I (politely) gave him a lesson in gender id, which he honestly appreciated, it was nice that my lesson was well organized and succinct b/c you were here..

You brought up an interesting phrase about labels in this post:

“they’re butch/femme! (At least in adjective, if not in identity.)”

As a woman that’s constantly described as femme, and does not identify as femme, I’d like to pose the question, how do you discern the difference?

On a personal level, I get tired of being called femme, or especially femmey, behind my back. Or the worst, “she’s femme, she just doesn’t know it”. I think self-identified femmes rock! And am totally behind the idea, it just doesn’t fit for me, and it makes me feel reduced to my appearance, clothing choices, etc.

Can you share some thoughts on this please?

Thanks!
D

http://www.nytimes.com/2008/05/18/magazine/18wwln-Q4-t.html

I think you would have to find out, how much press attention she got before she came out.

I know in the UK there is some evidence that it could harm, or restrict a male actor’s career to be open about it. Is there any facts about it damaging a woman’s career?

Are we going to see the first ‘Sugarbutch Butch Top 100′?

Love the blog, by the way.

It is curious how little attention Chris and Cynthia have received about their butch/femme (by appearance) relationship. It so clearly runs in the face of the more androgy L Word type queer “public” relationships among Hollywood types… Cynthia and Chris are New Yorkers, I wonder if that has anything to do with it.