Novellas
For six months in 2015, Sugarbutch published interconnected stories with the same characters in an arc. At the end of the month, the stories were…
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Queer Masculinity in Porn: Heavenly Spire, Stepfather’s Secret, & More
Weekly, rife and I have a private little ritual on Saturday mornings where we make pancakes and watch porn. I’m not sure exactly how it…
The Four Stages of Topping
When I started topping, I was self-conscious, nervous, easily crushed, and full of bravado and swagger. (I’d like to think that all of that was…
Say Please: Lesbian BDSM Erotica
Paperback: 232 pages April 17, 2012 ISBN: 1573447854 Lesbian Erotica, BDSM, Fiction: LGBTQ © 2012 Cleis Press “These stories weren’t gentle sweet sixty-nine and cooing….
Is psychological kink play “healthy”?
Recently, I’ve noticed quite a few questions—both in the Submissive Playground course and in the Ask Me Anything box—concerning kink, trauma, and wellness, particularly about…
I need you to take a little more for me.
Content warning: This story contains bondage and Daddy/boy language, with some language around force and ownership. Read it at your own risk/pleasure. “Be good, and…
Policies
Comments I love talking to people about my thoughts and my writing, and blogging is an excellent format to foster conversation. So I welcome comments,…
“I know I’m submissive. But where do I start?” aka “I just read Fifty Shades of Grey and I want THAT.”
1. Read a fucking book Read fiction, sure—Carrie’s Story, The Marketplace series, Mr. Benson, The Leather Daddy and the Femme (these are some of my personal…
A Little Note About Father’s Day
My dad died a little more than two years ago, suddenly, of a heart attack. He was 60, and not in perfect health, but I…
Submissive Playground Winner!
Announcing: The winner of the Submissive Playground giveaway for the summer session is: Yasha! Thanks to all of you who wrote notes and about your…
Ask Mr. Sexsmith: I struggle with my feminist beliefs and my bedroom preferences … help!
Dear Mr. Sexsmith, I am a strong, opinionated, sometimes bossy, lesbian. I have a huge passion for the empowerment, education and advocacy of women. I…
March Book Roundup: Sex, sex, and more sex
It’s been a review and work month for books, but I’m still eager to keep finding those titles that are breezy-easy reads, that engage me…
How I make my boy do the dishes
We’ve been working on discipline and service over in the Submissive Playground course, so I’ve been thinking a lot about both. Earlier this week, rife…
The Great Reader Mini-Interview, Part Eight: Creating an Active Fantasy Life, It’s Okay to Be Butch, and “You’re Fucking Gay”
And thus concludes the Great Reader Mini Interview series of 2013! Thank you, everyone, for your comments and engagement and ideas. I have loved reading…
Resiliance and Rebuilding: 2013 in Books, Music, and Writings
Top Writings on Sugarbutch from 2013 In order, from most read to least, these are the writings on Sugarbutch from 2013. Which were your favorites?…
The Great Reader Mini-Interview, Part Seven: The Journey, Smut, and Black Tee Shirts
What’s your relationship with sugarbutch.net and Sinclair? What advice would you give your younger self about sex, gender, or relationships? What one resource has had…
Masocast podcast features … me! Also: Fancy Package on #subplay!
I’ve been spending most of my time lately working on Submissive Playground. It’s kind of shocking to me how much time it’s taking to set…
eLust #53 includes my “Pick a Hole. You Know What Happens Next.”
