Leather & Kink Conferences, D/s Theory, & Workshops: Here’s Our 2020 Travel Schedule and What We’re Teaching

Here’s our 2020 Schedule:

  • January 10-12 — West Coast Bound Vancouver, BC
  • 31 January – 2 February, 2020 — Sin in the City, Las Vegas, NV
  • 7-8 February 2020 — Ms SF Leather, San Francisco
  • 12-15 March, 2020 — International M/s Contest at South Plains Leatherfest — Dallas
  • March 21-22, 2020 — Energy & BDSM: Equinox Year Wheel through Body Trust (Master Rook only), Seattle
  • March 28, 2020 – D/s Playground Webinar, dsplayground.com
  • April 3-5, 2020 Oklahoma Leather Fest, Oklahoma City, OK
  • 16-19 April, 2020 – International Ms Leather & International Ms Bootblack, (San Jose, CA)
  • 30 April – 2 May, 2020 — Stepdown at Northwest Leather Celebration, Sacramento
  • 9 May, 2020 – Leather Cultural District Opening Ceremonies
  • 15 May, 2020 — The Exiles, San Francisco — presenting The Protocol Game
  • 22-24 May, 2020 — International Mr. Leather & International Mr Bootblack, Chicago, IL — #JackIsMyIML
  • 29-31 May, 2020 — Beyond Leather, West Palm Beach, FL
  • 12-14 June, 2020 — SouthEast LeatherFest, Atlanta, GA
  • 20-21 June, 2020 — Year Wheel: Energy & BDSM weekend through Body Trust (Master Rook only), Seattle
  • 27 June, 2020 — San Francisco Pride, San Francisco, CA
  • 7-12 July, 2020 — IPAHW, Indianapolis, IN
  • 26 July, 2020 — Up Your Alley, San Francisco
  • 15-17 August, 2020 — Mr, Mx, & Bootblack San Francisco Contest, San Francisco
  • 4-7 September, 2020 — M/s Conference, Washington, DC
  • 11-13 September, 2020 — International Mx. Leather & Bootblack, Tuscon, AZ
  • 14-20 September, 2020 — Oz KinkFest, Melbourne, VIC, Australia (tbd)
  • 27 September, 2020 — Folsom Street Fair, San Francisco
  • 2-4 October, 2020 — Kinky Queer Weekend, Portland, OR
  • 23-24 November, 2020 — Ms Sacramento Leather, Sacramento, CA
  • 13-15 November, 2020 — Leather Reign, Seattle, WA


Here are the classes we’re currently focusing on and offering. 

Unlearning White Fragility in Leather

Racism is a problem in leather communities, including the M/s community, just like it is everywhere else in the US. Dialogue is an important step to begin to unpack and address the harms of white supremacy, but sometimes white people need a little help to get ready for those conversations. If you are a white person who is uncomfortable talking about race, is scared you might say something racist, thinks you don’t see color, or just wants to be a better friend to your Black and brown partners and friends, please come! This is an interactive space where it is okay to be raw and not-perfect. We will discuss the concept of white fragility and practice exercises so we can better show up for the conversations we need to have in our communities.

Gender For the Rest Of Us

Nonbinary. Genderfluid. Transsexual. Transgender. Mx. Leather Titles. Pronouns. — Language changes quickly! How can you, as someone outside of the gender diverse community, keep up with the best words to use, and just generally be a better ally for the trans and nonbinary members of your leather and kink communities? We will start with a quick roundup of words, then move on to a discussion of strategies we love to see our traditionally gendered friends embrace. Finally, we’ll have a brief “ask a nonbinary person anything” exercise where you can anonymously get your burning questions answered. Leave feeling more comfortable having conversations about and with gender diverse folks in your community!

The Vulnerable Master (Master Rook)

Embracing that we D-types are fundamentally human means facing our egos and practicing humility. We are not good leaders despite being vulnerable, we are good leaders precisely because we can be vulnerable. In this roundtable discussion, we talk about ways to undefend and share our strategies to face the challenges of being both fallible humans and also Divine Infallible Mistresses/Masters/Dominants/Mommies/Sirs. Come ready to embrace paradox and learn the bubble theory of a good owner: hard on the outside but soft and squishy deep down.

M/s As A Spiritual Path

Some slaves describe their journey as being “monks for love.” Some owners are worshipped. Considering all of the protocol, ritual, symbology, traditions, and ordeals that we pursue, there are many parallels to spiritual traditions. Let’s talk about ways a spiritual path can be incorporated as a model or tool to strengthen your dynamic, and ways that you both can find spiritual value and deep soul satisfaction on the path of your relationship, no religion required! We will share our personal experiences with Buddhism, Energetic embodiment, Christianty of many flavors, and spiritual animism and welcome discussion from the group’s diverse belief systems. M/s is truly a vocation; for those of us who feel the pull, it can be a powerful engine for spiritual growth and meaning.

The Protocol Game

Creating, implementing, and enforcing protocol in M/s dynamics can be hard. But it can be easier. Come create your own Protocol Game and create, implement, and enforce 52 protocols in the next year. In this workshop, you’ll learn: how to create a “training wheel” of categories that will drive your protocol, how to implement new protocol so it actually sticks, and how to enforce new protocol with the minimum of effort. And you’ll walk away with your own Protocol Game to play.

We set up a page with some details on the offerings and our bios and photos and such … take a look at that for more information. We’re still booking things for the year (though not very many things! The schedule is quite full!).

See you out there!

Published by Sinclair Sexsmith

Sinclair Sexsmith (they/them) is "the best-known butch erotica writer whose kinky, groundbreaking stories have turned on countless queer women" (AfterEllen), who "is in all the books, wins all the awards, speaks at all the panels and readings, knows all the stuff, and writes for all the places" (Autostraddle). ​Their short story collection, Sweet & Rough: Queer Kink Erotica, was a 2016 finalist for the Lambda Literary Award. They identify as a white non-binary butch dominant, a survivor, and an introvert.

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