Comments on: “Can I come? Please?” http://www.sugarbutch.net/2009/07/can-i-come-please/ The sex, gender, and relationship adventures of a kinky queer butch top Thu, 09 Feb 2012 16:09:45 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Shirley http://www.sugarbutch.net/2009/07/can-i-come-please/comment-page-1/#comment-8275 Shirley Mon, 13 Jul 2009 00:37:39 +0000 http://www.sugarbutch.net/?p=3512#comment-8275 I am submissive and have always loved being made to hold and having to beg to cum. The orgasm when permission is granted is absolutely intense and powerful that I almost pass out and my girlfriend has to tell me to breathe. I am so lucky that my gf is a true top and knows just how to control me. I would recommend evryone to at least try holding for as long as possible, the rewards are out of this world. I am submissive and have always loved being made to hold and having to beg to cum. The orgasm when permission is granted is absolutely intense and powerful that I almost pass out and my girlfriend has to tell me to breathe. I am so lucky that my gf is a true top and knows just how to control me. I would recommend evryone to at least try holding for as long as possible, the rewards are out of this world.

]]> By: kyle http://www.sugarbutch.net/2009/07/can-i-come-please/comment-page-1/#comment-8258 kyle Fri, 10 Jul 2009 21:33:10 +0000 http://www.sugarbutch.net/?p=3512#comment-8258 Roxy is the first lover I've had who's played the power game of controlling my orgasms. I come easily and often, like Kristen. It's amazing and frustrating and makes me insane, but the strength of my orgasms is definitely increased.. and then there's the turn on of letting someone else control me. Roxy is the first lover I've had who's played the power game of controlling my orgasms. I come easily and often, like Kristen. It's amazing and frustrating and makes me insane, but the strength of my orgasms is definitely increased.. and then there's the turn on of letting someone else control me.

]]> By: riotfemme http://www.sugarbutch.net/2009/07/can-i-come-please/comment-page-1/#comment-8244 riotfemme Thu, 09 Jul 2009 14:22:50 +0000 http://www.sugarbutch.net/?p=3512#comment-8244 Playing with power, control and permission like that is an incredible rush. My lover and I have been exploring this a lot lately too and it really is the most outrageously intense exchange. She makes me ask permission, to beg, but not just to come; I must ask before I touch her or touch myself, always calling her Sir. It takes incredible self control and sends me into a very powerfully submissive place. She loves it :) I hope you and Kristen enjoy exploring this as much as we have and continue to. Playing with power, control and permission like that is an incredible rush. My lover and I have been exploring this a lot lately too and it really is the most outrageously intense exchange. She makes me ask permission, to beg, but not just to come; I must ask before I touch her or touch myself, always calling her Sir. It takes incredible self control and sends me into a very powerfully submissive place. She loves it :)

I hope you and Kristen enjoy exploring this as much as we have and continue to.

]]> By: Joy http://www.sugarbutch.net/2009/07/can-i-come-please/comment-page-1/#comment-8242 Joy Thu, 09 Jul 2009 09:22:49 +0000 http://www.sugarbutch.net/?p=3512#comment-8242 Wow. The progression you're describing here parallels the experiences I've been having in one of my current relationships. It's really neat - and a bit comforting - to know I'm not the only one for whom waiting makes them stronger, and for whom asking is SO hot. So hot. I will say, though, that I don't like asking to be an assumed thing - I like being able to come freely for awhile, then hear him say, when he can tell I'm starting to get close again, "Not yet. Wait." On the other hand, I've noticed that the increased self-control that learning to wait has given me has also allowed me to slip into a deeper state of relaxation and luxurious enjoyment during sex - continually contracting in orgasm is great, but it can be tiring. Sometimes, I have found, I'm very glad to be able to relish the intimacy, the sensuality without being...distracted by orgasm. All the best to you and Kristen as you continue this journey! Wow. The progression you're describing here parallels the experiences I've been having in one of my current relationships. It's really neat – and a bit comforting – to know I'm not the only one for whom waiting makes them stronger, and for whom asking is SO hot. So hot.

I will say, though, that I don't like asking to be an assumed thing – I like being able to come freely for awhile, then hear him say, when he can tell I'm starting to get close again, "Not yet. Wait."

On the other hand, I've noticed that the increased self-control that learning to wait has given me has also allowed me to slip into a deeper state of relaxation and luxurious enjoyment during sex – continually contracting in orgasm is great, but it can be tiring. Sometimes, I have found, I'm very glad to be able to relish the intimacy, the sensuality without being…distracted by orgasm.

All the best to you and Kristen as you continue this journey!

]]> By: leo http://www.sugarbutch.net/2009/07/can-i-come-please/comment-page-1/#comment-8220 leo Tue, 07 Jul 2009 13:13:01 +0000 http://www.sugarbutch.net/?p=3512#comment-8220 damn this blog is hot these days. when the mood is right and you tell her not to come until you've gotten off... i predict it will be something to remember. the few times i've done that, the look of mingled desire, surprise, and submission on her face has been just about enough to get me there all on its own. enjoy your vacation! damn this blog is hot these days.

when the mood is right and you tell her not to come until you've gotten off… i predict it will be something to remember. the few times i've done that, the look of mingled desire, surprise, and submission on her face has been just about enough to get me there all on its own.

enjoy your vacation!

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