Hey! I’m Sinclair. Welcome to Sugarbutch Chronicles
This is the personal online writing project of Sinclair Sexsmith, strap-on expert, feminist dominant, identity theorist, and poet.
Here you will find writings from my personal and professional musings since 2006. This site chronicles my process of leaving a “bed death” relationship, coming to a butch top identity, dating femmes and the butch/femme culture, coming in to my own cock confidence, evolving into a deeper dominance and increasing interest in power dynamics, and most recently moving from New York City to the San Francisco Bay Area’s Oakland.
Currently, I travel in the spring and fall to teach workshops all over the US, I write here on Sugarbutch and elsewhere, and I meet one-on-one with people to help them through their own sexuality experiments and gender puzzles.
Here’s some recent writing to get you started.
Another piece from the archives of my correspondence and courtship with rife. There is some force play, rough blow jobs,... more
From one of the early dates with the boy. The story contains some sensual knife play. This is how it began. Two... more
“I know I’m submissive. But where do I start?” aka “I just read Fifty Shades of Grey and I want THAT.”
1. Read a fucking book Read fiction, sure—Carrie's Story, The Marketplace series, Mr. Benson, The Leather Daddy and the Femme (these are... more
Welcome to the kink worlds of BDSM and reclaimed sluttiness and sex toys! I see you there in the wings,... more
This question comes from Marie: "My partner and I have come to a difficult place in our relationship. I have long... more
Dear Mr. Sexsmith, I am a strong, opinionated, sometimes bossy, lesbian. I have a huge passion for the empowerment, education... more