Past Events

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Date City Venue Country
11/08/14 Houston, TX Personal event United States
Time: 12:00pm.
10/12/14 Oakland, CA Queer Sphere United States
Time: 2:00pm. Leaving Marks class, with rife as the demo bottom
09/25/14 Oakland, CA Good Vibrations United States
Time: 6:30pm. Address: 3219 Lakeshore Ave. The Sexy Librarian’s Big Book of Erotica book tour! I’ll be reading a story from the book (not my story, but in my sexy voice).
09/24/14 San Francisco, CA The Center for Sex & Culture United States
Time: 6:30pm. Address: 1349 Mission St. Sex Still Spoken Here: Erotic Reading Circle Anthology release party! I’ll be reading a dirty story
09/11/14 - 09/14/14 Los Angeles, CA Catalyst Conference United States
Time: 10:00am. Catalyst Conference panel: Fascinating and Frustrating: When Your Work Becomes Your Sex Life with TT Baum, Amy Butcher, & Eve Minax
09/11/14 Los Angeles, CA JT’s Stockroom United States
Time: 7:00pm. Address: 2807 W. Sunset Blvd. Class TBA
08/21/14 San Francisco, CA Citadel United States
Time: 8:00pm. Admission: 20. Cock Confidence! Many of us have experience with strapping on, packing, and playing, but how confident are you? Need some help making those awkward moves from maybe-I’ll-strap-on to plowing? Plus, there are lots of new products out there on the market that might be exciting and that you haven’t encountered yet. Writer and sex educator Sinclair Sexsmith talks about cocks for packing and playing, which harnesses are the most loved, and which to avoid. Plus, we’ll delve into some cock confidence and cock mindfulness, positions, pegging, how the wearer can have more sensation, and more. Come get the nuts and bolts of strapping it on and fucking. More information at www.sugarbutch.net/cock-confidence Open to any sexual orientations, couples or single folks, men women genderqueers and beyond. Class from 8-10pm, doors open at 7:30pm Cost: $20 at the door, $15 in advance using PurplePass: https://www.purplepass.com/sfc08212014
08/13/14 Twitter Porn Party United States
Time: 6:00pm. Admission: $free. August 13th 6pm PST / 9pm EST Hot Movies 4 Her and me (Sinclair Sexsmith) are hosting a #pornparty on Twitter. It’s FREE, and you can tune in from anywhere in the world (though the time zones are pretty Americas-centric, sorry about that y’all). Free Porn Party August 13th: Rough Sex 2 with Sinnamon Love What is a #pornparty, you ask? Well, it’s a worldwide gathering on Twitter of folks who like feminist and queer porn. Simply tune in, press play, and then follow the hashtag #pornparty while you watch for commentary and discussion. If you want to join in, make sure you have your own Twitter account, too (and make sure it’s unlocked for the evening if you want others to see your tweets!) and tag your posts with the hashtag so we’ll all see them. More information
Tour: Body Trust
08/06/14 - 08/10/14 Bellingham, WA Portals of Pleasure United States
Time: 10:00am. co-facilitating 5-day advanced erotic embodiment retreat for women & genderqueers More information
07/01/14 online! Submissive Playground United States
Time: 12:00pm. e-course adventures for submissives everywhere!
06/13/14 - 06/15/14 Phoenix, AZ Private event United States
Time: 3:00pm. rife + I will be in Phoenix for a retreat; I’m available for sessions and events! wanna book me? booking@mrsexsmith.com
06/12/14 Phoenix, AZ Phoenix Poetry Slam United States
Time: 8:00pm. Address: Lawn Gnome bookstore. Sinclair will be a guest poet and performing a couple of poems! More information
05/20/14 The Internet OnAir Live Google Hangout United States
Time: 3:00pm. with Queerie Bradshaw in conversation with sex educators. This time, I’ll be joining Queerie and discussing the Sexual Politics of BDSM. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BN-ui_xwl6Q&feature=share&list=PLB99yZnDv8QqVGTErTTNA-mbtzGE3Dpii
05/03/14 San Francisco, CA Threshold SF United States
Time: 7:00pm. D/s Protocol workshop. Details TBA
04/24/14 - 04/27/14 San Francisco, CA International Ms. Leather United States
Time: 7:00pm. Technically in San Jose now. But it’ll always be in SF in my heart!
04/19/14 Boston, MA MOB New England United States
Time: 6:30pm. Workshop
04/06/14 Seattle, WA Private venue United States
Time: 10:00am. Admission: 120. Playing with Power! A one-day workshop in conjunction with Betty Martin’s one-day, Learning to Touch. bettymartin.org/learning-touch-playing-power
03/21/14 - 03/24/14 Saratoga Springs, CA M/s Retreat United States
Time: 7:00pm. http://www.msretreat.org … more of a personal retreat than a professional gig.
02/07/14 - 02/09/14 New Haven, CT IvyQ United States
Time: 4:00pm. IvyQ is in Princeton, NJ this year! More information
02/05/14 Portland, OR Lewis & Clark College United States
Time: 7:00pm. Fucking with Gender
12/12/13 San Francisco, CA The Center for Sex & Culture United States
Time: 7:00pm. Address: 1349 Mission St. Best Lesbian Erotica 2014 erotica release reading! details TBA
11/17/13 Seattle, WA Wild at Heart United States
Time: 7:00pm. Address: 1111 NW Leary Way. Queering Power Dynamics
11/16/13 Seattle, WA The Center for Sex Positive Culture United States
Time: 7:00pm. Address: 1602 15th Ave W. Leaving Marks
11/15/13 Seattle, WA The Center for Sex Positive Culture United States
Time: 7:00pm. Address: 1602 15th Ave W. Advanced Cock Confidence
11/14/13 Seattle, WA Wild at Heart United States
Time: 7:00pm. Address: 1111 NW Leary Way. Cock Confidence
11/13/13 New York, NY Columbia University United States
Time: 5:00pm. Spoken word performance & writing workshop, details TBA
11/06/13 San Francisco, CA Good Vibrations United States
Time: 6:30pm. Address: 1620 Polk Street. The Big Book of Orgasms erotica reading / release party! edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel, features one of my stories. & I’ll be reading with a killer lineup of folks, including BD Swain & Xan West. https://www.facebook.com/events/186231794893318/
10/21/13 New York, NY Columbia University United States
Time: 7:00pm. The Dating Toolkit workshop
