Comments on: responding, à la Lorde http://www.sugarbutch.net/2008/03/responding-a-la-lorde/ The sex, gender, and relationship adventures of a kinky queer butch top Thu, 09 Feb 2012 16:09:45 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: where there is no punch line or lesson to be learned « just like jesse james http://www.sugarbutch.net/2008/03/responding-a-la-lorde/comment-page-1/#comment-16423 where there is no punch line or lesson to be learned « just like jesse james Sat, 14 Jan 2012 03:34:24 +0000 http://www.sugarbutch.net/2008/03/responding-a-la-lorde/#comment-16423 [...] I started this blog at the consistent and flattering push of Sinclair. I wrote a piece on her site years ago and her adoring fans were very kind at my first online publishing. After that, with a few [...] [...] I started this blog at the consistent and flattering push of Sinclair. I wrote a piece on her site years ago and her adoring fans were very kind at my first online publishing. After that, with a few [...]

]]> By: flaming faggot dyke meets the GSA (part 1 of 2) « just like jesse james http://www.sugarbutch.net/2008/03/responding-a-la-lorde/comment-page-1/#comment-9587 flaming faggot dyke meets the GSA (part 1 of 2) « just like jesse james Wed, 18 Nov 2009 01:04:52 +0000 http://www.sugarbutch.net/2008/03/responding-a-la-lorde/#comment-9587 [...] Once I was inside, to my surprise, the old dusty anger was clear. Somehow, after all of these years, my anger was still haunting in the echoes of all of the locker doors slamming open and shut. Or it was lingering in the stampede of jocks pushing their self-declared-entitlement through the halls to football practice. Maybe my rage was lurking in all of the seconds between some kid calling another kid a ‘fag’ and the teacher that blatantly heard the slur letting it go. Regardless, I walked into that building and felt like I was looking for the safe room, in a labyrinth of endless hallways, for a little speck of space on an enormously unsafe shore, where even though I had my own keys to a get-away car now, that no security guard could keep me from anymore, I was in full defense, like I have written before, and practiced most of my life, I was ready to slip my self into a much, ... [...] [...] Once I was inside, to my surprise, the old dusty anger was clear. Somehow, after all of these years, my anger was still haunting in the echoes of all of the locker doors slamming open and shut. Or it was lingering in the stampede of jocks pushing their self-declared-entitlement through the halls to football practice. Maybe my rage was lurking in all of the seconds between some kid calling another kid a ‘fag’ and the teacher that blatantly heard the slur letting it go. Regardless, I walked into that building and felt like I was looking for the safe room, in a labyrinth of endless hallways, for a little speck of space on an enormously unsafe shore, where even though I had my own keys to a get-away car now, that no security guard could keep me from anymore, I was in full defense, like I have written before, and practiced most of my life, I was ready to slip my self into a much, … [...]

]]> By: what happened in March http://www.sugarbutch.net/2008/03/responding-a-la-lorde/comment-page-1/#comment-2016 what happened in March Tue, 01 Apr 2008 15:24:32 +0000 http://www.sugarbutch.net/2008/03/responding-a-la-lorde/#comment-2016 [...] writing this up at “lesbian does not =”, and Jesse James responded with a guest post responding, a la Lorde (Jesse started her own blog, too). I finally weighed in with careful, your prejudice is [...] [...] writing this up at “lesbian does not =”, and Jesse James responded with a guest post responding, a la Lorde (Jesse started her own blog, too). I finally weighed in with careful, your prejudice is [...]

]]> By: Checking in with the Angry Anonymous Girl « just like jesse james http://www.sugarbutch.net/2008/03/responding-a-la-lorde/comment-page-1/#comment-1990 Checking in with the Angry Anonymous Girl « just like jesse james Sat, 29 Mar 2008 20:43:08 +0000 http://www.sugarbutch.net/2008/03/responding-a-la-lorde/#comment-1990 [...] been a few weeks now since I ran into your post on Craigslist and responded. Ever since I read your words I’ve had the same two lines from a song stuck… stuck… [...] [...] been a few weeks now since I ran into your post on Craigslist and responded. Ever since I read your words I’ve had the same two lines from a song stuck… stuck… [...]

]]> By: introducing: jesse james http://www.sugarbutch.net/2008/03/responding-a-la-lorde/comment-page-1/#comment-1952 introducing: jesse james Mon, 24 Mar 2008 17:13:16 +0000 http://www.sugarbutch.net/2008/03/responding-a-la-lorde/#comment-1952 [...] the hoopla about the angry, anonymous girl, jesse james’s response, and running into a particularly nasty post on Dooce which examined a bunch of hate mail, jesse [...] [...] the hoopla about the angry, anonymous girl, jesse james’s response, and running into a particularly nasty post on Dooce which examined a bunch of hate mail, jesse [...]

