password protection

If you’d like to be included on the password email list, leave a comment with your email (and blog URL, if you have one) and I will update you with the password when I write a protected post.

I’ve written a few password-protected posts lately, mostly they are private journaling about my own process and thoughts, which is why they aren’t public.They are not some secret smut stories, or half-naked Thursday photos, though they may be, in the future.

I’m sure y’all know that I’m happy to reveal quite a lot about myself, though sometimes my own process feels not only self-indulgent but, occasionally, too intimate for the general internet public. Especially as this little writing project has gotten bigger and bigger, I seek a little more privacy on occasion.

But, on the other hand, personal self-reflection and processing is precisely why I started this writing project almost two years ago, and I gain such tremendous insight through writing out my process and my thoughts, as well as through the useful, constructive, responsive, and supportive comments. Sometimes readers have such insight into what’s up, and I so appreciate that feedback and conversation. Other times, readers tell me they are going exactly through the same thing, or that their girlfriends are just like me, and I find so much value in the sharing of our stories, in the places we are similar.

I don’t want to entirely lose the ability to write through my process here, but I had to do it slightly differently now that this site has grown. Hence, password protection.

Leave a comment if you’d like to be included on the mailing list to receive passwords in the future.

Published by Sinclair Sexsmith

Sinclair Sexsmith is a genderqueer kinky butch writer who teaches and performs, specializing in sexualities, genders, and relationships. They've written at sugarbutch.net since 2006, recognized numerous places as one of the Top Sex Blogs. Sinclair's gender theory and queer erotica is widely published in anthologies like Take Me There: Trans and Genderqueer Erotica, and online at Feministing, Autostraddle, AfterEllen, and more; they are the editor of Best Lesbian Erotica 2012 and Say Please: Lesbian BDSM Erotica, both published by Cleis Press. Sweet & Rough: Sixteen Stories of Queer Smut, Sinclair's first book of short erotic stories, was published in 2014. They use the pronouns they, them, theirs, themself, and live in Oakland, CA with their boy.

355 thoughts on “password protection”

  1. mindy says:

    you mean there is more? then i definitely want more. please?

  2. Sarah says:

    I love reading your blog, could I have the password for more?

  3. Donna says:

    I'd like to read the password-protected posts. What's in there? {knock knock}

  4. Afrika06 says:

    Please send me a password!!!!

  5. goddessboi says:

    Would love to be on the list. This is HOT HOT HOT ! Also I finely linked to this site from my site.

    THANKS FOR CREATING THIS WONDERFUL SPACE!!!

    butchlove

  6. goddessboi says:

    Hello Sinclair, it's me again I could'nt fined your e-mai to let you know I put a link up at my site for you .I also pulled your top graphic for the link i hope thats ok?

    Thanks again

  7. SaS says:

    Been lurking for a couple months and your blog has become a favorite read. I'd certainly love the password. :]

  8. Bambi says:

    Yes please! I have been lurking on your blog for a while now and find it interesting and thought provoking.

  9. Autumn says:

    Hello! I think you are relentlessly sexy! I want to read everything!

  10. Corax says:

    I adore your blog: the compelling conversation, brilliant insights, and smart, shining style. and the hot, hot sex.

    You have me curious and I want to read it all!

    (and, wow, I completely botched my lj address the first attempt!)

  11. ieap says:

    i can't get enough. i want more.

  12. gerlinky says:

    Hey Sinclair,

    Would love to be included in your password protected writings. Been lurking for some time and always marvel at how you stimulate my mind and my crutch far better than any other blog I know …

  13. Michelle says:

    I'd love to be on your password list… your site is fast becoming one of my favourites.

  14. Ry says:

    Hi there :) I'd love to be included on the list if you don't mind.

  15. kat says:

    oh you bet i want to have the password…i'm a writer of erotic experience as well and love your work

  16. Blythe says:

    Hey, I absolutely adore the blog and would love to be on the password list if possible. Thanks! :)

  17. mb says:

    yes please, can't wait to read more

  18. sylvie says:

    LOVE your blog! Your erotica writing is incredibly hot and far surpasses the book of lesbian erotica I just ordered from Babeland. I also appreciate your discourse on gender identity–I love that I can come here and get either physically OR mentally stimulated.

