6 Black Educators to Follow & Support on Patreon

June 30th, 2020 • 2 minute read • by


Breath as a Healing Tool During COVID-19 with M’kali-Hashiki

June 30th, 2020 • 4 minute read • by


Cock Confidence: The Sacred Act of Going Inside Someone Else’s Body

May 31st, 2020 • 2 minute read • by


Announcing: D/s Book Group & Nonbinary D/s Discussion Group

May 31st, 2020 • 2 minute read • by


Protected: why write about sex during times like this

May 31st, 2020 • 3 minute read • by


First Time With Daddy, Guest Post by Kimberly Dark (Excerpt from The Daddies)

May 29th, 2020 • 9 minute read • by


Sheltering 1: Things I Have Learned

May 29th, 2020 • 3 minute read • by


Will Anyone Else Want Strap-On Sex the Way I Do?

April 29th, 2020 • 3 minute read • by


Happy 14th Anniversary, Sugarbutch

April 29th, 2020 • 6 minute read • by


Hello, It Is Spring, Let’s Bloom (Playlist)

April 27th, 2020 • 4 minute read • by


Protected: Looking at a Title Year

March 31st, 2020 • 2 minute read • by


Rest Is Important, You’re Right It Isn’t Fair, and Other Things I Need To Hear Right Now

March 31st, 2020 • 3 minute read • by


Some Notes That May Turn Into A Sex Manifesto

March 31st, 2020 • 3 minute read • by


Protected: Countdown: Seven

March 5th, 2020 • 3 minute read • by


On Receiving a Full Scholarship to College, Twenty Years Later

February 17th, 2020 • 2 minute read • by


I’m Still Not Tired of Your Company, aka A Valentine

February 17th, 2020 • 2 minute read • by


Protected: Six Weeks Out

January 31st, 2020 • 2 minute read • by


Sinclair & rife Are Leather Paper Dolls (& You Can Download Us!)

January 31st, 2020 • < 1 minute read • by


Feeling Yourself: Getting Acquainted With Your New Strap On

January 31st, 2020 • 4 minute read • by


Ready to Make Waves: Two Recent Inspirational Leather Speeches

January 31st, 2020 • < 1 minute read • by


Resources For Sex & Chronic Pain

January 20th, 2020 • 2 minute read • by


Which D/s Webinars Should rife + I Produce in 2020?

December 31st, 2019 • 2 minute read • by


Cartography of Control: A Map For Areas of Dominance & Submission

December 31st, 2019 • 3 minute read • by


A Bullet-Point Decade

December 30th, 2019 • 3 minute read • by


There’s A New Packer & Stroker From New York Toy Collective: Meet Jack

December 30th, 2019 • 2 minute read • by


Protected: What Got Me Through the Worst of It

November 27th, 2019 • 4 minute read • by


Protected: I’m Struggling with Thanksgiving

November 27th, 2019 • 4 minute read • by


No, You Don’t “Get” Racism Because You Are Oppressed, Too

November 27th, 2019 • 2 minute read • by


Sugarbutch is #1 on the Kinkly Erotica Blogs and LGBTQ Blogs Lists

November 18th, 2019 • 3 minute read • by


Protected: Striking Evolution

October 31st, 2019 • 2 minute read • by


Five Essential Apps for Sex Bloggers

October 31st, 2019 • 4 minute read • by


Harvest weekend photo essay, and congratulations Ms Sacramento Leather 2019!

October 31st, 2019 • < 1 minute read • by


Protected: Just personal things. Hi.

October 31st, 2019 • 3 minute read • by


These Eight Years

September 30th, 2019 • 3 minute read • by


Touch, Devour, Swallow

September 30th, 2019 • 2 minute read • by


Bi-Erasure, Community, and Other Thoughts on Bisexual Visibility Day

September 23rd, 2019 • 3 minute read • by


Table of Contents for Best Lesbian Erotica Volume 4 (2020)

September 18th, 2019 • 2 minute read • by


Call For Submissions: Best Lesbian Erotica of the Year Volume 5 (2021), due October 31, 2019

September 12th, 2019 • < 1 minute read • by


Protected: On Inheriting Leather

August 30th, 2019 • < 1 minute read • by


Protected: Writing About D/s Online

August 29th, 2019 • 4 minute read • by


Plus Size Pegging: A Longer Dildo & Comfortable Harness

August 26th, 2019 • 2 minute read • by


What Are You Going To Do With That Women, Gender, Sexuality Studies Degree?

August 5th, 2019 • 3 minute read • by


Protected: Disrupt the Cycle

July 31st, 2019 • 2 minute read • by


Methods of Control in Your D/s Relationship: Defining Rules, Tasks, Protocol, and Ritual

July 24th, 2019 • 6 minute read • by


Decks, Books, & Spreads: Getting Started with a Tarot Practice

July 12th, 2019 • 6 minute read • by


Protected: Two

July 7th, 2019 • 2 minute read • by


Protected: Spirolic Breaking

June 30th, 2019 • 4 minute read • by


Kinky Summer Camps You Should Definitely Attend

June 28th, 2019 • 5 minute read • by


Protected: Under Water

June 18th, 2019 • 2 minute read • by


The Singular “They” Is Grammatically Correct, Dammit

May 16th, 2019 • 4 minute read • by