password protection

If you’d like to be included on the password email list, leave a comment with your email (and blog URL, if you have one) and I will update you with the password when I write a protected post.

I’ve written a few password-protected posts lately, mostly they are private journaling about my own process and thoughts, which is why they aren’t public.They are not some secret smut stories, or half-naked Thursday photos, though they may be, in the future.

I’m sure y’all know that I’m happy to reveal quite a lot about myself, though sometimes my own process feels not only self-indulgent but, occasionally, too intimate for the general internet public. Especially as this little writing project has gotten bigger and bigger, I seek a little more privacy on occasion.

But, on the other hand, personal self-reflection and processing is precisely why I started this writing project almost two years ago, and I gain such tremendous insight through writing out my process and my thoughts, as well as through the useful, constructive, responsive, and supportive comments. Sometimes readers have such insight into what’s up, and I so appreciate that feedback and conversation. Other times, readers tell me they are going exactly through the same thing, or that their girlfriends are just like me, and I find so much value in the sharing of our stories, in the places we are similar.

I don’t want to entirely lose the ability to write through my process here, but I had to do it slightly differently now that this site has grown. Hence, password protection.

Leave a comment if you’d like to be included on the mailing list to receive passwords in the future.

Published by Sinclair Sexsmith

Sinclair Sexsmith is a genderqueer kinky butch writer who teaches and performs, specializing in sexualities, genders, and relationships. They've written at since 2006, recognized numerous places as one of the Top Sex Blogs. Sinclair's gender theory and queer erotica is widely published in anthologies like Take Me There: Trans and Genderqueer Erotica, and online at Feministing, Autostraddle, AfterEllen, and more; they are the editor of Best Lesbian Erotica 2012 and Say Please: Lesbian BDSM Erotica, both published by Cleis Press. Sweet & Rough: Sixteen Stories of Queer Smut, Sinclair's first book of short erotic stories, was published in 2014. They use the pronouns they, them, theirs, themself, and live in Oakland, CA with their boy.

355 thoughts on “password protection”

  1. Betty Rocket says:

    Would hate to think I couldn't be privy to every part of your beautiful words.

    Please add me?


  2. adele says:

    May I have the password please?

    Your writing is amazing.

    Were you at the Femme Conference?

    Did I meet you?

  3. Jackie says:

    Love your blog! I want to read all of it :)

  4. !spark! says:

    Recently discovered the value of writing, but a few message boards and a blog comment here and there is all I can brave so far.

    Don't have a url/blog yet. I'm still too scared.

    Your openess blows my mind

    and leaves me wanting more.

    Password please?

  5. CottonTop says:

    Just found you and would love to be added to your password list. Can't wait to read more.

  6. smalltowndyke says:

    glad you liked the pic's . If you need more . please add me to the password list

  7. Amber says:

    I'm a new – and enamored! – reader who would love to be added to your password list.

  8. Caitlin says:

    I love your work! I would love to learn more about you. Please do add me to your password protected list.

  9. Bri says:

    love this site it has quickley become my favorite site online

  10. Moe says:

    Add me to the list, I’ve often stumbled across your site while searching for butch related things and now I’m rather on the addicted side.

  11. Nobilis says:

    Hey, I heard your interview with Ellie at Bedroom Radio and I found it fascinating.

    I am an erotica author and I find that lately my stories have begun to poke into questions of sex and gender, so I’d like to have access to your private posts.

  12. gerlinky says:

    There was a young lass called Gerlinky

    Who was partial to things that were kinky

    Wrote a note to Sinclair

    Requesting permission to share

    But heard nowt … should I have asked a little more meekly?

    OK, it's lame.

    But I'm in such limbo.

    Do I need to go down … and beg?

  13. Bri says:

    Love the site it has quickley become my favorite site online

  14. Jane says:

    Please add me to your password protected list. I found you because I was looking for a bra, read your post on breasts, then an hour & many posts later read the post where you talked about the gender galaxy. I love that you referenced Dylan’s (yeah trannymal!) gender ideas and am an enthusiast of multi-gendered identities. You are smart and funny…all good!

  15. Shev says:

    I'd love to be added to the password protected list. I really enjoy your site, particularly the gender explorations you go through. As a femme who is only recently being consistently read as visibly lesbian, mainly through hanging out in queer spaces, I really loved the post about the recent femme conference. Wish I could have gone, but transatlantic flights aren't exactly affordable for me right now =0)

  16. Wendy says:

    OMG, I just love reading your blog! I came across it from the Advocate blog I read and your writing is amazing. Please add me to your password protected list. I find myself checking your blog before any of the others I subscribe to. You have such insights into the gendered world and I find it easy to relate to all you have written (that I've read so far) and so much of it explains things that go on in my life. Thank you!

