top 10 things I love about being gay

August 22, 2007  |  essays
  1. There’s that whole fucking women thing. Yeah, I like that.

  2. It challenges all sorts of compulsory hegemonic systems and encourages new ways of acceptance, tolerance, living, and loving

  3. The community! We have such fighters, artists, activists, lovers – I love our arts and culture, our philosophies, our theories

  4. Drag kings, drag queens, and queer burlesque

  5. That we are a lineage of kisses; because we do not inheret our legacies through our blood-related families, we must claim our heritage through our desire, love, play, and kisses

  6. Getting over the “ick factor” – which is what I’d call a lesbian’s aversion to men (and masculinity) or a gay boy’s aversion to women (and femininity) – and creating alignments with all sorts of genders within the queer spectrum

  7. The synthesis of feminism, gender, and sexual revolution

  8. The brilliance and hilarity of our (mainstream) queer celebrities – Ellen, k.d., Harvey Feirstein, John Waters, George Michael, Jenny Shimitzu, Rosie – and our media – Better than Chocolate, But I’m a Cheerleader, Bound, Queer as Folk, Brokeback Mountain, Will & Grace … and dozens more. They really are forging through.

  9. The Pride Parade & Dyke March. Stonewall. Knowing where I come from. Honoring traditions, and making new ones

  10. I do have a great toaster oven from all those young’uns I’ve converted …

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6 Comments


  1. you can stop at #1 for me. not that the rest are unimportant. i can take or leave the rest, but i'll ALWAYS love making love to women.

  2. i <3 four and five. y'know i almost decided to audition for a burlesque company earlier this year? ;)

  3. em: glad you're on my side, too :)

  4. 1. We have our own (fabulous flags) and symbols

    2. Some of our theorists have broken barriers around for centuries (Feinberg, Bornstein, Bem, etc)

    3. We are more ok with using sex toys, which are AWESOME (sorry, still on my sex toy kick)

    4. We’re so powerful that they discuss usin political circles on a daily basis

    5. One word: Rainbows!

    6. Like the Jews, we always persevere against prosecution. I’m a Jewish queer…what does that mean?

    7. It’s trendy to be a vegetarian

    8. Many out celebrities are h-o-t.

    9. It’s quite empowering to be seen as subversive and challenging the gender and orientation binary

    10. Because there are people like you on my side ;) Awwwww….I am so cute (not)

  5. I feel like #5 is waiting to become a kick-ass poem. y’know:

    we are a lineage of kisses;
    we do not inheret our legacies
    through our blood we must claim our heritage
    through our desire

    or something.

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