In addition to another edition of eLust, you can also take a look at the top 100 sex blogs of 2013 if you need some…
Gender, Poetry, and Smut: Current Recommended Reads
I have stacks of books on my lists to tell y’all about, and so many other things to write to you about that I often…
Why Lesbian Erotica is Activism
Introduction to Best Lesbian Erotica 2012 I know what I want. I knew exactly what I was looking for when I read the submitted stories…
Five Blow Jobs
I. After the workshop. I haven’t had enough of you (will I ever get enough of you) and strip you bare, glove my hand, slide…
Dominance & Power with Responsibility
As I’ve been exploring deeper into power theory, like D/s and M/s, and as I’ve been trying to understand how my relationship with Kristen went…
Curfew (Excerpt)
In early May, I posted a request for donations to help me get on my feet and keep me writing, and promised a special smut…
Whatever I tell you to do
Before the door is even all the way open, I’m on you, slamming your upper back against the wall in the hallway. I’d been waiting…
“Let Them:” A Request To Help Keep Me Writing
TL;DR version: This is a request for financial help. Donate some cash to me, if you can, to keep enabling me to pay my bills…
Open Relationship Mini Interview with Sassafras Lowrey: “I live the queer life I’ve always dreamed of”
Sinclair’s note: This concludes the open relationship mini interview series! I’m debating if I should do more of these mini-interviews, and I might. I’m thinking…
Where I’ll Be in Spring 2013: Leaving Marks, Fucking Forever, and Other Workshops in Toronto, Seattle, New York, and More
Greetings from Texas! I’m back in Houston visiting Rife, and I’m booking working traveling emailing and trying to get my next few months of spring…
One Year with Rife
There have been so many things going on with Kristen for the last few months, and I’ve been doing so much traveling, that I haven’t…
My Dirty Sexy Queer Writer Recommendations
I was interviewed for Time Out NY recently (along with Rachel Kramer Bussel and Rachel Rabbit White and some other folks) about my favorite sex…
Dirty Queer Sex Tour: Toronto on October 9th at Glad Day Bookshop
You are invited to … A night of DIRTY QUEER SEX! Tuesday, October 9th, 8pm Glad Day Bookshop 598 Yonge St, Toronto, Ontario M4Y1Z3 RSVP…
Back on the Road … 2012-2013 Workshops and Travels: Booking Now!
It’s that time again! The kids are back to school, and I’m back on the road. Okay, so I never really stopped being on the…
Dirty Filthy Nasty
This story contains Daddy/girl language, rough sex, and lots of body fluids. This has been your trigger warning. “Will you pause it for a minute?…
Erotic Embodiment, Feminist Kink Workshops, Books to Read, and More New Things This Fall
Hello! The summer has flown by and I have barely updated this place. I have been traveling tons since March, if you’ve been keeping up…
The Three Minute Game
Warning: This story contains some references to Daddy/girl, because that is what we usually call each other while playing. The story before the cut is…
The Harder She Comes edited by DL King (Book)
I’m part of the virtual blog tour for The Harder She Comes edited by DL King which just came out from Cleis Press. It’s a…
Happy 6th Anniversary, Sugarbutch!
Sugarbutch turned 6 years old on Sunday, April 29th. It was in 2006 at a corporate office job I’d just started, after obsessively reading every…
On Non-Monogamy, Guest Post by Kristen
A piece by Kristen about our open relationship, dating other people, sex, a leather family vision, and BDSM. Follow her on Twitter @kitchentop. You know…
Say Please is Officially Released!
Today is the official release date for Say Please: Lesbian BDSM Erotica! Between a few Amazon reviews and various folks on the virtual tour, there…
What’s Happening in March
March was supposed to be a low-key at-home month, where I could focus on a couple of new projects that I’ve been hoping to finish…
What’s Happening In February
Everything. Everything is happening in February. I hope you are excited to come out and see me, because I am going to be everywhere doing…
A Hot Ride: Lovesong Playlist for Kristen
So I’m one of those people that makes a lot of mixes. It used to be mixed tapes (where I’d elaborately write all the tracks…
I Confess: Favorite Music from 2011
This week, my horoscope said: “You are likely to thrive to the degree that you precisely identify and vigorously harness your obsessions. Please note I’m…
Your Favorite Sugarbutch Star Smut Story—Vote!
Once upon a time, I ran a little contest, and the “winner” got a little prize. The real point was to get me inspired to…
Handprints on the Hotel Window
Kristen and I spent the weekend in Chicago, in part to attend a concert, and in part because tomorrow, December 13th, is our third anniversary….
The Sugarbutch 2012 Holiday Gift Guide
Here it is! The sixth annual holiday gift guide for those of you who need some inspiration for the holidays. You’d be surprised how many…
I Know What I Want: Introduction to Best Lesbian Erotica 2012
BLE is here! The first copies arrived last week and we read the first and last story out loud, and of course found a few…
Mentor Series: Tara Hardy & Her New Book, Bring Down the Chandeliers
Tara Hardy has been a mentor and influence of mine since I first saw her perform in Seattle in 2000. I then went on to…
Cock Confidence, Owning Your Birthday Suit, & More Workshops in the Bay Area Next Week
I’m just starting to feel like I’ve returned from the Pulse retreat, finally, in body, mind, emotional landscape, and spirit, when now I am leaving…
I’ll Be At Dark Odyssey Summer Camp in September
Have I mentioned that I’ll be at Summer Camp this year? I’m really excited to go, I’ve heard about it for years and haven’t been…
Thinking About Bowls
… among other things. I have much to say about my experience at the erotic energy intensive, but as my heart & body & mind…