password protection

If you’d like to be included on the password email list, leave a comment with your email (and blog URL, if you have one) and I will update you with the password when I write a protected post.

I’ve written a few password-protected posts lately, mostly they are private journaling about my own process and thoughts, which is why they aren’t public.They are not some secret smut stories, or half-naked Thursday photos, though they may be, in the future.

I’m sure y’all know that I’m happy to reveal quite a lot about myself, though sometimes my own process feels not only self-indulgent but, occasionally, too intimate for the general internet public. Especially as this little writing project has gotten bigger and bigger, I seek a little more privacy on occasion.

But, on the other hand, personal self-reflection and processing is precisely why I started this writing project almost two years ago, and I gain such tremendous insight through writing out my process and my thoughts, as well as through the useful, constructive, responsive, and supportive comments. Sometimes readers have such insight into what’s up, and I so appreciate that feedback and conversation. Other times, readers tell me they are going exactly through the same thing, or that their girlfriends are just like me, and I find so much value in the sharing of our stories, in the places we are similar.

I don’t want to entirely lose the ability to write through my process here, but I had to do it slightly differently now that this site has grown. Hence, password protection.

Leave a comment if you’d like to be included on the mailing list to receive passwords in the future.

Published by Sinclair Sexsmith

Sinclair Sexsmith is "the best-known butch erotica writer whose kinky, groundbreaking stories have turned on countless queer women" (AfterEllen), who "is in all the books, wins all the awards, speaks at all the panels and readings, knows all the stuff, and writes for all the places" (Autostraddle). ​Their short story collection, Sweet & Rough: Queer Kink Erotica, was a 2016 finalist for the Lambda Literary Award. They identify as a white non-binary butch dominant, a survivor, and an introvert, and use the pronouns they, them, theirs, themself. Follow all their personal writings and all the updates through

355 thoughts on “password protection”

  1. drBombay says:

    best darn queer site, ever! i would love to gain access to your entire site–thanks

  2. Wendy D says:

    delurking for a password, please.

  3. OhYeaDaddy says:

    You are bringing life to a California Butch in Kansas!

  4. Donna says:


  5. Scout says:

    Great blog! I love hearing thoughts and stories that are so familiar. Please include me in your password list.


  6. Jenny says:

    Yes, please. Thanks

  7. carolinagrrrl says:

    I can't believe I have never asked to be included in this before. :)

  8. Kelley says:

    May I have a password please? Thanks.

  9. folkswitch says:

    I would love to be counted among the password privy. I have been subscribed to your blog for some time and enjoy your writings so much. I simply can no longer resist…


  10. Lisa says:

    I would love to have the password. This blog rocks my socks off!

  11. way says:

    please send me your password


    Bad Bad Girl has put up a great picture

    of her for your Birthday

  12. shira says:

    Beautiful site. I've been wandering around here and miss your more intimate posts. Hoping you'll include me on the password list. Voyeurist, but in the best most thoughtful ways.

  13. Phyz says:

    Wow. I am so completely late to the party here. Grad school needs to stop kicking my ass so I can post things on time…or it just needs to stop kicking my ass. Whichever. ;-)

  14. Carly says:

    Me too, please!

  15. Sonya says:

    Please include me also. I have enjoyed reading your blog. Thank-you for sharing your life with us.


  16. Jill says:

    Por favor?

  17. Deb says:

    I just discovered your site, but I immediately became one of the "thousand girls sighing". Please add me to the list.

  18. weenis says:


  19. Lina says:

    Yes please Sinclair x

  20. vitium says:

    Great writing, great style.

    Thank you!

  21. Stephanie says:

    Please please please me

  22. lifes.seduction says:

    A creeper I have been upon your breathtaking words and intellect… allow me to feel less creepy and grant me your gracious permission for a password.

  23. Perdy says:

    I like to feel special.

  24. r.y. says:

    add me. please.

  25. Robin says:

    I think I tried this before, but I don't think I ever got a password. Mebbe I did it wrong? Here's me trying again. :)

  26. Alea says:

    Oh, please please please may I have a password?

    I'll beg more if you want. But, really, I just recently found your blog and have fallen face-first in love. I've been reading your new posts even as I work my way backward, messing with chronology in a way that pleases my subversive nature.

    Thank you! And, for the love of all things deliciously sexy, please keep writing! You're wonderful.

  27. Perdy says:

    I forgots

  28. Caitlyn says:

    Your blog is beautifully and intelligently written. Please add me to your password list!

  29. Jaclyn says:

    I’d like to be included.

  30. angelica says:

    please add me to your password list!

  31. Lori says:

    Hi SB, Sure would love to read those – didn’t get a password with my early request.

  32. sk says:

    i enjoy your writing greatly. may i have a password to read more?

  33. Shaila says:

    I am intrigued… and I have spent the last hour reading various parts of your blog. May I have the honor?

  34. boigal says:

    Love your writing, your boldness and honesty. Can I be added to your password list please?

  35. radicaldoula says:

    Big fan of the blog, especially your discussions of masculinity, gender and relationships. Would love to learn more!

  36. lovergirl says:

    Would you be so kind as to add me? I have read your blog for some time, I love waiting for each new posting. Thank you!!

  37. JR says:

    Will you please add me to the password email list?

  38. Daisy says:

    Me too, if that's okay. Love the blog.

  39. Felice Newman says:

    Really enjoy your site!

    Felice Newman

    Cleis Press

  40. alice says:

    i’d love to have the password. love what i’ve read so far.

  41. em says:

    Reading you is helping me to focus myself. Thank you.

  42. Kytherea says:

    Add me please. I really enjoy reading your blog. It feeds the bi-curious side of me. When the opportunity presents itself, the curious part will change to bi-WOW. lol


  43. susan says:

    Yes, please, I would like to read more!

  44. g8rlane says:

    Yes! Add me please! Thanks!

  45. Summer says:

    I've been deployed for awhile and missed you & your writing….please add me.

  46. Perdy says:

    Please I forgot it.

  47. Miss Kimberly says:

    Hi, queer femme here in Seattle that is a new reader to your blog….I would be honoured to be on your list. Thanks much!

  48. lucrece says:

    i would so love to have the password too!

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