Comments on: Marriage is so gay*

By: Lemur

Lemur — Tue, 04 Nov 2008 21:46:34 +0000

I’m gonna come in with the much-abused but still classic statement- “The personal is political”. Because it still is, as much as I sometimes wish, in this case, it wasn’t. I still don’t get this whole one-is-better-than-the-other approach to marriage- have these legislators and protesters actually met the people they’re condemning? How can you look me in the face and tell me I can’t legally link my life with the woman I’ve loved for 10 years (and counting)?
Anyway, thanks for this post.

By: angelique

angelique — Tue, 28 Oct 2008 08:17:24 +0000

Shite, you’re making me cry! *wipes my eyes. smearing my mascara…again*

By: muse

muse — Mon, 27 Oct 2008 17:48:43 +0000

As if they were delicate glass boxes filled with mud, I pick them up from being buried in the compost heap and wash them, dig the dirt from their creases, make their silver shine, make them see-through again.

oh my god, you are such a poet. I adore your way with words! and I can’t wait to see you swing dance at your wedding… xo

By: Zoe

Zoe — Mon, 27 Oct 2008 06:52:37 +0000

I was 100% with you (and Peggy Sue) about the whole “really? this is the most important fight”, coming from an AIDS activist background.

But I’ve come to understand that there’s some logic to it, behind just money. I think perhaps seeing married, peaceful “just like us” queers will decrease the resistance to other aspects of the agenda (ie hate crimes legislation, equal protection clauses).

Maybe.

By: We’ve replaced your usual smut with political activism … let’s watch

Mon, 27 Oct 2008 03:06:52 +0000

[...] Marriage is so gay – oh right, sometimes I actually write words too, and don’t only post media. Here’s some of my thoughts halfway through this 8 Against 8 campaign. [...]

By: Desaray

Desaray — Sat, 25 Oct 2008 15:43:26 +0000

That Mark Twain quote is ever so slightly perfect and has required me to redesign my blog to include it. Totally thank you.

By: Peggy Sue

Peggy Sue — Sat, 25 Oct 2008 01:41:44 +0000

I totally hear you on this. As a radical queer myself, I spent many years fighting AIDS, and then I turned around and saw some of my community fighting to be in the military AND get fucking married. Both things seemed useless to me, and I didn’t endorse or waste energy on either for a long, LONG time.

And now? I think that change is glacial and incremental and every little bit pushes us closer to equality. Whether I ever get married or not, I now believe that this particular fight is worth it.

Although I will totally cop to daydreaming about my beautiful white Princess dress, and my father dancing with me at my wedding and then handing me off to the butch of my dreams someday.

Please keep posting this stuff. Whether we like it or not, what we do, who we are, hell, how we fuck, it’s all a political statement. And we need to stay awake and pay attention, even here.

And still read great smut, of course.

Peggy Sue