10/17/13 Smithfield, RI Bryant University United States
Time: 7:00pm. Fucking with Gender workshop
10/16/13 New York, NY New York University United States
Time: 7:00pm. Best Sex Ever! workshop
10/15/13 Long Island, NY Hofstra University United States
Time: 7:00pm. Flirting Fundamentals workshop
Tour: Body Electric School
10/11/13 - 10/13/13 San Francisco, CA Outside the Boxes: Celebrating the Queer Body Erotic United States
Time: 7:00pm.
10/07/13 - 10/08/13 Claremont, CA Claremont Colleges United States
Time: 12:00pm. Writing Ourselves into Existence workshop, guest at the Queer Theory class, spoken word poetry performance
08/14/13 - 08/17/13 Oakland, CA Butch Voices United States
Time: 7:00pm. BUTCH Voices 3rd Biennial National Conference!
Tour: Body Electric School
07/24/13 - 07/28/13 Albuquerque, NM Private retreat United States
Time: 5:30pm. Annual advanced women’s retreat through the Body Electric School
07/22/13 Albuquerque, NM Self Serve Toys United States
Time: 12:00pm. Admission: 20. Address: 3904B Central Ave SE. Writing Dirty: Skills for Writing About Sex
07/21/13 Albuquerque, NM The Source United States
Time: 12:00pm. Admission: $50, no one turned away for lack of funds. Address: 1111 Carlisle Blvd SE,. https://www.facebook.com/events/257827541023803/?fref=ts How do you channel the force that drives the seedling into the sun? Come to this master workshop and begin to harvest the erotic knowledge in your body. Through experimentation, we’ll learn tools to be deeply present in our bodies, to feel the powerful connection between genitals, heart, and mind.
06/14/13 - 06/16/13 Anchorage, AK Northern Exposure United States
Time: 7:00pm. Northern Exposure conference! workshops TBA
06/13/13 Anchorage, AK Out North United States
Time: 7:00pm. Address: 3800 DeBarr Rd. Writing Dirty: Skills for Writing About Sex through Alaska Pride
05/22/13 San Francisco, CA Modern Times Bookstore United States
Time: 7:00pm. Address: 2919 24th Street. How Poetry Saved My Life: A Hustler’s Memoir reading by Amber Dawn! And I’ve been invited to participate. I’ll be reading a few poems, possibly some new ones. thrilled to be a part of it. Amber Dawn’s acclaimed first novel Sub Rosa, a darkly intoxicating fantasy about a group of magical prostitutes who band together to fend off bad johns in a fantastical underworld, won a Lambda Literary Award in 2011. While the plot of the book was wildly imaginative, it was also based on the author’s own experience as a sex worker in the 1990s and early 2000s, and on her coming out as lesbian. “How Poetry Saved My Life,” Amber Dawn’s sophomore book, reveals an even more poignant and personal landscape―the terrain of sex work, queer identity, and survivor pride. This story, told in prose and poetry, offers a frank, multifaceted portrait of the author’s experiences hustling the streets of Vancouver, and the how those years took away her self-esteem and nearly destroyed her; at the crux of this autobiographical narrative is the tender celebration of poetry and literature, which―as the title suggests―acted as a lifeline during her most pivotal moments. As raw and fiery as its author, How Poetry Saved My Life is a powerful account of survival and the transformative power of literature. More information
Tour: Body Electric School
05/17/13 - 05/19/13 New York, NY Celebrating the Body Erotic for women United States
Time: 7:00pm. http://www.thebodyelectricschool.com
05/02/13 San Francisco, CA San Francisco Public Library United States
Time: 5:30pm. Address: 100 Larkin Street. Lambda Literary Foundation award nominees reading. I’ll be reading from Cheryl B’s memoir, My Awesome Place. 5:30 pm Reception, 6:00 pm Reading. in Latino/Hispanic Meeting Room A & B at the SF Library
04/23/13 - 04/28/13 San Francisco, CA Private retreat United States
Time: 7:00pm.
04/21/13 San Francisco, CA Bawdy Storytelling United States
Time: 8:00pm.
04/18/13 - 04/21/13 San Francisco, CA International Ms. Leather United States
Time: 5:00pm.
04/10/13 - 04/11/13 Knoxville, TN University of Tennessee Knoxville United States
Time: 7:00pm. Sex week!
03/30/13 Pawtucket, RI The Center for Sexual Pleasure & Health (CSPH) United States
Time: 7:00pm. Talking Dirty: How to Let Your Tongue Go http://www.facebook.com/events/342464995865293/
03/27/13 Northhampton, MA O My! Sensuality Shop United States
Time: 7:00pm. Address: 122 Main St. Cock Confidence workshop
03/26/13 Northampton, MA Smith College United States
Time: 7:00pm. workshop TBA
03/14/13 Madison, WI UW Madison United States
Time: 7:00pm. Fucking with Gender workshop
03/07/13 Sarasota, FL New College of Florida United States
Time: 7:00pm. Fucking With Gender & another small workshop
Tour: Body Electric School
03/01/13 - 03/03/13 Philadelphia, PA Outside the Boxes: Celebrating the Queer Body Erotic United States
Time: 5:30pm.
02/19/13 Williamsberg, VA William & Mary College United States
Time: 7:00pm. Fucking with Gender workshop
02/15/13 - 02/18/13 Washington, DC Dark Odyssey: Winter Fire United States
Time: 10:00am. Presenting workshops + events at this leather retreat.
02/14/13 Washington, DC American University United States
Time: 5:30pm. 50 Shades of Grey literature class guest speaker
02/12/13 Washington, DC Georgetown University United States
Time: 7:00pm. gender workshop with GU Pride
02/07/13 - 02/10/13 New Haven, CT IvyQ United States
Time: 5:30pm. IvyQ 2013: the Fourth Annual Ivy League LGBTQ Conference at Yale University
Tour: Body Electric School
01/25/13 - 01/27/13 Albany, NY Private retreat United States
Time: 5:30pm. Celebrating the Body Erotic level II through the Body Electric School
01/20/13 Seattle, WA Wild at Heart United States
Time: 7:00pm. Admission: $20/Individual, $30/Pair, $40/Triad. Address: 1111 NW Leary Way. Leaving marks is one of Sinclair Sexsmith’s favorite things. Marking a submissive or bottom can be a strong bonding practice that enhances your power dynamics and deepens your connection. A mark on someone’s body be it temporary or permanentcan lead to a feeling of possession and power, of vulnerability and ownership. Come to this exploratory, interactive demonstration and see some examples of leaving marks on your partner. We’ll explore leaving bruises through biting, punching, and other percussion implements; permanent marks like piercings, tattoos, cuttings, and brands; and temporary options like permanent markers and body hair. This workshop is open to all regardless of gender, orientation, or relationship status.
