password protection

February 22, 2008  |  miscellany

If you’d like to be included on the password email list, leave a comment with your email (and blog URL, if you have one) and I will update you with the password when I write a protected post.

I’ve written a few password-protected posts lately, mostly they are private journaling about my own process and thoughts, which is why they aren’t public.They are not some secret smut stories, or half-naked Thursday photos, though they may be, in the future.

I’m sure y’all know that I’m happy to reveal quite a lot about myself, though sometimes my own process feels not only self-indulgent but, occasionally, too intimate for the general internet public. Especially as this little writing project has gotten bigger and bigger, I seek a little more privacy on occasion.

But, on the other hand, personal self-reflection and processing is precisely why I started this writing project almost two years ago, and I gain such tremendous insight through writing out my process and my thoughts, as well as through the useful, constructive, responsive, and supportive comments. Sometimes readers have such insight into what’s up, and I so appreciate that feedback and conversation. Other times, readers tell me they are going exactly through the same thing, or that their girlfriends are just like me, and I find so much value in the sharing of our stories, in the places we are similar.

I don’t want to entirely lose the ability to write through my process here, but I had to do it slightly differently now that this site has grown. Hence, password protection.

Leave a comment if you’d like to be included on the mailing list to receive passwords in the future.

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Want more? You’re insatiable.

Highlights, announcements, workshops, and sometimes even exclusive smut. Plus, get the password for protected posts.


  1. delurking for a password, please.

  2. You are bringing life to a California Butch in Kansas!

  3. Great blog! I love hearing thoughts and stories that are so familiar. Please include me in your password list.


  4. I can't believe I have never asked to be included in this before. :)

  5. May I have a password please? Thanks.

  6. I would love to be counted among the password privy. I have been subscribed to your blog for some time and enjoy your writings so much. I simply can no longer resist…


  7. I would love to have the password. This blog rocks my socks off!

  8. please send me your password


    Bad Bad Girl has put up a great picture

    of her for your Birthday

  9. Beautiful site. I've been wandering around here and miss your more intimate posts. Hoping you'll include me on the password list. Voyeurist, but in the best most thoughtful ways.

  10. Wow. I am so completely late to the party here. Grad school needs to stop kicking my ass so I can post things on time…or it just needs to stop kicking my ass. Whichever. ;-)

  11. Please include me also. I have enjoyed reading your blog. Thank-you for sharing your life with us.


  12. I just discovered your site, but I immediately became one of the "thousand girls sighing". Please add me to the list.

  13. Great writing, great style.

    Thank you!

  14. Please please please me

  15. A creeper I have been upon your breathtaking words and intellect… allow me to feel less creepy and grant me your gracious permission for a password.

  16. I like to feel special.

  17. I think I tried this before, but I don't think I ever got a password. Mebbe I did it wrong? Here's me trying again. :)

  18. Oh, please please please may I have a password?

    I'll beg more if you want. But, really, I just recently found your blog and have fallen face-first in love. I've been reading your new posts even as I work my way backward, messing with chronology in a way that pleases my subversive nature.

    Thank you! And, for the love of all things deliciously sexy, please keep writing! You're wonderful.

  19. Your blog is beautifully and intelligently written. Please add me to your password list!

  20. please add me to your password list!

  21. Hi SB, Sure would love to read those – didn’t get a password with my early request.

  22. i enjoy your writing greatly. may i have a password to read more?

  23. I am intrigued… and I have spent the last hour reading various parts of your blog. May I have the honor?

  24. Love your writing, your boldness and honesty. Can I be added to your password list please?

  25. Big fan of the blog, especially your discussions of masculinity, gender and relationships. Would love to learn more!

  26. Would you be so kind as to add me? I have read your blog for some time, I love waiting for each new posting. Thank you!!

  27. Will you please add me to the password email list?

  28. Me too, if that's okay. Love the blog.

  29. Really enjoy your site!

    Felice Newman

    Cleis Press

  30. i’d love to have the password. love what i’ve read so far.

  31. Reading you is helping me to focus myself. Thank you.

  32. Yet another lurker who wants more. Hee!

  33. Add me please. I really enjoy reading your blog. It feeds the bi-curious side of me. When the opportunity presents itself, the curious part will change to bi-WOW. lol


  34. Yes, please, I would like to read more!

  35. I've been deployed for awhile and missed you & your writing….please add me.

  36. Please I forgot it.

  37. Hi, queer femme here in Seattle that is a new reader to your blog….I would be honoured to be on your list. Thanks much!

  38. i would so love to have the password too!

  39. Yes, please. I'm new to your blog, too, and just really love it.

  40. enjoy your blog and would love a password.


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