Archive for advice

Ask Me Anything: Coming Out at Work

10/07/2010  |  9 Comments

From the Ask Me Anything questions from Sugarbutch's 4th anniversary: I’m completely femme and work in a very straight environment. A... more

Ask Me Anything: Becoming More Dominant

10/06/2010  |  6 Comments

From the Ask Me Anything questions from Sugarbutch's 4th anniversary: What are some tools/techniques that help someone to “try on” a... more

Ask Me Anything: Standards of Beauty

10/05/2010  |  26 Comments

While I was on the plane to Portland for Butch Voices this past weekend, I dug through my files and... more

On Being Left Out of Butch & Femme

08/13/2010  |  9 Comments

From the Ask Me Anything questions from Sugarbutch's 4th anniversary: a) I often find myself at a loss when trying to... more

Stories from My Youth

08/09/2010  |  12 Comments

From the Ask Me Anything questions from Sugarbutch's 4th anniversary: When you were a teenager, how did you feel about your... more

On Masculinity, Mine

07/05/2010  |  4 Comments

From the Ask Me Anything questions from Sugarbutch's 4th anniversary: I’m interested to know how you feel your masculinity and your... more

Consuming Porn of Other Orientations

07/01/2010  |  6 Comments

From the Ask Me Anything questions from Sugarbutch's 4th anniversary: My question is more on the philosophical/political side of things. Do... more

Reconciling Feminism & Sadism

06/29/2010  |  11 Comments

From the Ask Me Anything questions from Sugarbutch's 4th anniversary: How do you reconcile your feminism with your sadism and desire... more

From Not Stone to Stone-ish

06/11/2010  |  9 Comments

I'm finally getting around to the Ask Me Anything questions from Sugarbutch's 4th anniversary. I hope to get through them... more

Spanking 101

03/16/2010  |  6 Comments

Someone emailed me recently with a question about starting to play with spanking, and after looking around online for a... more