01/18/13 Seattle, WA The Center for Sex Positive Culture United States
Time: 7:00pm. Address: 1602 15th Ave W. Talking Dirty workshop, before the queer & trans & women’s play party
01/17/13 Seattle, WA Wild at Heart United States
Time: 8:00pm. Admission: $20/Individual. $30/Pair. $40/Triad. Address: 1111 NW Leary Way. Advanced Strap-On Skills: Know how to strap on? Great! Are you looking to increase sensation for yourself and your partner? How can you enhance sensation, both as the giver and the receiver? What size is your cock, and what size should it be? What positions work best for what outcome? How can you get the most out of your harness and toys? Join us for a “harness-on” workshop where you’ll get to strap it on and try out tips, techniques, and learn new skills for strapping it on. We ask that you bring a harness and toy which you would like to work with. Don’t have one? Stop by ahead of class and we’ll help get you set up in style. This workshop is open to all regardless of gender, orientation, or relationship status.
01/11/13 New York, NY Sex Out Loud Radio Show United States
Time: 8:00pm. Guest on Tristan Taormino’s online radio show Sex Out Loud
12/20/12 New York, NY Drunken! Careening! Writers! United States
Time: 7:00pm. Address: KGB Bar. Best Lesbian Erotica 2013 reading at KGB Bar in the East Village, NYC
11/29/12 Houston, TX Rice University United States
Time: 9:00am. Sinclair will be a guest at the 101 Introduction to the the Study of Women, Gender and Sexuality class
11/27/12 Toronto, ON Sex City Radio Show United States
Time: 11:00pm. Special guest on “Sex City” radio show, talking about Say Please, BDSM erotica, writing smut, and whatever else may come up.
Tour: Dirty Queer Sex: Say Please
11/20/12 Dallas, TX VerLes United States
Time: 7:00pm. Admission: Free. Address: 5946 Lyndon B Johnson (LBJ) Freeway. Dirty Queer Sex Tour: Dallas stop! Featuring Lillith Grey, Sinclair Sexsmith; other performers TBA
11/16/12 New York, NY Lesbian Sex Mafia United States
Time: 8:00pm. Admission: 20. Address: 208 West 13th St. Fucking Forever: Sex in Long Term Relationships. New relationship energy can propel a couple into a phenomenal experiential phase of sexual energy—bursts of passion, exploration, and intensity. Long term relationships, however, face the day-to-day life navigation of bills, scheduling, job and career difficulties or changes, disappointments, changes, and grief. How do we build a long term relationship that keeps the passion alive? How do we ensure we have enough time for our partner(s), and for ourselves? How do we both separate from our partner to have our own rich inner life and come back together to build a loving bond? And what kind of kinky play can be used to keep the fire going? We’ll explore all of these concepts and more at this interactive workshop.
11/14/12 - 11/15/12 Stanford, CA Stanford University United States
Time: 6:00pm. Queer Stories and Radical and Responsible Gender workshops. exact times & place TBA
10/17/12 New York, NY New York University United States
Time: 6:30pm. Judge & performer at NYU’s queer poetry slam. Details TBA
10/10/12 Toronto, ON Come As You Are Canada
Time: 7:30pm. Address: 493 Queen St W. Bad Boys: Masculinity & Dominance workshop Everyone loves a bad boy: they know what they want, and they take it…and probably ride away on a motorcycle afterwards. But how can you be a bad boy without being an asshole? How do you practice that potent combination of masculinity and dominance without misogyny or internalized homophobia and with respect for women? How can you enhance your dominance in consensual, loving ways? On the flip side, how can you bring that dominant side out of someone who may be nervous to let it emerge? How do you become – or find – the bad boy of your dreams? Learn from a pro: Sinclair Sexsmith, kinky queer butch top who’s been writing about dominance since 2006, will teach you how to get what you want.
Tour: Dirty Queer Sex: Say Please
10/09/12 Toronto, ON Glad Day Bookshop Canada
Time: 8:00pm. Address: 598A Yonge Street. Say Please Toronto reading! readers TBA
10/05/12 - 10/08/12 Toronto, ON Unholy Harvest Canada
Time: 7:00pm. Unholy Harvest Kink Festival – teaching Cock Confidence, details TBA
Tour: Dirty Queer Sex: Say Please
10/05/12 New York, NY Ravenous Nights at Happy Ending United States
Time: 8:00pm. Featuring readers from Say Please: Lesbian BDSM Erotica, The Harder She Comes: Butch/Femme Erotica, and Girl Crazy. Details TBA
09/29/12 Brooklyn, NY Submit Party United States
Time: 11:30pm. Admission: 20. Power Blow Job demo with Kristen at 12:30pm
09/25/12 Seattle, WA Wild at Heart United States
Time: 7:00pm. Address: 1111 NW Leary Way. Cock Confidence: Strap On 101 Many of us have experience with strapping on, packing, and playing, but there are lots of new products out there on the market that might be exciting and that you haven’t encountered yet. Writer and sex educator Sinclair Sexsmith talk about what cocks are good for packing, what options are out there for pack-and-play, which harnesses are the most loved, and which to avoid. Plus, we’ll delve into some cock confidence, getting into the psychology of penetration, and discussing what it’s like to shoot from the hip. Come get the nuts and bolts of strapping it on and fucking. You’ll learn about positions and lube, how different products work, what “cock confidence” means, and the psychology behind strapping on and playing with a cock with a partner, or with oneself.
09/21/12 - 09/23/12 Seattle, WA Private training United States
Time: 7:30pm.
09/12/12 - 09/17/12 Northern Maryland Dark Odyssey United States
Time: 7:30pm. Summer Camp
