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Giving away Good Dyke Porn

Want some Good Dyke Porn? Of course you do.

Bren Ryder’s dyke porn is quickly becoming widely celebrated around the queer dyke sexblog circles, and you’re really want to get your hands on her first DVD selection of seriously hot sex.

I’ve got a full review coming, but meanwhile, it’s the holidays! What better way to celebrate than to send some fun gifts away to the folks who follow this writing project (that would be you).

Bren actually sent me this DVD in connection with the 8 Against 8 campaign, and I was going to give it away at the end of the fundraising, but with the election and my vacation in November, I didn’t ever get around to it.

So, today I was chatting with Bevin Branlandingham, infamous host of the FemmeCast, and she suggested this little idea for a give-away …

Here’s what you gotta do:

(Legit email address required, real name optional.) Leave a comment sharing a sexual goal for 2009. What do you want to do? What do you want to try that you’ve never done? Who do you want to fuck? Where do you want to be fucked? What toy have you never tried that you’d like to?

Who what where when why? Visualize it. Dream about it. Maybe then it’ll really happen.

It’s like The Secret meets smut.

Winner will be chosen by the Random Number Generator, so you won’t be judged on how you answer. You must be willing to send me your address so I can mail you the DVD!

Published by Sinclair Sexsmith

Sinclair Sexsmith (they/them) is "the best-known butch erotica writer whose kinky, groundbreaking stories have turned on countless queers" (AfterEllen), who "is in all the books, wins all the awards, speaks at all the panels and readings, knows all the stuff, and writes for all the places" (Autostraddle). ​Their short story collection, Sweet & Rough: Queer Kink Erotica, was a 2016 finalist for a Lambda Literary Award, and they are the current editor of the Best Lesbian Erotica series. They identify as a white non-binary butch dominant, a survivor, and an introvert, and they live outside Seattle as an uninvited settler on traditional, ancestral, & unceded Snoqualmie land.

57 thoughts on “Giving away Good Dyke Porn”

  1. Ang says:

    I have several goals, but the two main ones are to fuck my future wife with my strap on, and to experience DP with two real humans attached to the penii whether real or fake. It's GOING to happen next year!

  2. Tieara says:

    I'm going to get back to you on this one. This will be fun…..

    But I had to say that I love how giving you are. How you stimulate our minds. How you encourage our participation. It really is a treat.

    [Thank you! Likewise I am really grateful that anybody actually wants to read what I have to say, so it is my pleasure to give back when I can. The conversation is what makes this medium of blogging so unique, I love it. – ss]

  3. MIF says:

    Talk Nerdy To Me aka My Geeky Fanatsy:

    It's not very romantic, it's not even that sexy but for some reason I've always wanted someone to go down on me while I was playing PlayStation. [Actually it used to be Sega…guess I've had this one for a while]

    Which game I'm playing varies ;)

    Maybe 2009 is my year! Wish me luck!

    [That definitely seems like a fantasy that could be actualized. Good luck! – ss]

  4. d. says:

    my goal for 2009 is simple enough that i'd like to meet someone with whom i'd like to have amazing sex regularly. not once, or every few months.

  5. jaleelah says:

    ooh, this is a fun one to think about. the more i think about it, the more goals i have, but the first one that comes to mind is being fisted. i've gotten close, but not quite there yet…

  6. sistercoyote says:

    I'd just like to lose my virginity in 2009 Forty's not too late, is it?

    [Not too late at all! – ss]

  7. Jack says:

    A drama free MFF threesome.

    A MMF as well and DP a girl.

    I want to finally have that make-out party.

    Learn and incorporate a lot more rope.

  8. Avah says:

    Dear Santa,

    I would like a pretty girlfriend of my own to share laughs, love, and lots and lots of orgasms. And post-coital cuddles.

    I know I've been a little naughty this year, but it's mostly just been the good kinds of naughty! :-D

    Love,

    Avah

  9. kyle says:

    My sexual goal for 2009 is to show Roxy (http://uncommoncuriosity.blogspot.com/) what it's like to be sexually satisfied by an experienced butch, a pleasure that has eluded her thus far in her life. I'll take her out for dinner and dancing and then romance her into a state of bliss. And then we'll both blog about it.

  10. Fafner says:

    I wanna learn to come as quickly from being fucked as my girl does from fucking me. I love it when she's a teenage boy. I just gotta teach my body to ride that action all to pieces the way my mind does every time I think of it.

