e[lust] #27 includes “Strapping On for the First Time”
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Queering Power Dynamics Workshop in Seattle Tonight!
Hello! I am rushing around but I gotta tell you that I have a big workshop in Seattle tonight. Hope you might make it! Date:…
Ask Me Anything: Does Your Family Read Your Blog?
Monday asked: You get really emotionally and sexually candid (even graphic) in some of your writing. I’m wondering if any member of your or Kristen’s…
Ask Me Anything: My Favorite Smut
Meredith asked: I’m excited for the anthology and your turn at editing. I’ve read some of your other published pieces and of course this blog…
I’ve returned from the Midwest!
And along with myself, I’ve brought some jam from Lucille’s Kitchen Garden, thanks to Lori‘s suggestion. I am devouring the garlic pepper version right now…
“Doing to me just what sugar does:” k.d. lang in New York City
Kristen and I lucked out and got tickets to see k.d. lang and the Siss Boom Bang at Le Poisson Rouge last Thursday night. I…
“It’s All Butch” 2011 Calendar
Photographer Debbie Boud has put together a 2011 calendar featuring butch pin-up photos, It’s All Butch. Says Debbie: “The It’s all Butch calendar came about…
Good Girl, Bad Girl (Part Two)
WARNING: This story contains Daddy/girl play (and dirty talk). Read Part I. Part II. She is a bad girl. There is very specific protocol if…
Happy Birthday, Shine! And Recommendations For the Best Queer Porn
Purely for fun, and because a little birdie told me it’s Shine’s birthday today, here’s some of my favorite Crash Pad Series episodes. I’ve said this…
What Workshops Would You Like To See Me Teach?
My spring schedule is coming together, I’ve been talking to maybe a dozen different places and continuing to keep up my contacts as I plan…
Things To Keep You Busy (While I’m Still Writing)
I’ve been trying to do this new format of my upcoming events by just having one post that gets updated that stays at the top…
So, Hi. I’m Back.
January is over, so my official hiatus is through. I had a very particular writing schedule for myself in January (that if I was being…
Review: X-Harness
The first time I tried on a chest harness was at a leather festival. I put it on over my tank top and quickly admired…
Good Girl, Bad Girl (Part One)
WARNING: This story contains Daddy/girl play (and dirty talk). Read part two here. Part I. Sometimes, I am a Bad Daddy: I hate it. I…
Kestryl Cael Lowery: Butch Mini-Interview
“I didn’t learn what ‘butch’ was until I had been out for several years. It was the same summer I got my first motorcycle jacket, and a lover asked if I had read ‘Stone Butch Blues.’ “
Anniversary Cufflinks
These are the “sugar daddy” cufflinks Kristen gave me, which I will most definitely be wearing at Sideshow tonight!
Friday Reads: Sometimes She Lets Me: Best Butch/Femme Erotica
In keeping with the tradition I started this summer, featuring a butch or femme book on Fridays to countdown to the Femme Conference and then…
Boxers Off! An Evening of Butch Burlesque in NYC
I’m going to be out of town … so you all better go for me! Boxers Off! An Evening of Butch Burlesque a fundraiser for…
The Ongoing Quest to be Sexually Fulfilled
That’s where that whole online writing project (aka blog) of mine started, really: in an attempt to write myself into a better sex life, and…
On Masculinity, Mine
From the Ask Me Anything questions from Sugarbutch’s 4th anniversary: I’m interested to know how you feel your masculinity and your perceptions of masculinity have…
Waking Up
I love waking up with Kristen. For one, she usually sleeps naked. I still sleep lightly with someone else in my bed, and often wake…
Review: Please, Sir (Book) & Book Tour
Please, Sir edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel, arrived in my mailbox a few weeks ago and I was thrilled to see it. Right away I…
Red Stilettos From Desire
“The gorgeous red stilettos that Daddy brought home to me. She loves to see me in my business skirt suits coming home from work with…
eLust #10: Weekly Sexblog Roundup
Welcome to e[lust] – The 10th edition! Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking…