08/17/12 - 08/19/12 Baltimore, MD Femme Conference United States
Time: 7:30pm.
08/01/12 - 08/05/12 Albuquerque, NM Private retreat United States
Time: 8:00pm.
07/31/12 Albuquerque, NM Self Serve Toys United States
Time: 7:30pm. Admission: $20. Address: 3904B Central Ave SE. Cock Confidence workshop
07/25/12 Chicago, IL The Pleasure Chest United States
Time: 8:00pm. Address: 3436 North Lincoln Avenue. Cock Confidence workshop
Tour: Dirty Queer Sex: Say Please
07/24/12 Chicago, IL The Pleasure Chest United States
Time: 8:00pm. Address: 3436 North Lincoln Avenue. Writing about sex workshop + Say Please reading! Readers TBA
07/23/12 Chicago, IL Early 2 Bed United States
Time: 7:30pm. Address: 5232 North Sheridan Road. Sparking Forever: Sex in Long Term Relationships … New relationship energy can propel a couple into a phenomenal experiential phase of sexual energy—bursts of passion, exploration, and intensity. Long term relationships, however, face the day-to-day life navigation of bills, scheduling, job and career difficulties or changes, disappointments, changes, and grief. How do we build a long term relationship that keeps the passion alive? How do we ensure we have enough time for our partner(s), and for ourselves? How do we both separate from our partner to have our own rich inner life and come back together to build a loving bond? And what kind of kinky play can be used to keep the fire going? We’ll explore all of these concepts and more at this interactive workshop.
07/11/12 - 07/15/12 Seattle, WA Private training United States
Time: 8:00pm.
Tour: Dirty Queer Sex: Say Please
06/30/12 Atlanta, GA Charis Books United States
Time: 7:30pm. Dirty Queer Sex Tour: Atlanta ABOUT SAY PLEASE: Sinclair Sexsmith presents a cornucopia of queer kink—tantalizing tales rich in variety and saucy details of girls put in their place—and held there firmly. Whether readers dream of surrendering to a lover or of taking control, Say Please offers plenty of erotic inspiration and gives readers exactly what they want! Come hear authors from the book read their stories and celebrate the release of this kinky queer collection.
06/29/12 Atlanta, GA Charis Books United States
Time: 7:30pm. Radical Masculinity: Cock Confidence, Embodiment, & Queerness Join Charis Books and Sinclair Sexsmith for a community discussion-based workshop. We’ll be focused on the questions of female masculinity, transmasculine, masculine of center, and butch identity, how we stay embodied in a world that sees our bodies in conflict with who we are, how we stay centered in our selves when our allies and communities are ever changing and our identities are politicized or fetishized or demonized, what it’s like to be a ethical “bad boy”, and more.
06/20/12 - 06/25/12 Northern Maryland Dark Odyssey United States
Time: 7:30pm. Fusion
06/08/12 New York, NY Queers for Economic Justice (QEJ) United States
Time: 8:00pm. Address: 147 w 24th st, 4th floor. Queer Memoir Presents: Butch/ Stud Stories Through the Years
06/06/12 New York, NY Bluestockings Bookstore United States
Time: 7:00pm. Address: 172 Allen St. Reading for The Harder She Comes: Butch/Femme Erotica
06/04/12 New York, NY Lammy Awards at the City University of New York Graduate Center United States
Time: 6:00pm. Address: 365 5th Avenue. 24th annual Lambda Literary Awards!
Tour: Dirty Queer Sex: Say Please
05/25/12 West Hollywood, CA The Pleasure Chest United States
Time: 8:00pm. Address: 7733 Santa Monica Blvd. Details TBA
05/23/12 Pasadena, CA Pasadena City College United States
Time: 7:00pm. Radical Masculinity workshop
05/18/12 - 05/20/12 New York, NY Private retreat United States
Time: 7:30pm. Outside the Boxes: Celebrating the Queer Body Erotic
05/04/12 - 05/06/12 Seattle, WA Private training United States
Time: 8:00pm.
Tour: Dirty Queer Sex: Say Please
05/02/12 Seattle, WA Babeland United States
Time: 7:00pm. Say Please reading in Seattle! details & readers TBA
04/24/12 Boston, MA Good Vibrations United States
Time: 7:00pm. Address: Boston. Cock Confidence workshop at Good Vibes
04/23/12 Boston, MA Brandeis University United States
Time: 7:30pm. Fucking with Gender workshop, International Lounge in Usdan
Tour: Dirty Queer Sex: Say Please
04/22/12 Boston, MA The Midway United States
Time: 8:00pm. Address: 3496 Washington Street. Say Please release party featuring readers from the book, burlesque, and other performances. Details TBA
04/18/12 New York, NY LGBT Center United States
Time: 6:30pm. Address: 208 W 13th Street. Joint Best Lesbian Erotica/Best Lesbian Romance reading! Details on gaycenter.org
04/16/12 Providence, RI Libertalia United States
Time: 6:00pm. Address: 280 Broadway Room 200. Steamy: How to Write About Sex workshop
04/15/12 Pawtucket, RI The Center for Sexual Pleasure & Health (CSPH) United States
Time: 3:00pm. Admission: 25. Workshop TBA
Tour: Dirty Queer Sex: Say Please
04/13/12 New York, NY Bluestockings Bookstore United States
Time: 7:00pm. Address: 172 Allen St. SAY PLEASE RELEASE PARTY! readers & details TBA. save the date!
04/01/12 San Francisco, CA Good Vibrations United States
Time: 5:00pm. Address: 1620 Polk Street. Say Please, Best Lesbian Erotica 2012, and Salacious Magazine: Leather release party & reading! Readers TBA
03/29/12 - 04/01/12 San Francisco, CA International Ms. Leather United States
Time: 7:30pm.
03/28/12 Oakland, CA Mills College United States
Time: 7:30pm. Radical & Responsible Gender workshop
03/25/12 Rutgers, NJ Rutgers Sex, Love, & Dating: Your Guide to Everything Intimate Conference United States
Time: 1:00pm. Teaching Fucking With Gender, Making Queer & Kinky Relationships Work, and Combating Bed Death workshops at this day-long conference
02/29/12 - 03/01/12 Northampton, MA Smith College United States
Time: 7:30pm. Sex Week at Smith College! Workshop on February 29, panel with Jiz Lee & Nenna Feelmore on March 1st. See also http://smithpse.wordpress.com/happenings/sextravaganza/
02/23/12 Washington, DC American University United States
Time: 7:30pm. Fucking With Gender workshop, details TBA
02/17/12 - 02/20/12 Seattle, WA Private training United States