  17. Christina says:

    I'd like to be added to the list. Your writing has really helped me to understand the gender issues my girlfriend works through on a regular basis. For me, gender is natural and easy; for her, it's constructed and complicated. Thus, your writings on what it is to be butch, and to desire femmes, has given me insight. Your smut, well, that's just an added bonus.

  18. CL says:

    Congratulations on your win. Appreciate if I can be added to the mailing list for the password protected reads. Thanks and keep up the great and captivating writing!

  19. DK Leather says:

    Hi there.

    Having been a reader for a little while now (via google reader) I would love to be added to the password protected list, if that's acceptable to you. I very much enjoy reading your thoughts and thought processes… mine are on the blog url attached.

    ~doffs cap~

    DK (also a gender related post, poster)

  20. ulla says:

    yes please?

  21. KyleStyle says:

    I've just discovered your blog, it was suggested to me by GoogleReader..

    Through my girlfriend (HS sweethearts reunited after 25 years), I've been exploring my gender identity in all it's plurality and have also been writing erotic scenes .. some of which we play out .. very hot! I find in you a kindred spirit and I'm very happy to have found you and this community.

    My blog isn't gender or sexuality related, I am also a software development geek active in that community and Bugsplat reflects that outward facing identity.

    tx, Kyle

  22. Emily says:

    I'd like to be on the protected list now. I've read for a while, and am very interested. I started a new blog to discuss all of my gender/sexuality questions and if you have a minute, take a look? I have no one who understands it and I'm on the lookout for more queer bloggers.

  23. irma says:

    i ve been exploring my gender identity for quite some time now Your writing has really helped me to understand my gender issues I’d and to like to be added to the list if you want to

  24. Kate says:

    There is no particular reason for you to add me, you don't know me. However your tags mention redheaded armies, which sounds intriguing, and I've read for a long time.

  25. JT says:

    As a young butch stuck in a small town, this website is a god (goddess?) send! I love reading about your adventures, opinions, etc. and I'd consider it an honor to be on the password-protected list. If not, I understand and respect your right to privacy.

    Thank You!

  26. D says:

    Please add me to your password protected list. Thanks!

  27. ruf says:

    I've been reading your blog for awhile now and have really enjoyed it. I'd like to be added to the password protected list as well.


  28. Cote says:

    Pretty please?

  29. woodstock says:

    Am delurking to ask to be added to the password list.


  30. lia says:

    Hi, I'd love to be added. I am a new reader and am enjoying what I have read so far-thanks..

  31. Reggie says:


    Long time lurker, coming out of the shadows! Could I have the password?

    Many thanks!

  32. writelikeagirl says:

    Hi there. I have enjoyed reading your blog and would love to have the all access pass! My own blog has not "moved up in the world" so to speak so that I could have a password protected portion, but it's nice to think of that as an option at some point. Great idea. Great writing. Thanks!

  33. Aimee says:

    Would love to be included! Thanks!

  34. lifestyleagent says:


    I'm a long time lurker as well (for about a year), emerging to finally ask for a password.


  35. nimi says:

    i promise to stop lurking and start commenting on how much in love i am with your words.

  36. Beth says:

    Yet another lurker looking for a deeper level of commitment from you.

    Password, please.

    Thanks, man.

  37. Elizabeth says:

    Hi Sinclair,

    I've enjoyed reading your blog. You have a strong voice, which I like, and something to say, which I like even more. I would very much appreciate reading your password protected posts… if you feel like sharing that privilege with me.


  38. A says:

    Sinclair, I really would love to have a password to these protected entries. I love your blog!

  39. Sam Lamp says:

    great site! I will be sending this to all of my friends! Please add me to your password protect site

    Thanks Sly

  40. angelica says:

    i love your stories. password please!

  41. megan says:

    hey, i would love to be able to have a password
    love the webiste!!

  42. keely says:

    Hi, I read your blog regularly and find it very interesting and thought-provoking – and I like your writing style too. It would be great to have a password to see the protected posts. Thanks! x

  43. amber says:

    Yes Please.

  44. Jay T. says:

    Matey, from one Butch to another, I miss your most intimate posts – Love your style. Inspirational!

    Yes please!

  45. HLH says:

    just discovered your site (through susie bright). wow. fearless and amazing stuff. thanks.

  46. Danielle says:


    I love you site, I read it all the time. I would love to get the password for the protected posts!

    Thanks so much, you're an amazing writer!


  47. Rea says:

    I love reading your work. Please give me the password so I can enjoy more.

  48. lazslo says:

    Enjoy your musings, process, approach.

    Appreciate your openness, look forward to more.


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