]]> By: Hate Mail « just like jesse james http://www.sugarbutch.net/2008/03/responding-a-la-lorde/comment-page-1/#comment-1949 Hate Mail « just like jesse james Mon, 24 Mar 2008 16:44:19 +0000 http://www.sugarbutch.net/2008/03/responding-a-la-lorde/#comment-1949 [...] I was talking to one of my very favorite people, Sinclair, about Dooce’s hate-mail and we were trying to decide if the people that throw around this angry anonymous hate are aware of their impact? Two weeks ago Sinclair posted an ad on her blog that she ran into on Craigslist that some angry anonymous girl had written. Should you chose to read it, I warn you: it is a long and hateful rant and it got me. I was surprised. And honestly it felt refreshing to be shocked and hurt by the hate I was reading. I took some time to respond to this girls post (also posted on Sugarbutch). [...] [...] I was talking to one of my very favorite people, Sinclair, about Dooce’s hate-mail and we were trying to decide if the people that throw around this angry anonymous hate are aware of their impact? Two weeks ago Sinclair posted an ad on her blog that she ran into on Craigslist that some angry anonymous girl had written. Should you chose to read it, I warn you: it is a long and hateful rant and it got me. I was surprised. And honestly it felt refreshing to be shocked and hurt by the hate I was reading. I took some time to respond to this girls post (also posted on Sugarbutch). [...]

]]> By: careful, your prejudice is showing http://www.sugarbutch.net/2008/03/responding-a-la-lorde/comment-page-1/#comment-1827 careful, your prejudice is showing Fri, 14 Mar 2008 16:13:59 +0000 http://www.sugarbutch.net/2008/03/responding-a-la-lorde/#comment-1827 [...] The Closet Musician is so right about thickened skin. Reading your posts, I feel the hatred you carry, but only down to a certain level before it just simply stops. Your words hit my bullet-proof armor and don’t penetrate any further. And that armor is made up of years of self-examination, of friend’s and lover’s support and care, of gender theory and feminist theory and queer theory, of reading memoirs and listening to my community’s stories. I haven’t internalized any of what you’ve said about female masculinity, about butches, bois, tomboys, about ME - which is good, that’s an improvement. [...] [...] The Closet Musician is so right about thickened skin. Reading your posts, I feel the hatred you carry, but only down to a certain level before it just simply stops. Your words hit my bullet-proof armor and don’t penetrate any further. And that armor is made up of years of self-examination, of friend’s and lover’s support and care, of gender theory and feminist theory and queer theory, of reading memoirs and listening to my community’s stories. I haven’t internalized any of what you’ve said about female masculinity, about butches, bois, tomboys, about ME – which is good, that’s an improvement. [...]

]]> By: “i’ve been in the lowlands too long” « “Don’t let’s talk.” http://www.sugarbutch.net/2008/03/responding-a-la-lorde/comment-page-1/#comment-1821 “i’ve been in the lowlands too long” « “Don’t let’s talk.” Thu, 13 Mar 2008 18:14:50 +0000 http://www.sugarbutch.net/2008/03/responding-a-la-lorde/#comment-1821 [...] queer, thoughts and ideas   Reading The Closet Musician’s guest post on Sugarbutch, “responding, a la Lorde,” i realized something almost unfathomable about my own tough skin: i’ve got one. To define [...] [...] queer, thoughts and ideas   Reading The Closet Musician’s guest post on Sugarbutch, “responding, a la Lorde,” i realized something almost unfathomable about my own tough skin: i’ve got one. To define [...]

]]> By: Katerina http://www.sugarbutch.net/2008/03/responding-a-la-lorde/comment-page-1/#comment-1816 Katerina Thu, 13 Mar 2008 11:01:44 +0000 http://www.sugarbutch.net/2008/03/responding-a-la-lorde/#comment-1816 Please start a blog because I think many of us could learn so much from how you approached this hate. I just want to give my whole community a hug right now. Please start a blog because I think many of us could learn so much from how you approached this hate.

I just want to give my whole community a hug right now.

]]> By: cyn http://www.sugarbutch.net/2008/03/responding-a-la-lorde/comment-page-1/#comment-1799 cyn Thu, 13 Mar 2008 02:00:14 +0000 http://www.sugarbutch.net/2008/03/responding-a-la-lorde/#comment-1799 thanks for writing this... beautifully worded despite the lack of beauty originally presented. thanks for writing this… beautifully worded despite the lack of beauty originally presented.

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