  11. Essin' Em says:

    Let's see:

    *Be in hot queer porn (planned for Jan)

    *Top this super sexy Domme here, and then be topped by her

    *Learn to do fire play

    *Hook up with the infamous and hot Sinclair Sexsmith :)

  12. em says:

    My sex goal for 2009 is to introduce some of my old kinks into a new relationship

  13. roxy says:

    my goal for 2009? Simply to know what it feels like to kiss Kyle (http://www.butchtastic.net/) long and deep, one hand wrapped around the back of his neck to keep from swooning and the other hand lustily grabbing his ass as i grind down along his thigh while we rock and sway together to the Blues…

  14. j says:

    I want to have sex with my girl at least once a week.

    And I'd like to be handcuffed for at least 3/4 of it.

  15. Katerina says:

    Go to a bar with a date/lover, mouth off a bit, have her get pissed. When we get back home, be forced to strip and have her spank the shit out of me until she feels how wet I am. She grabs my hair, fucks my mouth and makes me go to sleep without coming.

    I wouldn't mind more public sex, either.

  16. Joy says:

    My sexual goal for 2009 is to have sex in a dressing room. Something we've never done, but I've wanted to do for awhile.

  17. Desci says:

    My goal for 2009 is to stop being distracted by lovely, but quick 'n' easy vanilla sex and get adventurous more frequently with my wonderful partner (kink is hard when you're both busy and tired, hee!)

  18. A says:

    It's kind of lame, but I need a rabbit vibrator. I never had much interest in one until I saw it in use, and all I want for Christmas (or in 2009) is a good rabbit.

    The Mr. Man is close second, though.

  19. I have never had sex in the backseat of a car (or the front seat, for that matter… So that is one of my goals. That and possibly experimenting with a xy boy. Except eww, that's gross, so maybe not. :)

  20. this year i want to be adventurous. i have newly-developed sexual confidence and it is my aim to seduce. there are beautiful women here, beautiful women in men's clothes, and i want to make them want me. i'm intelligent, i'm cute, and with a swing of my hips i might be able to have them begging. i'm newly semi-single and i'm erupting with fantasy and with desire.

    i'm writing a series of erotic stories based on actual events that occur in my life – with a bit of embellishment, of course. i want to flesh those out, make more of them. inspire others. inspire myself.

  21. Teddie says:

    I think that this is a way for my girlfriend to try to find out one of the scenarios I am planning for her.

    My true goal for 2009 is to not let work physically and emotionally wear me out so I can fuck said girlfriend as much as we both would like.

  22. Sakura says:

    In 2009 I want to try play piercing. It terrifies me so I've gotta do it. :)

  23. cee says:

    i want to seduce my stone butch lover, push her down and run my tongue across her broad chest, slip my hand beneath the calvins and into her. watch her strength and solidity turn blurry with lust and openness and warmth. i want to feel mighty in my femme-ness and femininity as i top this incredible woman.

  24. Ally says:

    hmm… in 2009 I want to be eiffel towered by two butches.

  25. appple says:

    to learn to control the phenomenon that is the female ejaculate.

  26. To fuck a lover, male or female, in the ass with a strap-on.
    Well, that’s kinda my goal for next week, so maybe for next *year*…
    to plan, promote, host and participate in a fully pansexual orgy at Frolicon (http://www.frolicon.com/) next Spring!

  27. Ephraim says:

    My sexual goal for 2009 is short and slightly alliterative:

    I would like to barter baked goods for beatings.

  28. I would like to get fisted (preferably by you Sinclair since reading about it on YOUR blog was the first time in interested me, and since we had that conversation about it).

    Of course if it can't be by you- well, I'll take a picture for you.

    remember we talked about that???

  29. Jess says:

    I'd like to expand my collection of sex toys/gadgets/gear. I'd also like to write a few smut stories…

    I'd also like to fuck Tina in her wedding gown on our wedding night. :)

  30. Tieara says:

    What do you want to do? What do you want to try that you’ve never done? Who do you want to fuck? Where do you want to be fucked? What toy have you never tried that you’d like to?

    I want passion that equates to complete understanding without words being necessary. Be it hot, wild, full out sex or a really good flogging that brings tears to my eyes as I succumb and relinquish my resistance. Where she conveys love with every touch whether soft or hard. Where sex is an event based on the energy and passion involved. Give of ourselves just as much as we are able to receive; pleasure at a level never experienced before. Multiple orgasms would be wonderful. And because I'm greedy, I'll have to say more. Public sex at a sex club of two sorts; Either a dyke party or a leather dyke party where I'm exposed and vulnerable; the center of attention. And because I always want more, I want to take charge using words as my weapon of choice to sway a woman normally in charge into a loving submissive in my arms. To use every tool accessible to me upon her skin bringing her from her snowy color to being heated and red. Then later….have her do the same.

    ( goodness, I'm never one for a few words am I… *laughs*)

  31. the femme top says:

    I’d simply like a butch who I feel a real connection with.

    Now, if that butch happens to like to play sexual confession games and let me play with her while she confesses, I won’t complain either.

