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I'm Sinclair Sexsmith, the kinky queer butch top behind this site. I'm an erotic educator, coach, and writer who studies literature, erotic embodiment, kink, BDSM, leather, and queer, trans, and feminist theory. I prefer the pronouns they and them. More about me and my work at mrsexsmith.com →here’s my number
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I love your new photo on the sidebar (in the jacket - great jacket, btw!) and you look so happy in t...Vulnerable Verbiage on Stardust and Sunshine, Sundust and Starshine
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