, elsewhere online, and sometimes my stories and essays are in books, I travel in the spring and fall to teach workshops all over the US, and I meet one-on-one with people to help them through their own sexuality experiments and gender puzzles.
I like the pronouns they, them, theirs, themself when referring to me in the third person.
Here’s some recent writing to get you started.
For a little more than three years, I’ve been using they/them/theirs/themself pronouns. Notice that I’m avoiding saying that I “prefer”... more
I read so many things about queer folks and trans folks and genderqueer folks about dating and sex and how... more