Time: 8:00pm.
02/16/12 Seattle, WA The Center for Sex Positive Culture United States
Time: 7:00pm. Admission: 20. Address: 1602 15th Ave W. Owning Your Birthday Suit: Embodiment for Kinksters, Freaks, and Other Sexual Mathletes: Kinky, poly, leather, sex-positive, and other outlaw folks often find it easy to explore sex, but it might still be hard to be present in our bodies, to feel the powerful connection between genitals, heart, and mind. Explore a variety of playful experiential exercises to increase embodiment while respecting stone sexualities and everyone’s boundaries. Learn some simple tools to feel erotic energy, build connection to your desires, and feel more alive and at home in your body. Experience the taboo power of sharing this exploration within community. Amy Butcher and Sinclair Sexsmith met at a tantra retreat three years ago and have worked together for deeper embodiment and gender liberation ever since. They both study erotic energy and write smut.
02/13/12 New York, NY Columbia University United States
Time: 7:30pm. Workshop TBA
02/09/12 New York, NY Bluestockings Bookstore United States
Time: 7:30pm. Address: 172 Allen St. Best Lesbian Erotica & Best Gay Erotica joint Valentine’s Day reading. Details TBA
02/08/12 New York, NY 116 Bar United States
Time: 7:00pm. Admission: 10. Address: 116 MacDougal Street. The Inspired Word performance series is excited to present a new event that will become a regular part of our calendar, Queer Apple: NYC GLBT Life in Poetry & Prose, featuring some of this city’s best GLBT writers/performers – Sinclair Sexsmith, Christa Orth, Ocean Vuong, Samantha Barrow, Kestryl Cael Lowery, Kelli Dunham, Brandon Lacy Campos, and Jessica Halem . In addition, there will be a 12-slot open mic (4 minutes each slot) to bring your own GLBT experience to the party. Must be GLBT themed. A night of transcendence of words through narrative, poetry, and humor. Hosted by Aimee Herman . ***** When: Wednesday, Feb. 8, 2012 Where: 116 (formerly The Gaslight Cafe) 116 MacDougal Street (between Bleecker Street and Minetta Lane) Downstairs Lounge Manhattan, NY 10012 (212) 254-9996 (917) 703-1512 By subway, take the A, B, C, D, E, F to West 4th Street-Washington Square. Doors open for sign-up @ 6:30pm Show starts @ 7pm Cover Charge: $10 Read more: http://events.nydailynews.com/new-york-ny/events/show/230726945-queer-apple-nyc-glbt-life-in-poetry-prose-open-mic#ixzz1k1RtVFhg
02/03/12 - 02/05/12 Albany, NY Private retreat United States
Time: 7:30pm. Celebrating the Body Erotic retreat for women. More information TBA. http://www.thebodyelectricschool.net
12/15/11 New York, NY Best Lesbian Erotica 2012 Release Party United States
Time: 8:00pm. Address: 85 East 4th Street. Drunken Careening Writers series at KGB Bar
12/05/11 New York, NY LGBT Center United States
Time: 8:00pm. Admission: $20, sliding scale. Address: 208 W 13th Street. Owning Your Birthday Suit: Embodiment for Queers, Genderqueers, & Other Outlaws Queer, genderqueer, trans, and outlaw folks often find it hard to be present in our bodies, to feel the powerful connection between genitals, heart, and mind. Explore a variety of playful experiential exercises to increase embodiment while respecting stone sexualities and everyone’s boundaries. Learn some simple tools to feel erotic energy, build connection to your desires, and feel more alive and at home in your body. Experience the taboo power of sharing this exploration within community. Amy Butcher and Sinclair Sexsmith met at a tantra retreat three years ago and have worked together for deeper embodiment and gender liberation ever since. They both study erotic energy and write smut.
11/29/11 Bryn Mawr, PA Bryn Mawr College United States
Time: 6:30pm. Address: 101 N Marion Ave. Radical & Responsible Gender workshop
11/21/11 New York, NY Conversio Virium, Columbia University’s BDSM Student Group United States
Time: 8:00pm. Talk Dirtier: How to Let Your Tongue Go
11/14/11 Oakland, CA Mills College United States
Time: 6:30pm. CANCELLED. Will be rescheduled for Spring 2012.
11/11/11 - 11/13/11 San Francisco, CA Outside the Boxes: Celebrating the Queer Body Erotic United States
Time: 4:00pm.
11/07/11 Seattle, WA The Center for Sex Positive Culture United States
Time: 7:30pm. Address: 1602 15th Ave W. Talk Dirtier: How to Let Your Tongue Go workshop
11/04/11 - 11/06/11 Seattle, WA Private training United States
Time: 4:00pm.
10/28/11 Bethlehem, NH Highlands Inn United States
Time: 8:00pm. Address: 240 Valley View Lane. Details TBA. Kelli Dunham, Lea Robinson, & Sinclair Sexsmith
10/21/11 - 10/23/11 Albany, NY Private retreat United States
Time: 6:30pm. CANCELLED
10/12/11 New York, NY Take Me There: Trans & Genderqueer Erotica reading at Bluestockings Bookstore United States
Time: 7:00pm. Admission: Free. Address: 172 Allen St. Join editor Tristan Taormino and local contributors as they read their work from Take Me There, a groundbreaking new collection of transgender and genderqueer erotica. Readers include legendary author of the Marketplace series Laura Antoniou, queen of erotica Rachel Kramer Bussel, and Sinclair Sexsmith of The Sugarbutch Chronicles. Location: Bluestockings, 172 Allen Street (bet. Stanton and Rivington), NYC Admission: Free and open to all. We will pass around the hat to help support Bluestockings, so please give what you can.
09/14/11 - 09/19/11 Northern Maryland Dark Odyssey United States
Time: 12:00pm. Dark Odyssey Summer Camp. Teaching: Steamy: How to Write About Sex; Advanced Cock Confidence; Queering Power Dynamics: D/S, Age Play & Beyond; Talk Dirty: How To Let Your Tongue Go
08/25/11 - 08/28/11 Livingston Manor, NY Private retreat United States
Time: 8:00pm.
08/18/11 - 08/22/11 Oakland, CA Butch Voices United States
Time: 12:00pm. Butch Voices Conference
08/17/11 San Francisco, CA Good Vibrations United States
Time: 6:30pm. Admission: $20. Address: 1620 Polk Street. Cock Confidence: Strap-On 101
08/16/11 Santa Cruz, CA Camoulflage, Inc United States
Time: 8:00pm. Address: 1329 Pacific Avenue. Cock Confidence
