Published by Sinclair Sexsmith

Sinclair Sexsmith (they/them) is "the best-known butch erotica writer whose kinky, groundbreaking stories have turned on countless queer women" (AfterEllen), who "is in all the books, wins all the awards, speaks at all the panels and readings, knows all the stuff, and writes for all the places" (Autostraddle). ​Their short story collection, Sweet & Rough: Queer Kink Erotica, was a 2016 finalist for the Lambda Literary Award. They identify as a white non-binary butch dominant, a survivor, and an introvert.

3 thoughts on “Things I Didn’t Know I Didn’t Know: Part One”

  1. Imma says:

    Jeez, Sinclair. I was so moved by the vulnerability and honesty in this. Some parts felt like I could have written them myself – like how annihilation and destruction aren’t melodramatic, they’re just the language of trauma – which I don’t say to invalidate your skill here, just that you spoke to something so deep and human and real. Thanks for telling these stories, especially.

  2. Rife says:

    Thank you for sharing, Master..

    I think there’s so much here worth sharing. I really appreciate you sharing your process.

    It really reminds me a lot of that point in weightlifting when you can deadlift your bodyweight but you hurt yourself, and you go to the experts and correct your form and it turns out you can’t lift as much as you thought you could when you did it before. It’s humbling but you can also grow so much more when you go back like that. I remember that every time in the gym.

    Anyway, I’ve been thinking a lot about the storyteller and how one could write without tying the information together, like beautiful bondage, into stories. I think your tarot example is a brilliant way to circumvent that. It would be an interesting practice to journal in a journalist style, where you’re not allowed to add any assumptions or casualties or conclusions, only report the facts of the situation and feelings. Just as a writing challenge.

    Anyway I adore you and your practice and your struggle and your strength and your humanity.

    If I assembled my ideal Master from scratch, they would look just like you.

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