password protection

If you’d like to be included on the password email list, leave a comment with your email (and blog URL, if you have one) and I will update you with the password when I write a protected post.

I’ve written a few password-protected posts lately, mostly they are private journaling about my own process and thoughts, which is why they aren’t public.They are not some secret smut stories, or half-naked Thursday photos, though they may be, in the future.

I’m sure y’all know that I’m happy to reveal quite a lot about myself, though sometimes my own process feels not only self-indulgent but, occasionally, too intimate for the general internet public. Especially as this little writing project has gotten bigger and bigger, I seek a little more privacy on occasion.

But, on the other hand, personal self-reflection and processing is precisely why I started this writing project almost two years ago, and I gain such tremendous insight through writing out my process and my thoughts, as well as through the useful, constructive, responsive, and supportive comments. Sometimes readers have such insight into what’s up, and I so appreciate that feedback and conversation. Other times, readers tell me they are going exactly through the same thing, or that their girlfriends are just like me, and I find so much value in the sharing of our stories, in the places we are similar.

I don’t want to entirely lose the ability to write through my process here, but I had to do it slightly differently now that this site has grown. Hence, password protection.

Leave a comment if you’d like to be included on the mailing list to receive passwords in the future.

Published by Sinclair Sexsmith

Sinclair Sexsmith is a genderqueer kinky butch writer who teaches and performs, specializing in sexualities, genders, and relationships. They've written at since 2006, recognized numerous places as one of the Top Sex Blogs. Sinclair's gender theory and queer erotica is widely published in anthologies like Take Me There: Trans and Genderqueer Erotica, and online at Feministing, Autostraddle, AfterEllen, and more; they are the editor of Best Lesbian Erotica 2012 and Say Please: Lesbian BDSM Erotica, both published by Cleis Press. Sweet & Rough: Sixteen Stories of Queer Smut, Sinclair's first book of short erotic stories, was published in 2014. They use the pronouns they, them, theirs, themself, and live in Oakland, CA with their boy.

355 thoughts on “password protection”

  1. SuperSoftStud says:

    sinclair. i’d love to read more of your writing.

    on another note, i took your recommendations. i purchased both the feeldoe and Mr. Silky. I packed for the first time ever last weekend, and on a first date no less! it was fabulously arousing to me. i never thought that it would feel so much a part of me. i found myself touching myself through my jeans, leaning into counters, shifting my stance and no lie, i felt every ripple, every brief touch as if the dick had been mine all my life! my clit ached at any contact!

    i have found that i now have a heightened masculine energy that seeks to “penetrate” the women i’m seeing. a hunger to “have” them that is new, overpowering and has me jerking off often. thanks for the reviews and guidance.


    [Wow – intense! And SO hot! I’m thrilled to hear that you’re having a good time with the Silky and packing – feel free to send more details or update me/us in the future. How’d the date go? :) – ss]

  2. elsafemme says:

    I am a great admirer of your writing and would very much like to have the password, if that's ok?


  3. smartypants says:

    another lurker here, pretty please may i have a password?

  4. challenge says:
  5. Jeremy says:

    Ooh! Ooh! Pick me! Can I know the secret password?

    I've been reading for a short while, and I look forward to hearing your thoughts. It's lovely to hear such eloquent thoughts on the gender binary, and such hot thoughts on last thursday.

    Thanks for sharing!

  6. deep south says:

    password, yes. luv, mikey

  7. L says:

    I enjoy your writing… thanks for sharing.

  8. ra says:

    i love your blog. password please. thanks, ra

  9. clinton says:

    please add me to ur password list.

  10. lori says:

    I'd be honored to be included.

  11. She Said says:

    I don't think I've ever seen this many comments on someone's blog before!

    Anyway — yes, please let me know the password as well.


  12. erika says:

    i enjoy your blog a lot and would love to be have the password, if that's alright. :)

  13. linky says:

    pick me please.

  14. Sair says:

    I've only recently found your blog, but I have really enjoyed your writing and your views on femme, butch, gender in general, sex, et cetera. It would please me greatly to have the password for your protected posts.

    Many thanks,


  15. Clarke says:

    Found your blog a couple of months ago, and really enjoy reading you. Can I also be added?

  16. Just Me says:

    I would like to read them, if you will allow me to. I have been reading along for a few months and you’ve given me a lot to think about.

  17. rmpl says:


  18. Diane says:

    Progressing is good!

  19. fridaypeach says:

    Yes please.

  20. Jack says:

    I'd love to be passworded in.

  21. LeOwner says:

    DJoy did me the largest favor by introducing me to your really really potent writting. Cheers, M

  22. red says:

    I would like to read them too, if that’s cool with you. Your blog is a recent find for me but its a keeper…

  23. wlderose says:

    Yes please x

  24. Lin says:

    please include me, if you could.

  25. jetgirl says:

    Love your blog and would love to be on the super secret list of password secretude!

  26. Eileen says:

    I really wanted to make a "show me yours I'll show you mine" joke here, but you've already seen mine. Damn.

  27. Leander says:

    I’d love to be passworded in.

  28. Bleu says:

    I think that you're amazing! Please send me password updates:-)

  29. Rona says:

    If you would not mind, I would like to be able to read your password protected posts. Not only am I a huge fan of your blog, but both times I’ve met you I’ve been quite impressed with _you_. You’re good folks.

  30. Kelit says:

    I think what you are doing here is starting a dialogue and revealing thoughts about the grey areas not many people notice, but for those who live in them, every new dimension revealed is multifaceted and wonderful. Your blog has been a favorite spot of mine for a while, to both enjoy and ponder. It would be an honor to continue reading.

  31. llucky says:

    I love your blog, it's a great way for me to get into the mind of a true butch. Now if only I could find one just like you! But until then could this femme also be included in your password protected updates please?

  32. jmw says:

    another long-time lurker looking to be added!

  33. warhol says:

    long time reader, first time responding..pls add me your stories are so intens and honest..I love them!

  34. Lilian says:

    I'd love to have a password

  35. jody says:

    i'd love to get the password. am a big fan. thanks.

  36. laurynx says:

    I love your blog. Your thoughts and musings are very interesting to a baby femme.


  37. Kanza says:

    I like the website… I'd love to get a password, although I'm not the participatiest of folk. ^^

  38. tempcontretemps says:

    can I get the password for the earlier posts, too?

    love the blog!


  39. katwoman says:

    Can I please have the passwords for the protected posts

  40. Kirby says:

    I would love to be on your super secret list. I love your style!

  41. Jack says:

    i would really like the password, if that's ok. i absolutely adore reading your blog. ^^

  42. Avah says:

    I'd like to be included too!

  43. Nic says:

    I was trying to not ask for the pasword. I figured if you wanted everyone to read it, it wouldn’t be password protected. But curiosity killed the cat. I would love to have it, if I may? I should have known I couldn’t hold out for too long. *sigh* =)

  44. francesca says:

    more stunning writing? and lusty tales of woe and wet? count me IN.

  45. aJenniferOriginal says:

    Yes, yes please.

  46. Boymeat says:

    I’m late to the game, but may I be included?

  47. Patism says:

    Send it on.

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