Comments on: My Evolving Masculinity, Part Three: “Daddy” http://www.sugarbutch.net/2009/10/my-evolving-masculinity-part-three-%e2%80%9cdaddy%e2%80%9d/ The sex, gender, and relationship adventures of a kinky queer butch top Thu, 18 Mar 2010 15:18:25 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: littlegirlyone http://www.sugarbutch.net/2009/10/my-evolving-masculinity-part-three-%e2%80%9cdaddy%e2%80%9d/comment-page-1/#comment-10368 littlegirlyone Mon, 04 Jan 2010 07:33:10 +0000 http://www.sugarbutch.net/?p=3828#comment-10368 I've struggled with this one word for so long. Why Daddy? Why not Master or Lord or any of the other dominant names? The best I could ever explain it is that Master and Lord, etc., have certain archetypes attached to them. So does Daddy. I love the Daddy archetype, I crave it. For me its because it stands for the Daddy I didn't have (not the one I did have). That's why Daddy/little girl is different than incest play for me. Incest play is about real daddiess and their real daughters. Daddy/little girl is about archetypal Daddies and archetypal little girls. I'm not sure that's lucid, but there's my attempt. I'm so happy to be reading here! I’ve struggled with this one word for so long. Why Daddy? Why not Master or Lord or any of the other dominant names? The best I could ever explain it is that Master and Lord, etc., have certain archetypes attached to them. So does Daddy. I love the Daddy archetype, I crave it. For me its because it stands for the Daddy I didn’t have (not the one I did have). That’s why Daddy/little girl is different than incest play for me. Incest play is about real daddiess and their real daughters. Daddy/little girl is about archetypal Daddies and archetypal little girls. I’m not sure that’s lucid, but there’s my attempt.

I’m so happy to be reading here!

]]> By: Jessie http://www.sugarbutch.net/2009/10/my-evolving-masculinity-part-three-%e2%80%9cdaddy%e2%80%9d/comment-page-1/#comment-9338 Jessie Mon, 26 Oct 2009 04:41:04 +0000 http://www.sugarbutch.net/?p=3828#comment-9338 Sinclair, I identify so much with this post. In fact, I think pretty much everything that you've said here is exactly how this role developed for me in my relationship. Thanks for writing this. -Jessie Sinclair,

I identify so much with this post. In fact, I think pretty much everything that you’ve said here is exactly how this role developed for me in my relationship. Thanks for writing this.

-Jessie

]]> By: Jacket's girl http://www.sugarbutch.net/2009/10/my-evolving-masculinity-part-three-%e2%80%9cdaddy%e2%80%9d/comment-page-1/#comment-9323 Jacket's girl Fri, 23 Oct 2009 21:04:53 +0000 http://www.sugarbutch.net/?p=3828#comment-9323 Beautiful. Insightful. Stunning. Thank you for writing this post. This story is so familiar and you put words to the complexity and struggle around the both the draw (umm HOT!) and the fear/discomfort so many of us feminists feel when embarking on this path. ahh but the rewards... Also I wanted to say that when I read the first line of your post I actually thought (before reading the previous comment) that you were subtly tagging it. It seems you do that a lot. Beautiful. Insightful. Stunning. Thank you for writing this post. This story is so familiar and you put words to the complexity and struggle around the both the draw (umm HOT!) and the fear/discomfort so many of us feminists feel when embarking on this path. ahh but the rewards…

Also I wanted to say that when I read the first line of your post I actually thought (before reading the previous comment) that you were subtly tagging it. It seems you do that a lot.

]]> By: Sinclair http://www.sugarbutch.net/2009/10/my-evolving-masculinity-part-three-%e2%80%9cdaddy%e2%80%9d/comment-page-1/#comment-9297 Sinclair Wed, 21 Oct 2009 16:06:16 +0000 http://www.sugarbutch.net/?p=3828#comment-9297 Alli - I tried to email you directly, but it got returned. No judgment taken whatsoever, I appreciate the suggestion. It's something I've discussed and thought a lot about in the past. I know the Daddy/girl stuff is complicated, and it's a factor in trying to broach the subject, and I might be writing more about it in the future, so it's good for me to consider responsible ways to write about it. I'll keep thinking and possibly make some changes to the way I structure this work in the future. Thanks. Alli – I tried to email you directly, but it got returned. No judgment taken whatsoever, I appreciate the suggestion. It’s something I’ve discussed and thought a lot about in the past. I know the Daddy/girl stuff is complicated, and it’s a factor in trying to broach the subject, and I might be writing more about it in the future, so it’s good for me to consider responsible ways to write about it. I’ll keep thinking and possibly make some changes to the way I structure this work in the future. Thanks.

