standing on glass

Posted on April 10, 2009 in eye candy | 1 Comment

From Theresa, Editor-in-Chief of Carnal Nation, a great new site with all sorts of writings on personal, political, & perverted human sexuality.

Don’t worry, there are still more shoe photos coming.

Birthday calendar winners!

Posted on April 10, 2009 in giveaways! | No Comments

Thanks to the random number generator, here are the New York City Sexblogger Calendar winners:

1 Screaming Lemur
4 Rodger
14 appple
18 ButchTaylor
24 the femme top

Congrats! I’ll be in touch via email soon to get your mailing addresses.

Didn’t win one? Awww. Bummer. But don’t worry! You can still order them from the NYC Sexblogger Calendar website!

No Comments | Category: giveaways! | Tags: birthday, dacia's pinup in april is hotttt, giveaways, I may do another calendar giveaway since this one had some interest, sex blogger calendar

Review: Pearl Cuffs

Posted on April 10, 2009 in Kristen, swag | 1 Comment

Kind of like the bow restraints, the pearl cuffs are pretty light bondage restraints from one of my favorite sex toy stores. Unlike the bow restraints, however, the Pearl Cuffs are almost purely decorative – don’t expect to be able to do much bondage with ‘em.

Kristen & I spotted these when visiting our local Brooklyn Babeland a month or more ago. We were both pretty skeptical about the quality – not that they aren’t nicely made, but whether they could really withstand any sort of real bondage play. I mean there’s a reason why bondage enthusiasts use really nice rope, ya know? So I jumped at the chance to take a look at them closer, and see how well they hold up.

I wanted to like them, I was excited about their arrival and have been pushing Kristen a little to wear them out as jewelry. We haven’t quite gone to one of those parties lately, where a pair of pearl bondage handcuffs as jewelry would be appropriate, so we’ve pulled them out in my bedroom.

The first time I opened them up to put them on her, the clasp of one of them broke in my hand. We weren’t pulling on them, I wasn’t dragging her around by them, I just opened the clasp to put them on her and it broke.

Drat.

“Maybe it’s a fluke,” I said, hopeful. “I’ll see if we can get replacements so we can really try them.” Sometimes clasps just break! Regardless of the quality of the item!

And I did (because Babeland rules).

Kristen was skeptical, but wanted to like them, too. The replacements showed up and this time we got to rough-and-tumble around a bit with them on her wrists. They’re pretty: delicate and feminine, which I liked quite a bit. A lovely visual to add.

But after not very long, oh, ten minutes or something, we twisted and turned and were getting into it such that pop, the chain on one of the cuffs broke. The actual little circle got pulled too far and unlinked. It was easy enough to fix by re-bending the link to be closed … but I think we both gave up on the cuffs about then.

“They can still be jewelry!” I said, trying to still justify how these cuffs are awesome.

“Yeah, I suppose.” I think she’s over them.

So … the moral of my review here is, if you like these as jewelry, then I say hey, go for it. They’re hot and fun and I can see an evening of watching someone squirm to drink a cocktail with her wrists cuffed together as very hot. But if you want to actually restrain someone, or throw them around when bound, these won’t hold up against much at all.

1 Comment | Category: Kristen, swag | Tags: babeland, don't feel bad I restrained her with someone else & the problem was solved, femme accessories, jewelry, pearl cuffs, swag, things to tie someone up with

Wingtips & Fishnets

Posted on April 7, 2009 in eye candy | 10 Comments

from Freedomgirl & Leo MacCool

10 Comments | Category: eye candy | Tags: birthday, butch/femme, fishnets, hellooo to boston!, love her blue toenails, photographs, shoes, wingtips

Black & white femme

Posted on April 7, 2009 in eye candy | No Comments

sexy J. from Toronto sent me three different versions of this lovely card … I think this is my favorite. And I think I might just keep the other two for myself.

No Comments | Category: eye candy | Tags: birthday, black & white, femme, femme markers (haha literally), panties, photographs, shoes

Femme boots

Posted on April 7, 2009 in eye candy | 2 Comments

From Scarlet over at Femme Fagette

2 Comments | Category: eye candy | Tags: birthday, femme, femme boots, femme markers, photographs, roses, scarlet & I go way back, shoes, tattoos

Stockings & heels

Posted on April 7, 2009 in eye candy | 2 Comments

from Amber, one of the co-curators of Queer Eye Candy
& here’s the one with the birthday greetings ….

2 Comments | Category: eye candy | Tags: birthday, femme, heels, photographs, queer eye candy, stockings

Birthday calendar giveaway!

Posted on April 7, 2009 in giveaways! | 29 Comments

Perhaps you remember that I was Mr. August in the New York City Sexbloggers 2009 Calendar which came out last year. Indeed there is some incriminating evidence of me spanking a particular lusty lady in order to get a perfectly pink handprint on her ass. I was packing. I wore black & white wingtips. All the pinups looked incredibly hot, the heels … oh, the heels at that photoshoot, gah. Amazing.

Outtakes of me from the photoshoot by Stacie Joy

Have I tempted you enough with the Calendar yet? You want to win it, right? Well, for my birthday, the producer of the calendar, Tess, is letting me give away some calendars, just for fun. But don’t worry – if you don’t win, you can always mosey on over to http://sexbloggercalendar.wordpress.com and buy yourself a calendar – all the proceeds go to Sex Work Awareness, which is having its first day-long seminar Speak Up! Media Skills for the Empowered Sex Worker in New York City this month.

But! If you’d like to win one of my fancy-schmancy [meaning: signed with the famous silver pen] birthday calendars, leave a comment in this thread. It can be anything – I’ll choose the winners at random - but if you’d like to leave me a blessing for my 30s, put in a request for some sort of hot dirty kinky queer sex act that you’ve never seen me write about, or tell me your favorite birthday song (I’m partial to the John McCutcheon one myself), that would be lovely. Fuck it, there have been waaaay too many birthday wishes posts already here – just leave your name & email address at the beep. Mmkay? Merci!

Photo taken by Norman Blake at the calendar release party

And thank you, for all the birthday wishes so far. There are many more fabulous shoe photos in the queue to be published this week – it’s not too late to send one in, if you feel so inspired.

29 Comments | Category: giveaways! | Tags: birthday, blessings from the blogosphere, did I mention I was one of the designers of the calendar?, did I seriously just link to a john mccutcheon song? yes I did, in which I reveal just how much of a hippie I am, is this a game of questions?, new york city, photography, photoshoots, pictures of me (gulp), sex blogger calendar, win things if you comment!

What happened in March 2009

Posted on April 6, 2009 in colophon | No Comments

Sex! Oh boy oh boy oh girl oh god ohhhh …

Gender

On butch eyebrows: waxed or natural?
My discussion on Cock Confidence as presented at the KinkForAll conference
Butch/femme in various cities
On butches: coming inside

Personal

The good kind of unbearable (protected): poetry about this new relationship
Breath of fire (protected): learning to trust myself.
Great doubt, great awakening (protected): about relationships

Reviews

The Outlaw oh my my, this cock is huge.
New music from the lesbian staple the Indigo Girls – new album out now!
Lesbian Life: Real Sex San Francisco dirty kinky queer porn!
Pumping: three-product review comparison.

Some more miscellany …

Three new projects :
the Sugarbutch Amazon store
Recommended Video On Demand through Hot Movies for Her
The ToySwap Network to swap away your clean, unused sextoys and get something better in their place. (Leave a comment if you’d like to be invited to join the network.)