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April 13, 2012 | Kristen

Tags: character study, edges, experiments, goals, growth junkie, I've missed the sunday check-ins, long term relationships, love letters to kristen, non-monogamy, openness, published almost two weeks late but most of it was written more than a week ago, relationships, relationships as edge play, things I want to explore, traveling

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