Comments on: the personal ad I’m not posting

By: Leah

Leah — Thu, 05 Jun 2008 04:44:41 +0000

I found your blog a few days ago and have been reading backwards in my spare time. I just wanted to say that this is really beautiful. It’s nice to know that femmes are desired – I find that to most of the queer women I know, I am not “gay enough”, whatever that is supposed to mean.

Thanks for giving me hope! I hope I can find a sexy butch like you!

By: Harri

Harri — Tue, 27 May 2008 23:09:44 +0000

this is just… awesome. i’ve been wandering around your site a bit since someone i barely know/am just beginning to know hit the nail right on the head by suggesting i might find it interesting.

lots of the other posts have had me nodding in agreement, but this one just blows me away; mostly because of how much i can identify with it, but also because (along-side your recent posts about misperceiving), it’s so encouraging to see someone writing about Femme and Butch as meaning what i see them as meaning.

and the ‘us’ section? are you a fan of Rilke’s letters to a young poet?

[Thank you! So glad you found me, and thanks for saying hi. I am a fan of Rilke in general - haven't read Letters in a long time, really, but I should get it out again, there's some great advice in there. - ss]

By: Katerina

Katerina — Wed, 09 Apr 2008 03:30:31 +0000

Sinclair, that is an endearing quality that you have and just made me realize that I need to get a rock back from one of my roommates that reminds me of a friend.

From a fellow fire sign, Happy Birthday. (I am way too not-with-it to send you shoe pics, though the ones you’ve posted are wonderful.)

By: apple

apple — Wed, 09 Apr 2008 02:29:41 +0000

i could fall…

By: Samantha

Samantha — Tue, 08 Apr 2008 20:09:37 +0000

Prepare to be overwhelmed with responses if in fact you do post that ad. It would definitely catch my eye.

By: cody grrl

cody grrl — Tue, 08 Apr 2008 19:56:48 +0000

I keep trying not to write “I want you.”, but it’s the only thing I can think of. We have some issues though, like I’m not really femme. I can wear a heel and look hot, but that lasts only 30 minutes or so. Thanks for keeping me smiling and hoping!! I always have a rock with me too, I just wear mine instead. A moonstone.

She’s out there, my friend, looking for you.

On a separate note, Sugarbutch Chronicles is a banned site at the air force base in Phoenix. I was “captured and logged”, but I can get on any other lesbian site, including porn. What’d you ever do to the air force?

By: Jill

Jill — Tue, 08 Apr 2008 18:15:25 +0000

This is adorable. I am going to have to agree that you should in fact post it.

By: Dev

Dev — Tue, 08 Apr 2008 15:44:50 +0000

That was so romantic and beautiful. You make me want to move and become a femme just so I can date you :)

By: Katerina

Katerina — Tue, 08 Apr 2008 15:20:54 +0000

Post it! Other femmes and butches need to see that ad and realize that there is someone else out there who’s looking for what they’re looking for.

I’m curious, why do you always have a rock with you?

[I usually have a rock from one of the beaches where I grew up in Alaska - like a worry stone, I guess. Something to touch that sometimes reminds me to stay grounded. My sister says I have no earth signs in my astrological chart, which is why, she thinks, I collect rocks - I don't know if that's it entirely, but that's probably part of it. I like the weight in my pocket. - ss]

By: muse

muse — Tue, 08 Apr 2008 14:03:08 +0000

oh. my. god. Sinclair, you are the butch bomb!

this is beautiful, swoonworthy, amazing, gender forward, and so hot. well done.

I think you should post this, but change the “us” part to what you’re actually up for now, right now. which is, I think, more along the lines of dating, romance, sex?

you gotta start somewhere, and if you find the right girl then of course you’ll move on to what you really want: the big, responsible, grown-up, holds-you-up instead of tears-you-apart love.

but really, do it, willya? I bet the femmes of cyberspace would agree, you owe it to some lucky girl out there. you’ve got a lot to give, hon.