http://www.sugarbutch.net/2007/08/why-we-need-to-examine-our-lives/ The sex, gender, and relationship adventures of a kinky queer butch top Thu, 09 Feb 2012 16:09:45 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 http://www.sugarbutch.net/2007/08/why-we-need-to-examine-our-lives/comment-page-1/#comment-864 Joy Thu, 30 Aug 2007 13:00:00 +0000 http://www.sugarbutch.net/?p=315#comment-864 Mmm. I have a hard time with parts of this post because, being in a straight relationship, I sometimes forget that we, being my very-non-misogynistic boyfriend and I, are not what constitutes the hetero-normative paradigm to which you are referring. I see nothing wrong, personally, with a butch/femme couple reproducing the hetero pattern in which I live...but that pattern is very much free of the oppression and misogyny that seem to characterize the paradigm you're speaking of. I do not think it's necessary, or that they *should* do it...but I don't see it as wrong. Of course, on second thought, I think my perceptions of what "butch/femme reproducing the heteronormative" looks like are closer dealing with transsexual issues - the butch really genuinely wanting to assume the male *sex*, without the patriarchal attitudes.See Joy ramble. Mmm. I have a hard time with parts of this post because, being in a straight relationship, I sometimes forget that we, being my very-non-misogynistic boyfriend and I, are not what constitutes the hetero-normative paradigm to which you are referring. I see nothing wrong, personally, with a butch/femme couple reproducing the hetero pattern in which I live…but that pattern is very much free of the oppression and misogyny that seem to characterize the paradigm you're speaking of. I do not think it's necessary, or that they *should* do it…but I don't see it as wrong. Of course, on second thought, I think my perceptions of what "butch/femme reproducing the heteronormative" looks like are closer dealing with transsexual issues – the butch really genuinely wanting to assume the male *sex*, without the patriarchal attitudes.See Joy ramble.

]]> http://www.sugarbutch.net/2007/08/why-we-need-to-examine-our-lives/comment-page-1/#comment-863 Shannon Thu, 30 Aug 2007 12:29:00 +0000 http://www.sugarbutch.net/?p=315#comment-863 I think this conflict is about personal agency. People attempting to pull pertinent symbolic material into their self-narratives so that they can challenge a lot of the hegemonic symbolic material pushed on them. This is the function of blogs, which are nothing but specialized communities in which to articulate those alternative narratives. Sure, the images are conflicted and often at odds with one another, but opportunities exist for an agency beyond the hetero patriarchal agenda. The conversations are happening! Much like learning the theory once helped you, having these frank discussions may be the impetus needed to push us into the next phase. I think this conflict is about personal agency. People attempting to pull pertinent symbolic material into their self-narratives so that they can challenge a lot of the hegemonic symbolic material pushed on them. This is the function of blogs, which are nothing but specialized communities in which to articulate those alternative narratives. Sure, the images are conflicted and often at odds with one another, but opportunities exist for an agency beyond the hetero patriarchal agenda. The conversations are happening! Much like learning the theory once helped you, having these frank discussions may be the impetus needed to push us into the next phase.

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