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Come Together Gift Basket – winner!

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Thanks for all the beautiful comments about your Valentine’s Days and ideal gifts and wonderful things you’ve received in the mail.

Jodi, commenter #33, is the official winner of the Come Together Gift Basket! Congrats Jodi, hope you enjoy it!

Valentine’s Day – or Single Awareness Day – is coming up, and I think we’re going to do something special over on Queer Eye Candy, still trying to figure out exactly what.

I especially liked the comment that ephraim left:

on a commune where they initiated a tradition of “Validation Day” on Feb. 14th to be a community-wide celebration of all the different kinds of relationships people have instead of just the romantic ones. Preparations begin sometime in mid January; people sign up to make each others cards (usually elaborate and 3 dimensional affairs with lots of collaging); the cards go into a box alphabetically; and people spend the week or so leading up to V-Day gathered around the box thoughtfully signing them and usually feeling much happier about their fellow communards – an important thing in the midst of winter doldrums and restlessness when everyone is all cramped up inside. After V-Day dinner, there’s a playful round of trying to guess whose card is whose based on randomly selected comments and then they’re distributed (after which a rockin’ dance party commences).

That sounds SO fun and lovely, and what a great way to validate *all* relationships and not just the romantic ones. Maybe you might feel inspired to send Valentine’s Day cards to your mother or best friends or the mentors whom you adore, this year, instead of just your romantic interest.

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Sinclair Sexsmith (they/them) is "the best-known butch erotica writer whose kinky, groundbreaking stories have turned on countless queers" (AfterEllen), who "is in all the books, wins all the awards, speaks at all the panels and readings, knows all the stuff, and writes for all the places" (Autostraddle). ​Their short story collection, Sweet & Rough: Queer Kink Erotica, was a 2016 finalist for a Lambda Literary Award, and they are the current editor of the Best Lesbian Erotica series. They identify as a white non-binary butch dominant, a survivor, and an introvert, and they live outside Seattle as an uninvited settler on traditional, ancestral, & unceded Snoqualmie land.

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