password protection

February 22, 2008  |  miscellany

If you’d like to be included on the password email list, leave a comment with your email (and blog URL, if you have one) and I will update you with the password when I write a protected post.

I’ve written a few password-protected posts lately, mostly they are private journaling about my own process and thoughts, which is why they aren’t public.They are not some secret smut stories, or half-naked Thursday photos, though they may be, in the future.

I’m sure y’all know that I’m happy to reveal quite a lot about myself, though sometimes my own process feels not only self-indulgent but, occasionally, too intimate for the general internet public. Especially as this little writing project has gotten bigger and bigger, I seek a little more privacy on occasion.

But, on the other hand, personal self-reflection and processing is precisely why I started this writing project almost two years ago, and I gain such tremendous insight through writing out my process and my thoughts, as well as through the useful, constructive, responsive, and supportive comments. Sometimes readers have such insight into what’s up, and I so appreciate that feedback and conversation. Other times, readers tell me they are going exactly through the same thing, or that their girlfriends are just like me, and I find so much value in the sharing of our stories, in the places we are similar.

I don’t want to entirely lose the ability to write through my process here, but I had to do it slightly differently now that this site has grown. Hence, password protection.

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350 Comments


  1. Recently discovered the value of writing, but a few message boards and a blog comment here and there is all I can brave so far.

    Don't have a url/blog yet. I'm still too scared.

    Your openess blows my mind

    and leaves me wanting more.

    Password please?

  2. Just found you and would love to be added to your password list. Can't wait to read more.

  3. glad you liked the pic's . If you need more . please add me to the password list

  4. I'm a new – and enamored! – reader who would love to be added to your password list.

  5. I love your work! I would love to learn more about you. Please do add me to your password protected list.

  6. love this site it has quickley become my favorite site online

  7. Add me to the list, I’ve often stumbled across your site while searching for butch related things and now I’m rather on the addicted side.

  8. Hey, I heard your interview with Ellie at Bedroom Radio and I found it fascinating.

    I am an erotica author and I find that lately my stories have begun to poke into questions of sex and gender, so I’d like to have access to your private posts.

  9. There was a young lass called Gerlinky

    Who was partial to things that were kinky

    Wrote a note to Sinclair

    Requesting permission to share

    But heard nowt … should I have asked a little more meekly?

    OK, it's lame.

    But I'm in such limbo.

    Do I need to go down … and beg?

  10. Love the site it has quickley become my favorite site online

  11. Please add me to your password protected list. I found you because I was looking for a bra, read your post on breasts, then an hour & many posts later read the post where you talked about the gender galaxy. I love that you referenced Dylan’s (yeah trannymal!) gender ideas and am an enthusiast of multi-gendered identities. You are smart and funny…all good!

  12. I'd love to be added to the password protected list. I really enjoy your site, particularly the gender explorations you go through. As a femme who is only recently being consistently read as visibly lesbian, mainly through hanging out in queer spaces, I really loved the post about the recent femme conference. Wish I could have gone, but transatlantic flights aren't exactly affordable for me right now =0)

  13. OMG, I just love reading your blog! I came across it from the Advocate blog I read and your writing is amazing. Please add me to your password protected list. I find myself checking your blog before any of the others I subscribe to. You have such insights into the gendered world and I find it easy to relate to all you have written (that I've read so far) and so much of it explains things that go on in my life. Thank you!

  14. I'd like to be added to the list. Your writing has really helped me to understand the gender issues my girlfriend works through on a regular basis. For me, gender is natural and easy; for her, it's constructed and complicated. Thus, your writings on what it is to be butch, and to desire femmes, has given me insight. Your smut, well, that's just an added bonus.

  15. Congratulations on your win. Appreciate if I can be added to the mailing list for the password protected reads. Thanks and keep up the great and captivating writing!

  16. Hi there.

    Having been a reader for a little while now (via google reader) I would love to be added to the password protected list, if that's acceptable to you. I very much enjoy reading your thoughts and thought processes… mine are on the blog url attached.