  32. mmm…sex outside. maybe next to a beltane bonfire, but that’s asking a lot!

  33. coming soon says:

    To be able to consistently come with a partner. Simple goal, difficult in practice.

  34. myth says:

    More MMFs!

  35. Becky says:

    Hm, well, that’s a toughie. This is my freshman year of college, so I guess my goal would be to come out to my friends and such. It’s not exactly that I’m closeted–I’d answer truthfully if they asked, and it’s pretty freaking obvious if you know what to look for–but I’ve never outright said I’m gay. So that, and I’d like to get with this girl I’ve had an eye on for a while. I’ve got the biggest crush on her, and I think she knows it…we’ll see where that goes. Maybe an overall theme is to be more “out”going and assertive about these things! I would do well to take a lesson from Sinclair, here. :)

  36. Zoe says:

    perhaps this is generic, but i really want to be tied up and fucked. we've been working towards this so i'm optimistic that it will happen.

    also, i find it kind of hilarious that roxy and kyle have some foreplay going in this comment section ;)

  37. k says:

    I'd like to have semi-public–bathroom, park, darkened doorway–sex with a first-time partner.

    Also, I want a lover (very seventies!). Not a girlfriend, and not a hookup, hopefully, although in the right circumstances I wouldn't turn either down.

  38. What do you want to do?

    I want to be topped by a buxa who doesn't mind not only topping but dominating me.

    What do you want to try that you’ve never done?

    going to a dungeon

    Who do you want to fuck?

    I want the 'you-know-you-want-it-because-you-can't-have-it' sex with my ex

    Where do you want to be fucked?

    In the 'privacy room' near my cubicle in my office

  39. Suse says:

    Two butches. At once. I'm greedy!

  40. eclipse says:

    I want to figure out how to connect with a strap-on cock and maybe even be able to come from fucking my partner. She can do it – I'm so jealous!

    And I want a submissive boy (of any gender) for us to play with.

    Fingers crossed for 2009!

  41. Jane says:

    Go down on Dylan – whom I have only fucked once and want more…see http://birdielou.wordpress.com/2008/10/21/red-see… for my full-on fantasy. I started this fucking poetry blog just because I was so obsessed by imagining my mouth on him.

    Get fucked in multiple ways by Brett who is an online dating fling that is just starting up. This is my idea for starters – http://birdielou.wordpress.com/2008/12/11/lili-ma

    Tenderly fuck Dina until neither of us can move – she is my excessively femmy best friend, we've been skirting our sexual desires for one another all year, and last night I told her we needed to fuck…yes, the king of bluntness, that is me! I am typically attracted to other butch types, so her femminess is something really different for me.

  42. Hopeful says:

    I'd like to finally be handcuffed or have my wrists otherwise tied up during sex. Blindfolding would also be fun. This is dependent on actually finding someone to do them with, but since we're talking about the whole year of 2009, I have a feeling that there will be someone that comes along during that period of time.

  43. HA says:

    I want to get over myself and learn to talk dirty during sex. I get so shy, and then orgasms start and I lose all power of speech.

  44. Tuan says:

    I want to learn the ropes (kinbaku), and practice tying up a hot, big breasted female. She would be all pretty and horny and squished.

  45. hm … for 2009 …. watch some good dyke porn!

    and being that my sex tends to plan & present itself to me

    i intend to be polite and go along for the ride :)

  46. samantha says:

    Goals for 2009

    1.) Do NOT fuck any clingy/needy people. This is an absolute, and must be followed. More of a rule, actually.

    2.) Fuck a girl that actually knows how to top. You might think this would be simple, but D.C. is severely lacking in the dykey, top department.

    3.) Get restrained. I've done the whole multiple-uses-of-a-handcuff thing. Now im extremely interested in being tied up with rope, and being a complete submissive. Pushing the pain/pleasure bounds.

    4.) Lastly, watching more porn….preferably with a partner. I normally don't watch porn, nor do I own any….this is where this whole video thing would come in handy Mr. Sexsmith ;)

  47. I want to try rope suspension bondage. I watched a gorgeous scene at a play party with suspension in it, and ever since then, I've been dying to try it myself.

  48. the Green grrl says:

    though I've often felt on the verge of ejaculating, it's never happened.

    letting it happen – that's my goal for 2009, just like it was my goal for 2008

  49. JL says:

    I want to be spanked by a woman. I'm bi(pan?)sexual, and I've subbed for male lovers, but never with a woman.

    I think it will be exquisite.

  50. @ jane-I love the Femme/Femme desire (I secretly have been finding that I'm becoming open…just a bit to that…i'm normally ALL ABOUT boi's..)

    @ suse-mee tooo…I forgot about that one ;)

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