password protection

If you’d like to be included on the password email list, leave a comment with your email (and blog URL, if you have one) and I will update you with the password when I write a protected post.

I’ve written a few password-protected posts lately, mostly they are private journaling about my own process and thoughts, which is why they aren’t public.They are not some secret smut stories, or half-naked Thursday photos, though they may be, in the future.

I’m sure y’all know that I’m happy to reveal quite a lot about myself, though sometimes my own process feels not only self-indulgent but, occasionally, too intimate for the general internet public. Especially as this little writing project has gotten bigger and bigger, I seek a little more privacy on occasion.

But, on the other hand, personal self-reflection and processing is precisely why I started this writing project almost two years ago, and I gain such tremendous insight through writing out my process and my thoughts, as well as through the useful, constructive, responsive, and supportive comments. Sometimes readers have such insight into what’s up, and I so appreciate that feedback and conversation. Other times, readers tell me they are going exactly through the same thing, or that their girlfriends are just like me, and I find so much value in the sharing of our stories, in the places we are similar.

I don’t want to entirely lose the ability to write through my process here, but I had to do it slightly differently now that this site has grown. Hence, password protection.

Leave a comment if you’d like to be included on the mailing list to receive passwords in the future.

Published by Sinclair Sexsmith

Sinclair Sexsmith is a genderqueer kinky butch writer who teaches and performs, specializing in sexualities, genders, and relationships. They've written at since 2006, recognized numerous places as one of the Top Sex Blogs. Sinclair's gender theory and queer erotica is widely published in anthologies like Take Me There: Trans and Genderqueer Erotica, and online at Feministing, Autostraddle, AfterEllen, and more; they are the editor of Best Lesbian Erotica 2012 and Say Please: Lesbian BDSM Erotica, both published by Cleis Press. Sweet & Rough: Sixteen Stories of Queer Smut, Sinclair's first book of short erotic stories, was published in 2014. They use the pronouns they, them, theirs, themself, and live in Oakland, CA with their boy.

355 thoughts on “password protection”

  1. bzzzzgrrrl says:

    Yes, please. I'm new to your blog, too, and just really love it.

  2. eth says:

    enjoy your blog and would love a password.

  3. l says:

    hey, i would love to be added to your password protected list.

  4. Natascia says:

    I started a mock blog on Marjane Satrapi's Persepolis for a school project, and that's how I found you. I've since thought of starting a personal blog. I love the information about the community you provide. I live in Noho, and believe it or not, things are not good here.

    So, pretty please, add me?



  5. 'ree says:

    I've been reading your blog for a while now, Sinclair. I'm straight, but love to read about all things ..ehm…stimulating?

    We could all learn a lot from each other. Please may I have a password?



  6. Luv2Lurk says:

    been a lurker for awhile, would like to be on the list.

  7. Eve says:

    Love your writing, would love to read more.

  8. Blue in the Sky says:

    Me, me, me! I would love to be added to the list.

  9. Ally says:

    i stumbled across your site the other night and spent about 4 hours reading older posts. as someone who's been struggling to really own my femme/bottom identity, its been really great to check out your writings on gender binaries and labels. thanks so much for sharing your thoughts!

    … and the erotica is fabulous too :)

  10. ruby says:

    password, please?

  11. Maria says:

    I would love to be allowed to read your password protected post.

  12. Zoe says:

    Pretty please? This latest string of conversation just makes me more curious to see the whole picture. I promise to always/never comment, whichever you prefer.

  13. Harri says:


    i'd like a password if that'd be ok. i'm really enjoying reading your blog.


  14. el cyd says:


  15. Leah says:

    I love your site so much! Please add me!

  16. sifier says:

    pretty much i love you.

  17. shiv says:

    I started reading a few weeks ago, and I'm enjoying your words immensely…i would love to read all of them. Though I am a lurker, so if a password is out of the question, I fully understand.

  18. Allison says:

    I would love to be on the password protected list.

  19. J9 says:

    Please and thank you…

  20. AB says:

    I would love to be added, please.

    Thank you.

  21. jaleelah says:

    I left my comment for getting the password in your post about all that happened in may, and then I wondered if I was supposed to leave it here instead. Anyway, I would love it since you're still offering!

  22. Paige says:

    Hi, I would love to have the password to access some of those protected entries. They've come highly recommended by friends as material that I would enjoy. Thanks!

  23. Veronica says:

    I would love to know the password. I enjoy reading your material~~V

  24. tattooedheart1 says:

    you might like to have a look at my musings at myspace and then you might even want to add me..

    love your page and will visit again when I have some time to read everything…

    Ms B

  25. Jero says:

    What's up man? I'm here to sign up to be #226, LOL. Thanks for all of the work you put into keeping this blog going. It's a great queer resource and you should be proud.

    Ciao, brother.


  26. Desde says:

    If you wouldn't mind, I would love to be on the password list, thanks.


  27. MM says:

    I'm glad I bumped into this blog. Can this intrigued femme have a password pretty please?

  28. RJ says:

    Love your page…wish I was so brave…but I'd love a password

  29. londonfemme says:

    Top! In the very British sense of the word. And in every other sense that really counts. Your password please, mister. Thanks awfully.

  30. Cocoa says:

    I have been reading your blog for a while, and I am impressed with your writing and your expressions on what you think about being femme or butch. I would love to be added to the password list please.

  31. Stephanie says:

    I just discovered your site today and I adore your voice. I'd love to read the password posts.


  32. misstressp says:

    let me in… you know you wanna….

  33. pb says:

    your blog rocks! gives me lots to think about and about my own process. would love to read your pwd posts.

  34. omnivore says:

    Just found your blog and enjoy reading about butches who appreciate femmes. Would love to be added to your top-seekrit posts.

  35. pammo says:

    your writing is a pleasure…

  36. likehoney says:

    i just discovered you and your site and i adore. would love to be added to the password posts, thanks!

  37. TCsPalace says:

    I'm new to your site & I have been very entertained by your writing I'd like to see what else your thinking…

  38. Jzosh says:

    I am quite enamored of your blog, which never fails to give me something wonderful to think about.

  39. ozpiratequeen says:

    Yes, please, count me in. The way you share your thinking helps me reflect on similar things in my own life and I really appreciate it. Plus scrolling through this list of women saying, “Please,” is a real turn-on…

  40. Shelby says:

    Would love to join those who get to read all you share. Have really enjoyed reading all the honesty and heat so far. Thanks for putting yourself out there

  41. Deb says:

    darlin’ i’d love to be password protected and privy to all the dirty little secrets or not so secrets you like to share. love to get to know more about a fellow exhibitionist.

  42. Miss M says:

    Yes please! I'd love to have the password.

  43. Sam says:

    I would love to have the password.

  44. tempcontretemps says:

    it did work.

    now it doesn’t!

    is there a new one?

  45. karla says:

    I am officially addicted. May I have the password? Pretty please with strappy sandals on top?

  46. Zofia says:

    You're blog is wonderful, but your poetry, when you share with us, is sublime.

    Would be honored to be added to your password protected posts.



  47. joestar says:

    Please may I have the password?

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