I recently got a new harness, the Commando by Aslan Leather, which has quickly become my new favorite (full review to come later).
Though I have reviewed and tried out many harnesses in the last few years, what I want and what I love to fuck with remains essentially the same:
- as minimalist as possible, with as little fabric/leather as possible, because I like to wear it under clothes to have it ready
- single-strap so it goes between my legs (and rubs perfectly on my clit while I’m fucking, which is what enables me to get off sometimes)
- It should have interchangeable O-rings, since sometimes I like to fuck with large cocks
- I don’t really care what material it’s made from, if it’s leather or vinyl or vegan leather or nylon
- I don’t care if it’s locking buckles or D-rings
Really, it needs to be comfortable, relatively bare-bones, and able to get me off.
For some reason, I’m still in search of The Perfect Harness. I seem to have this idea that I just need one, really, and I’ll be able to use any dick I want, and fuck however I want. I’m not sure why I think I can get One Single Harness to do everything I want in a harness … it seems possible, when I lay out my requirements, but I have yet to actually find The Perfect Harness.
I really loved the one I’ve been using for the last year or so, which is a signature harness from Spartacus leathers . Unfortunately, especially with the last seven months and my very active sex life with Kristen, that harness has really seen better days.[Warning: if you’re not the one usually wearing the harness, and prefer to keep the harness-perfection a mystery, I might ruin it for you with the rest of this post.]
The problem is, the leather has gotten very soiled. And I admit, I’ve been caring for the harness much like I usually cared for my nylon harnesses: washing with warm water and a little soap after using, unhooking the O-rings and using a nail brush to gently clean the leather and snaphooks, and hang it to dry. Here’s where the leather enthusiasts are probably laughing at me: yes, I know there is such a thing as leather soap, and in retrospect I probably should’ve been taking very different care of the leather.
So now I’m asking: how do you keep leather clean? Especially when it is, ahem, very close to very wet bits for very many hours in a week, how do I deep-clean it, get all the come out of it, make sure it doesn’t get that nasty musty wet smell so deep that it won’t come out?
Also, is there any way to salvage leather that is now a bit … dirty? Is there a way to deep-clean it?