new rules for being me

dear self,

it’s okay to be scared. it’s okay to be a little mad at me, but don’t be too hard on me please. this wasn’t planned, this isn’t the end of the world, it matters more how you deal with this sticky awful complex situation than whether or not you could/would have avoided it all together.

this is an opportunity for growth, for change, for fixing something that isn’t working. these are growing pains. this is hard, and that’s okay.

these are the new rules:

  1. be honest. especially to yourself.
  2. be daring. jump into the unknown confidently and trust there will be something there to break the fall. the moment you step off is the moment you touch down.
  3. be kind. think and think and think before saying or doing things that will hurt other people’s feelings, and try to do the kindest thing, if possible. treat these beautiful women (and everybody) with respect, because they deserve that.
  4. have courage. you are strong. worthy. worthwhile. try to remember that.

Published by Sinclair Sexsmith

Sinclair Sexsmith is "the best-known butch erotica writer whose kinky, groundbreaking stories have turned on countless queer women" (AfterEllen), who "is in all the books, wins all the awards, speaks at all the panels and readings, knows all the stuff, and writes for all the places" (Autostraddle). ‚ÄčTheir short story collection, Sweet & Rough: Queer Kink Erotica, was a 2016 finalist for the Lambda Literary Award. They identify as a white non-binary butch dominant, a survivor, and an introvert, and use the pronouns they, them, theirs, themself. Follow all their personal writings and all the updates through patreon.com/mrsexsmith.

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