    Can I please, please have the password?

    thank you!

    xoxo, sylvie

  19. dmf says:

    Please send me a password

  20. edith piaf says:

    may i please have a password for your private blogs?

  21. justalurker says:

    I've been devouring so many posts today, my first day reading here. Would love to see more.

  22. amy says:

    i just found your blog. it's fantastic to read other insights on gender issues. thanks so much for sharing!

  23. jess says:

    love the blog and would love to read more!

  24. LaPerlaNegra says:

    Hey ShuGah…I feel yo' flow…and would respectfully like to be added…peace!!!

  25. louise says:

    Just great. Love your style of writing. Cant seem to get enough. Would like to be added to the private blogs. Thanks for sharing.

  26. Kai says:

    Fairly new to your site, but your writing is engaging and powerful. I'd love to be added to the password list so I can continue to read!

    Thanks in advance!

  27. the dirty canuck says:

    long time listener first time caller. thank you for your writing these last few years.

  28. jules says:

    I just found this blog and I've really enjoyed reading it. You give a lot of food for thought, especially as I've been playing with my own gender more recently. I find that I've been identifying more and more with femme expression, and reconciling that with some of my older tendencies has been an interesting and enlightening experience.

    Thanks for all that you put out there !

  29. Mab says:

    Could I be on there too please?

  30. HoneyLemur says:

    This femme is intrigued. Pretty please, may I see more?

  31. Allthatjazz says:

    Your writing is inspirational and empowering. My confidence has grown through your experiences. Thank you for sharing.

  32. delightful wigglepus says:

    Your writing is a delicious treasure and deeply satisfying to me. May I please have the password?

  33. lovelorn says:

    after reading your words day in and day out, i'm as curious as can be. satiate me. (please.)

  34. Kitcat says:

    Love, Love, Love your blog. Just found it a few days ago and have been reading non stop. PLEASE include me for passwords!! Thx.

  35. Peggy Sue says:

    Please add me to the list.

    And if you have a livejournal account, please let me know your username. All my juicy stuff (especially my smutty outfit pictures, hooray!) is locked to my LJ friends only.

    Thanks. :)

    Peggy Sue

  36. Natalie Tucker says:

    if you have a livejournal account friend me and i'll put you on mine too.

  37. Sun says:

    Great blog. Just read your Bully story after your last post. Very hot! Thanks for sharing!

    Would love to be allowed to read the password-protected posts as well.

  38. maze says:

    Hey Sinclair, I’m so hooked to your writing I feel unfaithfull to the woman I’m in love with, I’m not so sure the password is a good idea for me, but it’s late and I’ve had a bit too much champagne, so please, please – and even without the password, sincerely – THANK YOU. Where I live we don’t make such gender distinctions but you’ve given me some much needed insights into the “butch” mental scheme – that’s awfully generalizing sorry – but I’m so “femme” I could be a trans, and again, where I live there’s no other way to be, and suddenly, I see some answers, and explanations… and what you write is fucking hot, which is rare in a woman. Please more.

  39. lilly* says:

    hi sugarbutch,

    love your blog. would love to get the password and to read more hot wunderful inspiring stuff about live, love, passion and other odds and ends.

    greets, lilly*

  40. stacey says:

    i'd love to be added to the list too! thanks!

  41. Erica says:

    thanks!

  42. Amelia says:

    I'd love to be added to your password list.

  43. Lilly says:

    I have been finally pouring over your blog for the last few hours. I've been reading recent stuff for a little while now, but the new Contest has me reading more of your erotica.

    I just came reading the winner of last year's contest.

    May I please be added to the list? Thank you..

  44. PrincessBabyGrrrl says:

    Mmm……Pretty please, with lollipops on top? ;)

  45. cate says:

    please please please include me on your password email list. at 45, I have recently met a femme who has knocked my socks off so far that I am realizing how I have suppressed my butch self most of my adult life…and I have so much to learn and embrace…your blog and my feelings for this girl have really opened my eyes. thanks.

  46. Ellis says:

    I'd love to be added to the list. I recently discovered this blog and I love it :) Thank you!

  47. r says:

    i just found your site and love the way you write – definitely wanna be on the password list.

  48. Mitchell Atticus says:

    i totally want to be added…thanks

  49. Queer Girl says:

    yes please, love your writing!

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