Comments on: Love Letter #4 (Growing Pains)

By: How Do I Let Go of a Past Hurt? – Sugarbutch Chronicles

How Do I Let Go of a Past Hurt? – Sugarbutch Chronicles — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 17:24:54 +0000

[...] sex. You may want to subscribe to my RSS feed, or not. This warning will self-destruct.After some strong realizations about what really is the strength and foundation of my relationship with Kristen, I’ve been thinking a lot about healing past wounds, [...]

By: Mo

Mo — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 02:22:34 +0000

I just wanted to thank you so much for writing this post. I don't know why, but I really needed to hear it at this time.

By: AmyS

AmyS — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 08:47:58 +0000

Relationships can be so tricky but who ever said falling for someone was easy? If you persevere for long enough it all tends to come good in the end.

By: Siouxie

Siouxie — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 02:36:11 +0000

I second that. You are articulate and unpick the stuff that most of us are too busy (or too timid) to explore in our own relationships. And yes, working out/working through all the triggers left by each party's respective exes is a LOT of work and can take a lot of patience and trust and love. I CURSE my husbutch's exes for the careless wounds I still tend, but am GRATEFUL to them for letting her go so that she got to marry ME ;-D

By: e

Thu, 04 Mar 2010 21:19:50 +0000

Thanks for sharing this with us. I’m at a similar place, but feeling daunted by the amount of work that we both must undertake. And, the thing is, I need her commitment to the work to even begin it.

But, it was very helpful to me to read this. It helps me sort out a few basics, providing some sign posts on the way to being healthier and happier.

Thanks.

By: Joye

Joye — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 20:54:33 +0000

Wow, after reading your posts, I often turn to my wife (I *LOVE* calling her that) and remark that I could've written that, if only I could write. What I mean by that is it seems that you and I are often in similar places on our journeys, though when you look at our lives, they couldn't've been more different. (Of course, it's unfair to you to say that, since you have no idea what my life has been.)

Anyhow, thank you for sharing so much of yourself with us (mostly?) anonymous readers. I can't tell you how much your writings have resonated (and helped) me in the last few years.

By: Bluebird

Bluebird — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 20:41:03 +0000

These are beautiful , intense and clairvoyant words on love . And on how love makes one grow .

Merci .

By: Frances

Frances — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 23:36:43 +0000

This is just lovely.

Honestly, love is not enough. Not even a whole lot of it.

The skills are crucial.

And the two of you certainly do seem to be made of magic. :) Good stuff kid. All the way around.

By: jesse james

jesse james — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 03:01:13 +0000

Yes. Work. Lots. And some times not very much. And sometimes none that you would notice. But, over all, lots of work. And you and Kristin are so lovely, such wonderful compliments that I believe you, very much, that you have found someone who wants to do this work with you – and that is good stuff.

By: alphafemme

alphafemme — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 18:43:51 +0000

…I should note that when I started my comment, a.'s comment had not yet been posted!