07/27/11 - 07/31/11 Albuquerque, NM Private retreat United States
Time: 12:00pm.
07/12/11 New York, NY Sideshow at The Phoenix United States
Time: 8:00pm. Address: 447 East 13th Street. Subway theme
07/07/11 Seattle, WA The Center for Sex Positive Culture United States
Time: 7:00pm. Admission: 20. Address: 1602 15th Ave W. Top, bottom, switch, and everything in between: many of us like to explore what it’s like to give up or take power in our sex play. Some of us even like to play with psychological domination and submission. Add a gendered or age component, and the power distance index (PDI) increases. So what happens if we severely increase the power distance, through 24/7 role play or domination and submission? What happens when we incorporate identities like “Daddy” from the leather community? What could other age play roles of bigs and littles, Daddies and Mommies, boys and bois and girls and grrrls, have to offer us as we seek deeper and more fulfilling sex explorations? This advanced kink workshop explores power, gender, and age play in a queer context, where we’ll discuss bringing a power exchange relationship of any sort from the bedroom into a 24/7 lifestyle, what the benefits are for both, and how to go about navigating long term fulfillment for all parties within the relationship.
06/14/11 New York, NY Sideshow at The Phoenix United States
Time: 8:00pm. Admission: Free. Address: 447 East 13th Street. 2nd Annual Gay Pride Butch/Femme show
05/13/11 - 05/15/11 Albany, NY Private retreat United States
Time: 12:00pm.
05/10/11 New York, NY Sideshow at The Phoenix United States
Time: 8:00pm. Admission: Free. Address: 447 East 13th Street. Special revival of the Poetry vs Comedy Variety Hour
04/27/11 Madison, NJ Drew University United States
Time: 8:00pm. Details TBA
04/22/11 Minneapolis, MN Smitten Kitten United States
Time: 8:00pm. Address: 3010 Lyndale Avenue South. Cock Confidence: Strap-On 101. Contact Smitten Kitten for ticket information and prices.
04/21/11 Minneapolis, MN Hamline University United States
Time: 8:00pm. Spoken word performance. Further details TBA
04/21/11 Minneapolis, MN Hamline University United States
Time: 4:30pm. Radical & Responsible Gender workshop, 4:30-6:30pm
04/20/11 Madison, WI UW Madison United States
Time: 8:00pm. Workshop TBA
04/19/11 Milwaukee, WI The Tool Shed: An Erotic Boutique United States
Time: 8:00pm. Admission: $20. Address: 2427 N. Murray Ave. Cock Confidence: Advanced Skills workshop
04/12/11 New York, NY Sideshow at The Phoenix United States
Time: 8:00pm. Admission: Free. Address: 447 East 13th Street. SPRING FEVER featuring Erin O’Briant, Anne-E. Wood, Katie Liederman, and k. ulanday barrett, and of course your hosts, Mr. Sexsmith & Cheryl B. http://www.queerliterarycarnival.com
04/07/11 Brooklyn, NY Gay Ol Opry United States
Time: 7:00am. Admission: $7. he Gay Ole Opry is Brooklyn’s first ever queer country music festival. Four amazing bands, two stepping! With the DJ from Big Apple Ranch, queer country fashion show from DapperQ. A raffle, & a bake sale, too! Doors at 7:00pm, show starts at 8:00 pm sharp.
03/26/11 New York, NY Rainbow Book Fair at the LGBT Center United States
Time: 11:00am. Admission: Free. Address: 208 W 13th Street. This is the largest LGBT book event in America, and it is FREE AND OPEN TO THE PUBLIC. Be a part of the most exciting lgbt book event in the U.S. Join authors, poets, publishers, university presses, and the entire reading and writing community in this diverse spectacular of words, images, and talent. With the Center’s dramatic large 3rd floor exhibition space, additional rooms for panels, poetry readings, and author events, free books and hourly book giveaways, mingling, and meeting authors and readers like yourself.
03/08/11 New York, NY Sideshow at The Phoenix United States
Time: 8:00pm. Admission: Free. Address: 447 East 13th Street. Sideshow: The Queer Literary Carnival http://www.queerliterarycarnival.com
02/26/11 Syracuse, NY Syracuse University United States
Time: 1:00pm. Admission: Free. Age restrictions: All Ages. Radical & Responsible Gender workshop; 3 hours long, 1-4pm in Hall of Languages 102 at Syracuse University. Description: Academics break down and deconstruct gender. How do we build it back up radically and responsibly? How does one adapt masculinity or femininity “positively?” How do we become responsible about gender? How do we continue to break down the gender role restrictions that are hurtful and traumatizing? How can queer communities and spaces be improved by gender reflection? Open to the public; RSVP to Lauren Hannahs at lbhannah@syr.edu
02/23/11 Boston, MA Harvard University United States
Time: 8:00pm. Age restrictions: All Ages. Address: Ticknor Lounge in Boylston Hall. Afternoon Delight: A workshop on sex toys and getting what you want in bed
02/22/11 Boston, MA Good Vibrations United States
Time: 8:00pm. Address: Boston. Cock Confidence: Strap-On 101 Good Vibrations, Boston MA Tuesday, February 22, 8-10 pm $20 in advance, $25 at the door Many of us have experience with strapping on, packing, and playing, but there are lots of new products out there on the market that might be exciting and that you haven’t encountered yet. Writer and sex educator Sinclair Sexsmith talk about what cocks are good for packing, what options are out there for pack-and-play, which harnesses are the most loved, and which to avoid. Plus, she’ll delve into some cock confidence, getting into the psychology of penetration, and discussing what it’s like to shoot from the hip. If you’re a butch, a stud, an AGs or anywhere on the masculine side of center, come get the nuts and bolts of strapping it on and fucking. You’ll learn about positions and lube, how different products work, what “cock confidence” means, and the psychology behind strapping on and playing with a cock with a partner, or with oneself.
02/08/11 New York, NY Sideshow at The Phoenix United States
Time: 8:00pm. Admission: Free. Age restrictions: No Minors. Address: 447 East 13th Street. Sideshow: The Queer Literary Carnival http://www.queerliterarycarnival.com