Books That Changed My Life
Back when Sugarbutch was a little baby new blog (did you know it will turn 4 in April?!), I used to write a Sunday Scribblings…
Desperation & Dominance
“Want to know what I was thinking about when I got off yesterday?” she asks. We’re lying in bed, tangled limbs and sheets, a little…
New Book! Sometimes She Lets Me: Best Butch Femme Erotica
Sometimes She Lets Me: Best Butch Femme Erotica Edited by Tristan Taormino is due out February 16th, and I have a story in it! (I believe…
Year In Review On Sugarbutch: 2009
Remember when I used to do monthly roundup posts? I only did the first three months of 2009, which I actually kind of miss. Perhaps…
My Evolving Masculinity, Part Four: Personal
See also: Part One, Introduction, Part Two, Yin & Yang, and Part Three: “Daddy” I started this series in the summer, nearly six months ago…
Year One With Kristen (Happy Anniversary)
Today, December 13th, marks the anniversary of my first date with Kristen. I didn’t actually tell the story of how we met, so here’s a…
Review: The Crash Pad Series: Volume 5 (DVD)
Another quick little DVD review, this one of The Crash Pad Series: Volume 5 which is just now released by Blowfish. It is no secret…
My Evolving Masculinity, Part Two: Yin & Yang
Part Two in a series of five. See also: Part One, Introduction Beyond the Concepts of Yin & Yang I was introduced to many new…
What’s On My Mind
You in stockings and a garter, pussy bare, black bra, your lips and eyes darkened. Heels strapped around your ankles that I take off, or…
Some other announcements
A little bit of a round-up post about things that you might be interested in … though I’ve been a little bit offline and not…
Reading on Monday 6/8 in NYC – Carol’s in town!
I’ll be doing a reading – by which I mean, I’ll be reading, in person, some smut that I wrote – this coming Monday, and…
Review: Crash Pad 4 (DVD)
“This is another unmissable installment of the finest feminist lesbian porn series around.” First, I have to confess, I have completely misplaced the Crash Pad…
Personal favorites, and more answers
More answers to questions (from bzzzzgrrrl of City Mouse Country). What’s your favorite bit of smut you’ve written in the last three years? The Sugarbutch…
What do you call your butch?
Specifically, when she’s a top, what do you call her in bed? Sir? Daddy? Master? Boi? If she’s a bottom, what do you call her?…
Feminist Carnival of Sexual Freedom & Autonomy #15
Welcome to the 15th Feminist Carnival of Sexual Freedom & Autonomy! I’m your host, Monsieur du Sexsmith, as we wander around the sex, feminist, queer, and gender blogospheres to bring you some amazing reading, writing, introspection, self-reflection, and inspiration on the subjects of sexual freedom and sexual autonomy.
Holiday Ideas for Butches
I know it’s a bit late for this, but here’s five (fairly traditional) ideas for the masculine-leaning butches and bois and boys and transfolks in…
Because everyone should have the right to be awesome
(via Lesbian Dad)
Submissive Impulses & Why I Heart Sadists, Guest Post by muse
This guest post comes from Muse, as part of a response to my post on The Sadistic Impulse. She adds this PS: “The quote in…
The Houseboy’s Rebellion
For Datedyke, because she asked me for this story, with thanks for reading the early draft and commenting things like “Make my character more mean,”…
your love will not be light and gay
Thanks for all the lovely comments on those last few posts; I have plenty to say about this crush, this long-distance romance, the desires of…
under my radar
My bottom lip is still tender from where she bit just a little too hard. My inner left thigh has three perfect bruises in rings…
Things that happened Thursday:
I got a replacement copy of The Leather Daddy and the Femme and read the first few chapters on the subway. The writing is smooth,…
a few recommendations
Well, it’s Saturday morning, and I am partaking in my recent Saturday morning ritual, which includes listening to Dan Savage’s Podcast of his sex advice…
sugasm #88
The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. … This Week’s Picks:Kinky To Vanilla One For The Guys When A Client…