    ~doffs cap~

    DK (also a gender related post, poster)

  17. I've just discovered your blog, it was suggested to me by GoogleReader..

    Through my girlfriend (HS sweethearts reunited after 25 years), I've been exploring my gender identity in all it's plurality and have also been writing erotic scenes .. some of which we play out .. very hot! I find in you a kindred spirit and I'm very happy to have found you and this community.

    My blog isn't gender or sexuality related, I am also a software development geek active in that community and Bugsplat reflects that outward facing identity.

    tx, Kyle

  18. I'd like to be on the protected list now. I've read for a while, and am very interested. I started a new blog to discuss all of my gender/sexuality questions and if you have a minute, take a look? I have no one who understands it and I'm on the lookout for more queer bloggers.

  19. i ve been exploring my gender identity for quite some time now Your writing has really helped me to understand my gender issues I’d and to like to be added to the list if you want to

  20. There is no particular reason for you to add me, you don't know me. However your tags mention redheaded armies, which sounds intriguing, and I've read for a long time.

  21. As a young butch stuck in a small town, this website is a god (goddess?) send! I love reading about your adventures, opinions, etc. and I'd consider it an honor to be on the password-protected list. If not, I understand and respect your right to privacy.

    Thank You!

  22. Please add me to your password protected list. Thanks!

  23. I've been reading your blog for awhile now and have really enjoyed it. I'd like to be added to the password protected list as well.

    Thanks!

  24. Am delurking to ask to be added to the password list.

    Thanks.

  25. Hi, I'd love to be added. I am a new reader and am enjoying what I have read so far-thanks..

  26. :D

    Long time lurker, coming out of the shadows! Could I have the password?

    Many thanks!

  27. Hi there. I have enjoyed reading your blog and would love to have the all access pass! My own blog has not "moved up in the world" so to speak so that I could have a password protected portion, but it's nice to think of that as an option at some point. Great idea. Great writing. Thanks!

  28. Would love to be included! Thanks!

  29. Hi,

    I'm a long time lurker as well (for about a year), emerging to finally ask for a password.

    Thanks!

  30. i promise to stop lurking and start commenting on how much in love i am with your words.

  31. Yet another lurker looking for a deeper level of commitment from you.

    Password, please.

    Thanks, man.

  32. Hi Sinclair,

    I've enjoyed reading your blog. You have a strong voice, which I like, and something to say, which I like even more. I would very much appreciate reading your password protected posts… if you feel like sharing that privilege with me.

    Thanks!

  33. Sinclair, I really would love to have a password to these protected entries. I love your blog!

  34. great site! I will be sending this to all of my friends! Please add me to your password protect site

    Thanks Sly

  35. i love your stories. password please!

  36. hey, i would love to be able to have a password
    thanks
    love the webiste!!
    meg

  37. Hi, I read your blog regularly and find it very interesting and thought-provoking – and I like your writing style too. It would be great to have a password to see the protected posts. Thanks! x

  38. Matey, from one Butch to another, I miss your most intimate posts – Love your style. Inspirational!

    Yes please!

  39. just discovered your site (through susie bright). wow. fearless and amazing stuff. thanks.

  40. Hey!

    I love you site, I read it all the time. I would love to get the password for the protected posts!

    Thanks so much, you're an amazing writer!

    Danielle

  41. I love reading your work. Please give me the password so I can enjoy more.

  42. Enjoy your musings, process, approach.

    Appreciate your openness, look forward to more.

    Thx

  43. i love the name sugarbutch ;o)

  44. Thought provoking website that resonates with some of my own feelings. I'd like 2 B included in your mailing list.

  45. Love your site. Love how you are writing about sex and gender. I would really like to be able to read the password protected posts, and be able to contribute my thoughts. Thanks for the fabulous Matt stories.

  46. Love your site, looking forward to hearing more from you!

  47. I was recommended your blog as exactly the thing that I am looking for…………they were right, please may I have a password

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