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2010:

Friday, February 19, 2010
Lesbian Sex Mafia
Gendering Power: How to Spice Up Your Role Play
LGBT Community Center, New York, NY
8pm

Saturday, February 20, 2010
Bulldyke Chronicles
Dixon Place, New York City

SXSW Panel: Engaging the Queer Community
Saturday, March 13 at 03:30 PM
Austin, Texas
A discussion on maintaining successful and active blogs and social networking sites that are geared toward the LGBT community and its niches. Presenters: Trish Bendix – MTV/AfterEllen.com, Bil Browning – Bilerico Project, Fausto Fernos – Feast of Fun (moderator), Sinclair Sexsmith – Sugarbutch Chronicles.

SXSW Queer Blogger Tweetup
Sunday, March 14 at 9pm
OilCan Harry’s
211 West 4th Street (walking distance from the conference)
Austin, Texas

  • Live tweetup using hashtag #sxswgay
  • Free wifi available
  • Your favorite viral videos from 2009 playing on the bar’s TVs
  • T-shirt and merchandise giveaways
  • Free drinks to all SXSW attendees and people who follow Oil Can Harry’s on twitter @oilcanharrys or show their SXSW pass.

Duke University
Tuesday, April 6, 2010
Fucking with Gender workshop
Madison, New Jersey

SIDESHOW: Queer Literary Carnival Launch party!
Tuesday, April 16, 2010
Lineup TBA
Cheryl B. and Sinclair Sexsmith
The Phoenix
doors at 7pm, show at 8pm
More information at SideshowReadingSeries.wordpress.com

Brown University
April 21, 2010
Providence, RI
Fucking with Gender 200: Gendering Power
6-8pm, location TBA

Chapbook Festival
www.chapbookfestival.org
New York City
Pleasure Boat Studio Table
May 4, 2010
1-3pm

Sideshow! The Queer Literary Carnival
Tuesday, May 11, 2010
at The Phoenix
doors at 7:30pm, show at 8pm
More information at SideshowReadingSeries.wordpress.com

Famous Lesbian Comedy Roadshow Fundraiser
Saturday, May 15, 2010
Bulldyke Chronicles at Dixon Place
full details on Facebook

Sex 2.0 Unconference
Seattle, WA
May 22-23, 2010
I will have a workshop called Yes, No, and Consent, exact time TBA

SIDESHOW: Queer Literary Carnival
Tuesday, June 8, 2010
Produced & Hosted by Cheryl B. and Sinclair Sexsmith
The Phoenix, 447 East 13th Street @ Avenue A in NYC
doors at 7:30pm, show at 8pm
This month’s theme is BUTCH/FEMME, starring:
Syd Blakovich + Diana Cage + Miriam Perez + Jack Stratton + Teresa Theophano
More information at SideshowReadingSeries.wordpress.com

Pleasure Boat Studio Chapbook Reading
Wednesday, June 9th, 2010
with Emily Haines
Cornelia Street Cafe, New York City
6-8 pm

SIDESHOW: Queer Literary Carnival
Tuesday, July 13th, 2010
Produced & Hosted by Cheryl B. and Sinclair Sexsmith
The Phoenix, 447 East 13th Street @ Avenue A in NYC
doors at 7:30pm, show at 8pm
This month’s theme is Freak Flag starring:
Sassafras Lowery + Vittoria Repetto + Thad Rutkowski + Charlie Vasquez
More information at SideshowReadingSeries.wordpress.com

Gender & Role Play
Wednesday, July 21st, 2010, 7:30pm
She Bop
909 N. Beech St, Portland, OR
SheBoptheShop.com

Join Sinclair Sexsmith for this workshop focusing on the ways that playing with gender in role play can be liberating for our gender expressions or identities outside of role play too. This class will include Sinclair’s basic gender tenets & philosophies, how to play with gender in role play, how play can deepen understandings of our own personal gender presentations, expressions, & identities, and also some details for playing with masculinity & femininity.

Strap-On 101
Thursday, July 22nd, 2010
Fascinations
9515 SE 82nd Ave, Portland, OR
store details on Funlove.com

Interested in strapping on a cock? Not sure where to start? Come to this interactive workshop with Sinclair Sexsmith, experienced strap-on aficionado, for tips and suggestions on what kinds of dildos and harnesses will be right for you, and how to strap it on with gusto. We’ll talk about how cocks can be played with and experienced by every gender, and how to have more cock confidence.