]]> By: Alli http://www.sugarbutch.net/2009/10/my-evolving-masculinity-part-three-%e2%80%9cdaddy%e2%80%9d/comment-page-1/#comment-9293 Alli Wed, 21 Oct 2009 13:07:10 +0000 http://www.sugarbutch.net/?p=3828#comment-9293 Hey Sinclair This is not in any way meant as a judgemental comment, just an openhearted suggestion (that takes a lot of courage to write). I really enjoy your site. I'm also just beginning the process of recovering from memories of my father sexually abusing me as a child. I know this has nothing to do with your daddy/girl play, but it's triggering nonetheless. Would you please consider putting a trigger warning on entries like this? It would really help me, and I know I'm not alone. Thanks for your consideration. This has been a horrible time and struggle, but I don't want to give up all the POSITIVE sexual things I enjoy, your blog being one. Hey Sinclair

This is not in any way meant as a judgemental comment, just an openhearted suggestion (that takes a lot of courage to write). I really enjoy your site. I’m also just beginning the process of recovering from memories of my father sexually abusing me as a child. I know this has nothing to do with your daddy/girl play, but it’s triggering nonetheless. Would you please consider putting a trigger warning on entries like this? It would really help me, and I know I’m not alone.

Thanks for your consideration. This has been a horrible time and struggle, but I don’t want to give up all the POSITIVE sexual things I enjoy, your blog being one.

]]> By: 0bi http://www.sugarbutch.net/2009/10/my-evolving-masculinity-part-three-%e2%80%9cdaddy%e2%80%9d/comment-page-1/#comment-9283 0bi Tue, 20 Oct 2009 20:58:42 +0000 http://www.sugarbutch.net/?p=3828#comment-9283 Bra-fucking-vo. I said that I was looking forward to this piece, and it came through. Excellent work. Bra-fucking-vo. I said that I was looking forward to this piece, and it came through. Excellent work.

]]> By: May http://www.sugarbutch.net/2009/10/my-evolving-masculinity-part-three-%e2%80%9cdaddy%e2%80%9d/comment-page-1/#comment-9281 May Tue, 20 Oct 2009 18:25:05 +0000 http://www.sugarbutch.net/?p=3828#comment-9281 AWESOME! I'm in a domme/sub relationship with my bi fiance (who is kind of trans in that he feels female on the inside but may never be comfortable enough with being himself to express more than through crossdressing and in the safety of our relationship) and we call each other Daddy/baby. It's a title I both love and feel awkward with, but, of course, it's a fairly new one. I definitely can feel the title and the role changing and shaping my behaviors and thoughts in dealing with my partner outside and in the bedroom. Generally, I think it's a perfect expression of the concern and protection those seeking a "Daddy" are desiring as well as the firm but gentle mode of command I want to embody. So exciting to know that other women are also embracing the "Daddy" title! It's always such a relief to find out that there really are other people similar to me somewhere in the world :) AWESOME! I’m in a domme/sub relationship with my bi fiance (who is kind of trans in that he feels female on the inside but may never be comfortable enough with being himself to express more than through crossdressing and in the safety of our relationship) and we call each other Daddy/baby.

It’s a title I both love and feel awkward with, but, of course, it’s a fairly new one. I definitely can feel the title and the role changing and shaping my behaviors and thoughts in dealing with my partner outside and in the bedroom. Generally, I think it’s a perfect expression of the concern and protection those seeking a “Daddy” are desiring as well as the firm but gentle mode of command I want to embody. So exciting to know that other women are also embracing the “Daddy” title! It’s always such a relief to find out that there really are other people similar to me somewhere in the world :)

]]> By: Saraid http://www.sugarbutch.net/2009/10/my-evolving-masculinity-part-three-%e2%80%9cdaddy%e2%80%9d/comment-page-1/#comment-9280 Saraid Tue, 20 Oct 2009 17:51:49 +0000 http://www.sugarbutch.net/?p=3828#comment-9280 Sinclair, awesome, awesome, awesome. I have also had some trouble with the use of Daddy, but now find it an amazing turn on. However, I haven't yet mentioned it to my partner because I'm unsure what reaction I will get. Now I just may and use the baby comparison. Sinclair, awesome, awesome, awesome. I have also had some trouble with the use of Daddy, but now find it an amazing turn on. However, I haven’t yet mentioned it to my partner because I’m unsure what reaction I will get. Now I just may and use the baby comparison.

]]> By: alphafemme http://www.sugarbutch.net/2009/10/my-evolving-masculinity-part-three-%e2%80%9cdaddy%e2%80%9d/comment-page-1/#comment-9278 alphafemme Tue, 20 Oct 2009 17:39:31 +0000 http://www.sugarbutch.net/?p=3828#comment-9278 I love the comparison to the word "baby" -- so spot on. I love the comparison to the word “baby” — so spot on.

]]> By: mod wolf http://www.sugarbutch.net/2009/10/my-evolving-masculinity-part-three-%e2%80%9cdaddy%e2%80%9d/comment-page-1/#comment-9277 mod wolf Tue, 20 Oct 2009 17:33:39 +0000 http://www.sugarbutch.net/?p=3828#comment-9277 again, you've succinctly put into words what we all go through in the whole "daddy" conundrum. well said! again, you’ve succinctly put into words what we all go through in the whole “daddy” conundrum. well said!

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