The Femme Conference 2010: No Restrictions is happening in Oakland, CA in just three short weeks. There’s still time to register! I attended in 2008 in Chicago and it was a pretty amazing experience. I took away so many conversations about identity development and expression, about visible physical markers and femme fashion. I would love [...]
Posts under ‘critical theory’
Define: Outsider Complex
“I wish I could show you when you are lonely or in darkness the astonishing light of your own being.” —Hafiz I haven’t found an official psychological definition of the Outsider Complex, but I think it does exist in those circles. Maybe the phrase seems common sense enough that nobody feels the need to define [...]
My Take on “The Kids Are All Right”
I spent almost a week on this after I saw the film. It turned out to be a bit of an opus, about six pages long, and AfterEllen.com graciously told me they would run it. Clipped from: www.afterellen.com (share this clip) Here’s a little teaser of my thoughts: What if this depiction of that trope, [...]
On Masculinity, Mine
From the Ask Me Anything questions from Sugarbutch’s 4th anniversary: I’m interested to know how you feel your masculinity and your perceptions of masculinity have changed over the time that you have been writing here, and by this name.—Miss Avarice, of Miss Avarice Speaks her Mind My masculinity and perceptions of masculinity have significantly changed [...]
Consuming Porn of Other Orientations
From the Ask Me Anything questions from Sugarbutch’s 4th anniversary: My question is more on the philosophical/political side of things. Do you feel that, as I am a male, it is exploitative for me to enjoy queer porn so much? Porn is filled with many different dynamics, and it is within it’s nature to exploit [...]
Reconciling Feminism & Sadism
From the Ask Me Anything questions from Sugarbutch’s 4th anniversary: How do you reconcile your feminism with your sadism and desire to (gulp) hurt women? (In a completely consensual manner, of course.)—Cold Comfort The closest thing I’ve come so far to explaining this was in that essay from December 2009 called Reconciling the Identities of [...]
Anal Week Wrap-Up
Even though I started Anal Week way back in April, I’ve finally gone through all the posts and toys and reviews and things that I intended for it, so here’s the wrap-up. Reviews: The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women, the guidebook by Tristan Taormino The Tristan Butt Plug The Silk anal dildo Quick [...]
BDSM is Not Abuse
I recently went through the Orientation process for the Lesbian Sex Mafia, and we went over this list of The Difference Between SM and Abuse, which is also available on the Lesbian Sex Mafia’s website. I am still surprised how often BDSM gets equated with abuse, and this list makes the distinctions so very clear, [...]
From Not Stone to Stone-ish
I’m finally getting around to the Ask Me Anything questions from Sugarbutch’s 4th anniversary. I hope to get through them all, though it might take a little bit of time! My question: How do you relate or not relate to stone identity? To what extent do you ID/not ID as stone and how do you [...]