SIDESHOW: Queer Literary Carnival
Tuesday, August 10th, 2010
Produced & Hosted by Cheryl B. and Sinclair Sexsmith
The Phoenix, 447 East 13th Street @ Avenue A in NYC
doors at 7:30pm, show at 8pm
August’s theme is HEAT WAVE, featuring erotica by:
Tamiko Beyer + Rachel Kramer Bussel + Mildred Gerestant + Kit Yan
queerliterarycarnival.com

Butch Brunch
Saturday, August 14th
Location TBD, New York City
RSVP on Facebook

Butch Voices NYC Conference Fundraiser: Butch Burlesque
Saturday, August 28, 2010
7pm
Stonewall, 53 Christopher Street, NYC
thestonewallinnyc.com

SIDESHOW: Queer Literary Carnival
Tuesday, September 14th, 2010
Produced & Hosted by Cheryl B. and Sinclair Sexsmith
The Phoenix, 447 East 13th Street @ Avenue A in NYC
doors at 7:30pm, show at 8pm
queerliterarycarnival.com

Butch Brunch
Saturday, September 18th
Cafe Orlin, East Village, New York City
RSVP on Facebook

A Dyke’s Secrets of Cunnilingus
Thursday, September 23rd, 7pm
Purple Passion
211 West 20th Street, New York, NY

Butch Voices: New York City
Friday through Sunday, September 24-26
New York City
more on ButchVoices.com

Butch Voices Speak: Sideshow & Queer Memoir Mashup
7pm Saturday, 25 September
Bluestockings Bookstore
Allen Street, Lower East Side, NYC
Hosted by Kelli Dunham and Sinclair Sexsmith, with Queer Memoir storytellers Ryann Makenzi Holmes, Morgan Mann Willis, and Emma Crandall, and Sideshow performers Renair Amin and Kestryl Cael.

Butch Voices: Portland
Friday through Sunday, October 1-3
Portland, OR
more on ButchVoices.com

Saturday, October 2nd: Telling Our Stories: Writing Workshop
Everyone is the expert of their own life. Everyone knows themselves, their stories, their triumphs, their heartaches, better than anyone else. We all come from somewhere. We all have had struggles, heartaches, successes, breakthroughs, knockdowns, sideswipes, joy, that have brought us from the people we used to be to the person that we are today, and we butches have our own unique and similar stories. The rewards of starting to tell these stories, to write them down, to have others witness our stories, can be massive. The power of words to name what has happened in your lifetime can be spiritually and psychologically healing, can bring together communities of like-minded people, and can even write our selves into existence and change the world. Join writer, blogger, and activist Sinclair Sexsmith in a personal writing workshop about bringing out own inner stories out, finding the stories of our lives that are begging to be told, trusting the wisdom of our own inner voices, and finding the courage to share our stories with others. We will discuss blogging, places to read your work, editing, basic craft, and other inspirational butch writers. Bring paper and something to write with, there will be writing prompts.

Gender/Queer: Spoken Word Performance
Sunday, October 3rd, 2pm to 5pm
at In Other Words Bookstore, 8 NE Killingsworth, PDX
Free and open to the public!

Talking About the Taboo
2nd Annual Conference at The Center for Sexual Pleasure & Health (CSPH)
Sunday, October 10th
Pawtucket, RI
thecsph.org

SIDESHOW: Queer Literary Carnival
Tuesday, October 14th, 2010
Produced & Hosted by Cheryl B. and Sinclair Sexsmith
The Phoenix, 447 East 13th Street @ Avenue A in NYC
doors at 7:30pm, show at 8pm
queerliterarycarnival.com

SIDESHOW: Queer Literary Carnival
Tuesday, November 9th, 2010
Produced & Hosted by Cheryl B. and Sinclair Sexsmith
The Phoenix, 447 East 13th Street @ Avenue A
in the East Village, New York City
doors at 7:30pm, show at 8pm
queerliterarycarnival.com

Strap-On 101 Workshop
Thursday, November 11th, 2010
Fascinations
Tuscon, AZ
Many of us have experience with strapping on, packing, and playing, but there are lots of new products out there on the market that might be exciting and that you haven’t encountered yet. Writer and sex educator Sinclair Sexsmith talk about what cocks are good for packing, what options are out there for pack-and-play, which harnesses are the most loved, and which to avoid. Plus, she’ll delve into some cock confidence, getting into the psychology of penetration, and discussing what it’s like to shoot from the hip. If you’re a butch, a stud, an AGs or anywhere on the masculine side of center, come get the nuts and bolts of strapping it on and fucking. You’ll learn about positions and lube, how different products work, what “cock confidence” means, and the psychology behind strapping on and playing with a cock with a partner, or with oneself.

Cock Confidence & Strapping It On
Conversio Virium, Columbia University’s BDSM Student Group
Monday, November 15th, 2010
New York City
Many of us have experience with strapping on, packing, and playing, but there are lots of new products out there on the market that might be exciting and that you haven’t encountered yet. Writer and sex educator Sinclair Sexsmith talk about what cocks are good for packing, what options are out there for pack-and-play, which harnesses are the most loved, and which to avoid. Plus, she’ll delve into some cock confidence, getting into the psychology of penetration, and discussing what it’s like to shoot from the hip. If you’re a butch, a stud, an AGs or anywhere on the masculine side of center, come get the nuts and bolts of strapping it on and fucking. You’ll learn about positions and lube, how different products work, what “cock confidence” means, and the psychology behind strapping on and playing with a cock with a partner, or with oneself.

Radical & Responsible Gender
Wednesday, November 17th, 2010
Smith University
Northampton, MA
Exact time and location TBA

Radical & Responsible Gender
Thursday, November 18th, 2010
6 – 8 pm
Kimmel Center, 9th floor, room 905
60 Washington Square South
NYU, New York City

SIDESHOW: Queer Literary Carnival
Tuesday, December 14th, 2010
Produced & Hosted by Cheryl B. and Sinclair Sexsmith
The Phoenix, 447 East 13th Street @ Avenue A in NYC
doors at 7:30pm, show at 8pm
queerliterarycarnival.com

Drunken! Careening! Writers!
Thursday, December 16th
Special Best Lesbian Erotica 2011 reading
7pm, KGB Bar, East Village, NYC
Drunken Careening Writers website